My success after first ivf

Emily771

hi everybody!

i'd like to share my story with you.

as most of you here i had some problems with my fertility. due to my health condition  i couldn't get preagnant by myself. my hubby is completely healthy man. i've done several iui but with no success and then my RE told me that i might have the problems with my eggs. my ovaries produce bad eggs so if i want to have baby i may try the ivf with donated eggs. it scared me at first but then i realised that baby is what i want most of all in my life. so i decided not to waste time ...i've dome it and now i have beautiful baby.

so girls i can say that it is worth of it

keziah23

I like hearing the success personally. Congratulations Emily. 

pblge

I'm with @IFinTN. Going onto an infertility forum where you've never posted in the past (she's only been a member since yesterday) to brag about your success is outrageously rude and insensitive.

Km672

Umm yeah, I've done a fresh DE and a FET with DE and all I got was a chemical pregnancy. So it hasn't been 'worth it' for me. Please share your story on SAIF. Your success does not give me hope, it only makes me feel like more of a failure.

keziah23

Why not just ignore the post then? Your siggy says "everyone always welcome", We don't know her story. Maybe its perceived as insensitive to post about success but did you consider that maybe she was just trying to share a little hope because she's been in a place where there was none? I don't get the bitterness, I really don't, I know that its just a personality thing and that everyone is different but I'm HAPPY for people who have success, truly.  I've gotten some great support on this board but I've also had to wade through a lot of negativity, I think the last thing we need is more negativity when going through all of this crap.   So maybe just do as my mother always said "if you can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all". 

Mrs.McIrish

I agree that it is completely inappropriate to post this success on this board. It's a drive-by which has never been acceptable. Great that the poster gets to declare it was all worth it but I've done 7 IVFs, 3 with donor eggs. 2 back to back miscarriages. It hasn't been worth it for me. It's been the absolute worst time in my life. We don't know this person so I could care less that it worked for her. I have enough pain dealing with regular pregnant people--IFers should know better than to come here waving their baby around. I had the equivalent of a D&C last night in the ER without pain medicine. I'm in no mood for strangers flaunting their baby around claiming DE is the answer when it's failed for me 3 times.

anitaflora

So many hugs @Mrs.McIrish and anyone else hurt by this. I am new to this board but even I think it's not appropriate.

ExoticAntibiotic

keziah23 said:

We don't know her story.

I'm new here so I'm sorry for jumping in like this, but... Isn't that the point? No one knows her or her story. There are no details given other than "this is what worked for me." I can't take any hope or advice from that because I don't know if her story is in any way similar to mine. So it is just a form of bragging because there is nothing educational in her post.

keziah23

I'm sorry for all the pain everyone has been through, I truly am. Infertility is incredibly painful.  I stand by my opinion, and have every right to do so, that unkindness, even if you don't know the person is uncalled for even online.  

To me this, and other similar exchanges here, came off as bullying and as someone who was bullied I know how hurtful an offhand comment can be. So maybe there was hurt on both sides of this, she inadvertently hurt you and you lashed in response.  

I'm obviously in the minority here and I'll get down off my soapbox.  

poohniki

In order to be true bullying there needs to be a power differential (Olweus's definition; accepted by multiple sources as the true definition of bullying)

We are the ones without a baby, not sure if we ever will have a baby. Clearly the power sways to the person who does have a baby. I agree @Keziah23 that the bullying needs to end, but it is the OP coming in here with her story is the bully.

BankerBSN

keziah23 said:

I'm sorry for all the pain everyone has been through, I truly am. Infertility is incredibly painful.  I stand by my opinion, and have every right to do so, that unkindness, even if you don't know the person is uncalled for even online.  

To me this, and other similar exchanges here, came off as bullying and as someone who was bullied I know how hurtful an offhand comment can be. So maybe there was hurt on both sides of this, she inadvertently hurt you and you lashed in response.  

I'm obviously in the minority here and I'll get down off my soapbox.  

You mean women dealing with IF asking the poster to please not post this bullshit on this board is bullying?!  You have to be fucking kidding me.

Your posts are worse then OP's.

Emily771

keziah23 said:

I like hearing the success personally. Congratulations Emily. 

Thanx, dear!

Emily771

IFinTN said:

While I am happy you had success, we don't really *know* you at all.  We've built a community and we certainly celebrate success but.....when you are new, talking about your success in a thread like this can rub some of us the wrong way.  

Please look for threads started by posters that have PAIF/SAIF or ALL welcome and add your advice and wisdom on donor eggs where you can though!

i was in the same situation as you!i didn't want to hurt someone here!just encourage that there is always a way out!!

Emily771

keziah23 said:

Why not just ignore the post then? Your siggy says "everyone always welcome", We don't know her story. Maybe its perceived as insensitive to post about success but did you consider that maybe she was just trying to share a little hope because she's been in a place where there was none? I don't get the bitterness, I really don't, I know that its just a personality thing and that everyone is different but I'm HAPPY for people who have success, truly.  I've gotten some great support on this board but I've also had to wade through a lot of negativity, I think the last thing we need is more negativity when going through all of this crap.   So maybe just do as my mother always said "if you can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all". 

thanx for support!it seems to me that only you understood what i've tried to say!

ExoticAntibiotic

Emily771 said:

keziah23 said:

Why not just ignore the post then? Your siggy says "everyone always welcome", We don't know her story. Maybe its perceived as insensitive to post about success but did you consider that maybe she was just trying to share a little hope because she's been in a place where there was none? I don't get the bitterness, I really don't, I know that its just a personality thing and that everyone is different but I'm HAPPY for people who have success, truly.  I've gotten some great support on this board but I've also had to wade through a lot of negativity, I think the last thing we need is more negativity when going through all of this crap.   So maybe just do as my mother always said "if you can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all". 

thanx for support!it seems to me that only you understood what i've tried to say!

I understand what you're saying: you need attention and figured that you'd come get some from an infertility message board. Please leave and quit bumping this thread if you fancy yourself a good person. If you're real, then you went through heartache and understand how seeing titles like these hurt on bad days.