IVF cycle update

lucky7wife

Sorry I was MIA last week - I had a wicked cold (thank you daughter) and since I was stimming the doc said I couldn't take anything for it except Tylenol, so I was down for the count for at least three days.  Ugh - very rough.  Reading thru everything to catch up with you all....

We did an extra two days of stim meds at the max dose to try to get as many eggs matured as possible.  It broke our bank account (all out of pocket), but the results were good.  At yesterdays ER, we had 8 retrieved eggs, and 7 were mature, 5 fertilized.  They are having us do a day 5 transfer, so I'm keeping my fingers crossed for Friday, and hoping all 5 make it so we can transfer two and freeze three. Oh, Please!

In the meantime, after getting the report on the fertilization this morning, my Hubby decided to start stressing out.  He said he has been stressed out about this cycle, but trying to hide it.  He's worried if I take our daughter to swim class tonight the chlorine will ruin our chances (?), that this cycle won't work, that we won't have much left for frozen cycles, etc, etc.  I think it is all mostly money related but I'm not sure how to calm him down so I don't start freaking out.  I can't imagine stress and worry are good for implantation.   Any thoughts from those who have been there before?

lcloffredo

Sorry that I have no advice but wanted to let you know I'll keep my fingers crossed for your little embryos! And sometimes we really gotta give these guys credit, they all probably hide it more than we realize.

KC1212

I would ditch the swim class. I wouldn't throw thousands of dollars down the hole for that. Make DH take her (since he's the one freaking out over it) and you rest.

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Jen071407

I'd skip swim, too. I'm going to live in a bubble during our cycle. Good luck with the transfer!

CheesyPeas

Glad to hear everything is looking great so far!  DH's concerns seem a bit silly but I think it's sweet that he is hyperconcerned.  I vote you should have him take your daughter to swim class so that he doesn't have to wonder about the what-ifs if the news from this cycle is not good.  I think guys stress out about not being able to do a whole lot or control stuff related to pregnancy and TTC, so if he can make some decisions that help his psyche, I think it's worth it.  Even if it is a little silly.

pettycrocker

It's up to you if you want to skip it, I wouldn't skip it, and I'm sure the Drs would tell you it's not necessary, but if it will make you and your H feel more comfortable then go for it. 

I've done 2 IVF cycles, and each time I am sure, if it is going to work, if it is SUPPOSED to work, it will work, and what you do makes no difference. I know that's a hard pill to swallow if it doesn't work, but I'm not gonna sit there and drive myself nuts with all the "what if I didn't do this , or did do this instead" 

Good luck! 

Jeffreysmom24

I don't have any experience with IVF but it sounds like Mrs C and others have given you good advice. Just wanted to say good luck! I can only imagine how stressful it must be for both of you! I hope everything goes well!!

lucky7wife

Thanks ladies.  I'm definitely in the "it will work when it is supposed to work" camp.  I went to the gym this morning for my usual bootcamp afterall.  :0)

The swim thing is just an example of his anxiety today. Likely he will take our daughter, just so he doesn't have to worry about it.  I know he shoulders a lot of stress, worry, anxiety and hope in this process and tries so hard not to show it or share it.  It's easy to forget their plight in it all when ours is so obvious with meds, procedures, etc. 

I know much of the stress just comes from finances.  This "package" of cycles we bought has already stretched us to the limit, and the out of pocket meds and anesthesia just put it over the top this month.  We budgeted based on our last cycle and then they upped all my dosages and extended the timeline, which meant much more $.  I thankfully had some donated meds, but it was still thousands more than last time.  Ugh.  If this cycle doesn't work, we have one purchased frozen cycle left, and then I'm not sure what will happen.  

Thinking positive thoughts!

freakyfast

I would skip it just if to make him feel better, and yourself, just so you don't have any what ifs?

Momarazzi007

I think- if it were us on a cycle- I'd do a special movie night and explain to dd you're still recovering but a family night is doable. Of course that depends on her age. When my EH is that stressed I try and mitigate it bc I get stressed and I really think stress effects you. I agree w freakyfast- for me I'd beat myself up on the what ifs.