Really?

jennkg3

So h and I split up about a week and a half ago he's an alcoholic, possible drug addict, and overall ahole. I'm a sahm. Anyhow texts me today and says we need to get the house up for sale. First of all we have had it for two years soooo we will lose money. Then says I need to stay somewhere else and he's getting an apt. Wait so we will have three living expenses?? Well that makes perfect sense. I told him I don't have a job yet so if he wants he can get the three of us an apartment he can move into the house and get it ready to sell. He says that's not his probelm He will sell the house as is and I can move in with my parents. Sorry dude it is your problem! I just can't even deal with people so irrational. He's so much drama.

MinnesotaMomma91

Sorry your having so many problems.

If i were you id just move back in with your family until you get a job andcan afford your own place. Let your ex be an idiot and pay for two living expenses. Im sorry hes causing you unnecissary stress and drama. Try not to worry about him and just focus on you and your kids

jennkg3

I know I need to stop letting him irritate me. He doesn't want to be here hasn't asked I think he's just being pita.

MinnesotaMomma91

Hes probably being a pita to get a rise out of you. I know its hard but be the bigger person.

The best advice my dads given me throught my divorce and my single momma drama was this. "Move on with your life and be happy because that is the best revenge you can get"

20thirteen

That is the best revenge. This is also why I don't ask of anything from my BD, even if he asks me if I need anything. I put on a smile and say "nope, don't need a thing." Even if that's a lie.

MinnesotaMomma91

Im with roxalot. Dont depend on him for anything. At this point id say dont even depend on him to be a dad

jellybean529

Is the house solely in his name? I'm not sure he could even up and sell it out from under you without your consent!

Gamera3000

When my xh and I split up 2-3 years ago we looked into selling our house. Best case scenario we would have had to PAY 10k to get out of it. That or just let the bank take it and wait 7 years for to come off of xh's credit. The mortgages are in his name only and the deed is in both of our names.

Sounds like your ex hasn't looked into what's really going to happen. His best bet is to live in the house alone and fix it up to lose less money.

I agree you should try to move in with relatives until you get a game plan. Try to remove yourself from his insanity the best you can.

jennkg3

He isn't saying here and for now is paying everything so until something changes which of course it will I'm not doing anything and no he can't sell the house from under me

blueyedsweety28

I wouldn't stay in the house for too long .. it might end up creating more drama down the road .. the more you distance yourself from his bullshit, the better off you will be ..