KILL. So effing mad (a mil rager)

nesenotes

So I just picked up Emery from MIL's house and she gave emery bangs. Well she claims it was my GMIL not her but I don't believe her. It's not a full bang but bangs none the less. I'm so mad I want to cry. All I could do was just stare in silence. I had to stuff all the rage I wanted to act out on. MH'S grandma is the apple of his eye. So I can't just lay into her like I could with MIL.

I already had a fight with MH last night when mil had a weird list of demands for when I brought her. He claimed I was being too sensitive because she wanted me to pack an extra outfit and jacket. I tried explaining it's not the clothes, she undermines my parenting. All.the.time. so anyway he blew me off and I didn't want to take her out of spite, but I talked myself into it thinking maybe I was being too sensitive. Nope. I was fucking right.

I want to stab someone in the face right now. All I could muster was she looks weird with bangs. I'm so so mad. Andplusalso this would be her first hair cut and I'm not counting it. Argh!

britbratjf

Seriously? WTH is wrong with your MIL??

nesenotes

He was real quiet in the car. He just gave me a hug and said sorry he knows what I mean now. I just feel stuck. Like who does that? Who takes it that far? I just want to cry. At least hair grows.

bumpuser1509193

O.M.G. I would be devastated! There's no way in hell she would be left alone in the same room as my kid after that.
I'm so sorry your in-laws are such twats.
I'm sure Emery is as cute as ever

nesenotes

I think she thinks she was doing emery a favor because it drives everyone BSC that her hair gets in her eyes. I clip it up but her hair is stick straight and grows forward. Obviously of I wanted her to have bangs I would have given her bangs. We have this battle of the wills over socks too.

GMIL said it was just a few strands and didn't think I would notice
~X( X(

Boing214

Like everyone else said, I would be pissed! Hope YH can talk to her and tell her how inappropriate and horrible it was. I wouldn't count it either.

SallySunrise

Oh. My. God. I have no words.

Not even a little bit ok. NOT. O. K.

OMG. I can't even.

nesenotes

Thanks everyone. Thank you for making me feel like I'm not a batty lunatic for wanting to murder someone over bangs. MH said he would talk to them both because honestly if I do it it's going to be ww3. I also told him I need a long break from her. So we need to hire a sitter from here on out. He understands and is on board. So at the very least he's on my side. It's just sinking in to him that they had the balls to cut her hair.

pinkangelmoon

Ugh sorry, that sucks! I've been there. My mom cut Liam's hair for the first time without my permission. I kept mentioning how he needed a haircut and well I guess she thought she was doing me a favor and cut a few stray hairs. She also didn't think I would notice. I was more sad than mad but DH was furious. She knows better now and she doesn't dare touch Emma's hair. [-X

zyas

Seriously that is so terrible that she did that. I would be livid if anyone cut Ava's hair. You have every right to be pissed.

ashleynaka

Oh @nesenotes! I cannot believe she had the cajones to do such a thing! I would be furious and make my H talk to her ASAP and lay in hard!!!! Sorry this happened and glad to hear your H is on board with how you feel.

Pleione

Yikes. You're right to put it in perspective though, hair does grow back. But I'd still have a firm chat with all of them and not let them be alone with Emery for a while until you are confident they won't undermine your parenting again.

aylafsu88

I would be furious! I am glad your H understands that you need some space from them.

hokiemama06

Words do not even express how ridiculous they are.  They must be really insecure women to think they need to go behind such an awesome mom who clearly does such great job with her beautiful little girl.  

I don't leave T alone with my mom for lesser reasons, so I can't say I blame you.  

christieep

I would be on fire.  You are totally justified in your anger, and I am glad your DH sees that this is way out of line too.

punkyshoester

Christ on a bike, I would lose my shit. Maybe this will prompt your H to address these issues with his mom. Otherwise, I would have a serious conversation with her. I don't think there is anything wrong with you calmly and rationally saying "I have a serious problem with the fact that you cut her hair".

I'm sorry, Nese. It's just shitty.

tiredmomsclub

Wow! Sooo NOT ok. I'm so sorry, I would be mad too.

StokedWifey

How are y'all responding to this with clear thoughts?  I'm sitting here shocked with my mouth wide open and all I can think of is how to get revenge.  OMG.  That is not okay.  I'm so glad your husband is on your side.  Wow.  Just wow.

lewispm

Oh I would be LIVID! Even totally ignoring the fact that you didn't want her to have bangs, the fact that it is her first haircut and they took the liberty to do it without your permission gives you every right to be absolutely insanely angry. That would be it for me. No more staying with the IL's. I know that's way easier said than done especially when YH is not exactly siding with you (I'm in the same boat with MH and IL's a lot), but they have crossed a line that can't just be uncrossed. You need to set some boundaries ASAP and if that means they don't get to see Emery as much, so be it.

That is just so out of line. You make my MIL seem like a saint, and I would never have imagined that was even possible. Seriously?? I can't even....

Just hugs!! I hate that for you so much

sarahandeddiejune212008

As a mom who just took her 3yr old for her first haircut I am both sad and furious for you. A first haircut, especially for a girl, is a big deal. I am so sad she took that experience from you, although I wouldn't count this either.

And she crossed a line. I would not let her see lo at all for a very, very long time. After that is would be strictly supervised.

My sister used to jokingly say she was going to take DD#1 for a haircut. I told her she'd never see her niece again if she did. Thankfully she was just joking, but I also understand how annoying it is that someone would force their parenting beliefs on your child.

lada85

You have every right tone fuming mad at her. I think you need to have a talk with her. That's just not right.

snickersforeveryone

That is horrible! I know Emery can rock any look, but they had to know you would notice and be upset. And they did it anyway???? SMH. So impressed that you didn't kill them both. Has your husband said anything to them?

JAck5209

Over the line! So sorry that you have to deal with a crazy MIL. Like we don't all have enough on our plates!