Husband help!!

aseaman12

Just curious, how much does your husband help out with the baby and around the house?

aundrea1225

Rarely since I'm a SAHM. He will help when I ask, and likes to rock her to sleep for nap time. That's about it.

katieh704

My SO is a pretty big help. He works nights so he gets home around 2-3 am so he is mainly a help during the day. LO has been sleeping through the night almost every night but if he ever wakes up SO still offers to get up if I want to keep sleeping. As for house work I try to stay on top of it but if I'm out during the day sometimes I will come home and he will have cleaned up. Although I will say he has made the stupid "what do you do all night while I'm at work" comment once (not in a mean way) and I wanted to punch him! Needless to say he hasn't asked that again haha

ETA: that became more of a novel than I planned oops!

playball13

We split pretty much everything.

littled2013

He does most of the housework and cooking and I handle most of the baby stuff since I EBF.

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peitri

Lots. We're both still out on maternity/paternity leave. I'd say 50/50.

thebobloblaw

Chillpr said:

superspecialsnowflake said:

More importantly, OP, how much does yours?

I feel like this poster always asks questions that we've already had lengthy threads about and never comments or gives any contexts to their posts.....

Yep. And exactly what does she want help! with? Every family splits responsibility different so what works for one won't work for another IMO.

mhwood

Currently, I'm a SAHM.

During the week, I'm home with her during the day but as soon as he gets home, he takes over her care and I make dinner. So, I guess 70/30 with me doing more.

During the weekends, we are both home, he does the majority of the care. 70/30 with him doing more.

As far as taking care of the house goes, it's completely 50/50, unchanged from before our daughter was born.

TXmamatobe

Tons. I couldn't have done it without him - sounds lame but it's true.

FutureMrsCaesar

I do most of the light housework, grocery shopping, cooking and laundry. We have cleaning ladies that come and do more in depth cleaning, so basically dh doesn't clean. He puts his own laundry away and unloads the dishwasher sometimes, but that's about it. I wish he did a little more but the cleaning ladies have helped me out a ton.
He's very helpful with the kids. There's not s lot he can do with Benjamin since I have to nurse him so frequently, but he's a big help with the other two. And I feel 100% comfortable leaving him with all 3 kids if I want to go do something.
Fwiw I am a sahm but having 3 kids not in school yet doesn't leave a lot of time for deep cleaning and other chores, so I don't give dh an out for helping out based on the fact that I'm a sahm.

tyedyeme12

I don't know... I'm thinking it's 50/50, but I think there are some days it's 75/25--with him taking majority. We have a weird work schedule too, though.

jy725

DH cooks and takes out the trash, cleaning is 50/50 and baby care is 75me/25dh.

n8swife

My husband is awesome. I'm at SAHM but once he gets home from work, he takes over helping with DS1. He helps make dinner, gives DS1 his bath, gets him to bed and cleans up around the house after bedtime. I seriously don't know how I'd get everything done without him.

DS2 is EBF so my DH doesn't help with him during the night but DS1 still doesn't sleep through the night so he helps with him.

swirl25

I am a SAHM, but my H helps out a lot with both kids. I EBF, so I am primarily getting up with LO at night, but he is on DD1 duty overnight -- if she ever wakes up at night (which had been happening more frequently as she got adjusted to the new baby), he will handle getting her back to sleep. He does the bedtime routine with her most nights too. He also likes to give LO a bottle of pumped milk so he can have that bonding time with her as well. We also tackle cleanup after dinner and chores like that together so we get through it faster.

notkateanymore

A ton. I'm very lucky. He changes diapers, feeds him, has a huge penis AND rotates middle of the night feedings. He's currently rocking him to sleep.

Ark2013

KateMW said:

A ton. I'm very lucky. He changes diapers, feeds him, has a huge penis AND rotates middle of the night feedings. He's currently rocking him to sleep.

Omg. I can't tell you how many times I read this to make sure my eyes weren't playing tricks on me. Lol. Awesome.

onewayticket

Zero. Maybe 1% but his parents help a lot.

onewayticket

I'm jealous of PPs. He works 80ish hours a week as a first year intern in internal medicine so he just has no time to help.

ETA: did I mention I work full time and am the primary bread winner?

notkateanymore

onewayticket said:

I'm jealous of PPs. He works 80ish hours a week as a first year intern in internal medicine so he just has no time to help.

I get that he's at the hospital, but there are a lot of husband who work similar hours, travel, deployed, etc. and help as much as they can. If it bothers you, you should talk to him. Working really isn't an excuse not to parent.

onewayticket

KateMW said:

onewayticket said:

I'm jealous of PPs. He works 80ish hours a week as a first year intern in internal medicine so he just has no time to help.

I get that he's at the hospital, but there are a lot of husband who work similar hours, travel, deployed, etc. and help as much as they can. If it bothers you, you should talk to him. Working really isn't an excuse not to parent.

Well I agree, but he gets home after LO is asleep and leaves before he gets up. The only thing DH could really do differently is clean more/ bring dinner home. I don't know how much more parenting he can do until his schedule gets better next year.

I EBF so get all the nighttime feedings.

cammyisagirlsname

I seriously wouldn't be able to do this without the help of my husband. He works 4-midnight 4 x a week. I love his shift. I get my hour long showers every morning, H changes diapers, gives LO his second overnight feeding every night, does all the groceries and cooking!

clhathaway

I do pretty much everything. And I'm going back to work tomorrow. I do have to say he does mechanic work on weekends so we have extra cash to blow. It's not unusual for him to work 7am-3am on a Saturday when he could choose to sit on the couch all day. Although, it'd be nice if he would take the trash out or pick his dirty clothes up off the floor. That being said, I've learned to make it work because he doesn't understand how taking care of LO is so time consuming.

kbart82

I would say 50/50. I try to get things done during the day but it doesn't always work. If he gets home and the dishes are still in the sink he unload and loads the dishwasher w/o me asking. When he gets home from work he takes over diaper changes and tries to spend as much time with lo as he can. It's hard for him on the week days to get quality time w our son b/c an hour or so after being home our LO likes to cluster feed b4 bed.
I handle all night feedings b/c I Ebf and I'm still on maternity leave. I don't mind.
On the weekends he is fantastic. There is no way I could ever do this w/o him.

cammyisagirlsname

Cashingn2 said:

jenniferbromley said:

I seriously wouldn't be able to do this without the help of my husband. He works 4-midnight 4 x a week. I love his shift. I get my hour long showers every morning, H changes diapers, gives LO his second overnight feeding every night, does all the groceries and cooking!

I would suffocate if I hung out in the shower for an hour.

I love long showers. I'm not actually in there for an hour but my entire shower process is an hour because I blow my hair out.

macadamia03

It's like 90/10 or 95/5. He works 10 hour days and goes to school too. So he will swaddle and hold LO while I cook or while I'm bath in big brother. He really helps out more with our two year old. He gets up with him on the weekends. He puts him to bed every time he get up after bedtime. He gets down on the floor and plays with him while I cook. So while he doesn't do much the things he does do are very helpful.

KFED103

jenniferbromley said:

Cashingn2 said:

jenniferbromley said:

I seriously wouldn't be able to do this without the help of my husband. He works 4-midnight 4 x a week. I love his shift. I get my hour long showers every morning, H changes diapers, gives LO his second overnight feeding every night, does all the groceries and cooking!

I would suffocate if I hung out in the shower for an hour.

I love long showers. I'm not actually in there for an hour but my entire shower process is an hour because I blow my hair out.

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Ha. I was going to say...I hope you're on well water. Hate to see that water bill

KFED103

superspecialsnowflake said:

More importantly, OP, how much does yours?

I came back to this post because I bet myself that OP never came back(as usual)....I WIN!!!