Intimacy Issues

missjean81302

LO is 4 months old and I still have not gotten back my sex drive.

 Its taking a toll on hubby and I dont know what to do.

Ive heard of ppl just "making themselves" do it cuz hubby has needs but idk, i just cant get myself mentally to go there. Plus he picks some bad times to initiate (when LO is awake, when I'm in dire need of a shower, etc) Anyone else have this problem? 

Also, this is a little deeper and probably wierd, but now that I have a son, I find oral sex to be kind of disturbing now (on the guy). Am I nuts?

PB102012

I have never had a huge sex drive and it's worse now that we have LO. Like pp said, wine helps.

VegasGal1978

I am in the same boat. Hubby tries to understand, but it's hard on him. Especially since we were so active through TTC and pregnancy. Make sure you are communicating with him. I agree with what a PP said on not focusing on what he's doing wrong. It's a good idea to try to stay intimate in other ways. Snuggle, kissing, maybe even making out. Hang in there.

MammaWolf7

Same here. Something we try to do is if LO is sleeping for the night or taking a nap, we will shower together. This way you get to shower and there is some intimacy.

platypusbaby

Lube. Lube. Lube. Everything feels better with lube.

mommabmb

I am 5mo pp, and I still struggle with this. I will say that every night H and I schedule time together just to talk just the two of us (9-10pm) and since we have done that we DTD twice as much without trying. I felt so distant from him that I think setting aside time to get close again did the trick.

I also agree with wine. And lube. Lots of lube.

TashnBabii

I think it's normal. I have no desire to have intimacy with my husband. In fact, that's the last thing I want to do. I work ft, come home to a 4 month old, wake up for nightly feedings & I'm exhausted. I've also heard that you just got to do it.. Like make yoursf. Not too sure though. Good luck!