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Mel5983

My goodness, I am jealous of all your sleepers! Lol. My LO goes down around 7:30-8:00 & has been waking up around midnight to feed & play until 2:00 or 3:00. Then he's wide awake at 7:00-8:-00. I put him down (more like force him down for nap) at 12:00 pm and IF I am lucky (IF), he sleeps for an hour. 

He is beyond exhausted, as am I,, by 5 or 6:00 & I still have to do homework with my 9 year old. LOL 

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PS. I do have a husband that could be helping & that would take a HUGE load off ! Some days I want to kill him when I hear him snoring in the other room. 

HELP me with some suggestions as to what to say & how! Because I am close to leaving but I really do loce my hus

shannm

theresat858 said:

First, your 9 year old should be able to do his or her own homework. It's not YOUR homework. If your child is having trouble completing homework on his or her own, then you should seek help for that child - a tutor or special attention at school or something. Though if you've been doing your kids homework for the past 4 years, it is going to take him some time to learn how to do things on his own.

For someone who only has a toddler, this is a pretty judgmental opinion.  I think it is great that she is involved with her 9 year old's education.  I anticipate being involved too but it won't be because my kids are unable to do it on their own.

As for the sleeping through the night, habits are hard to break for LO.  I would stop feeding him and absolutely stop playing with him.  I had a coworker tell me last week that when her toddler asks to play in the middle of the night that she takes him to the play room so he doesn't wake everyone else.  :-/

It is not a popular opinion but it may involve a little crying it out.  If it were me, I would go in when he wakes, softly remind him that it is night-night time, keep the lights off, pick him up and sway with him for a few minutes and then put him back down.  He may cry.  I would let him to it for a few minutes and then repeat.  Eventually he will learn that he needs to put himself back to sleep when he wakes.  I found Dr. Ferber's book very helpful understanding sleep patterns and this concept.

Good luck.

SusanC111

I think I need more info, but going by the info you have given, I would say he needs to go to bed earlier and you need to cut out the MOTN feeding. My 15 month old goes to bed at 630. Earlier if he had bad naps. Yes, it's not the most ideal for dinner time, but it won't be forever. He sleeps 12+ hours and takes 2 decent naps, so I deal with the early bedtime.

Aurora_Borealis

I agree with PP to try an earlier bedtime. It sounds counter-intuitive, but your child may be having problems sleeping due to being overtired. Also, try doing nap time before noon. I'm not sure how old your LO is, but DD needed to go down for nap well before noon until she was 20 months old.

emberlee3

I would try napping earlier. At daycare, DD usually doesn't start her nap until 12:45 and might only sleep for 90 minutes. I put her down before 12 at home and she usually naps for 3 hours. She sleeps 10.5 hours at night 7:30 to 6:00.

Also move bedtime earlier and try some kind of sleep training for MOTN waking. Not necessarily CIO, there are gentle techniques, if you prefer.