This Sunday we are going to have a birthday lunch for DH's nephew, who will be turning 12 this month. The situation is that his girlfriend was invited, and is planning to attend (the request was made from DH's mother of all people). We have never seen this girl although they have been an item for over a year now. Here comes the back story and what makes it awkward:
A few weeks before Christmas, his girlfriend broke up with him. We were all until we found out why. Apparently he had been pressuring her to have sex with him! To top it all off, he said that he would kill himself if she broke up with him. She said no and broke up with him, but lucky for us he's a wuss and didn't try to hurt himself. DH and I were floored by this, and are certainly surprised that they are still together with both sets of parents knowing what went on.
So thanks to Grandma, who has no knowledge of the above, DH and I feel that this is a bad situation to be in. We haven't seen the nephew since the incident, and prefer to have as little contact with him for fear that we'll actually tell him what we're thinking. I don't plan on telling my MIL of the situation because it's not my place to do so. The only thing I could of to diffuse the situation, is to ask that his younger brother bring a friend to the lunch as well. Which is ironic considering we do birthdays for the kids this way so we actually have family time spent with the kids instead of going to their friend party and not getting to say more than "Hi" to them. What would you do?
Oh and as a bonus, I had planned to present MIL with a special gift to honor her mother that passed away a year ago this month. Now I feel that I can't do this in front an "outsider". Not saying anything against the girlfriend, the rest of us just don't know. I would rather meet her in a different setting.
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