Who here has gotten preggo from the pull out method?

michellerenee1987

How effective is it? Hubby and I have been using this method for a while now. Hubby doesn't want another baby yet! I want another baby but secretly hoping this method doesn't work and I fall pregnant. Now before u judge me hubby does want another baby just. It quite yet so if it did happen he would be happy.

TheTrunchbull

This is going to go well for you. 

TheTrunchbull

::sigh::. Let's go back to middle school here. The only 100% effective method of birth control is absitnence. And based on your s/n I'm assuming you're 26, not an unmarried teenager. So yes, the pull out method CAN work. But no, it's not effective. The only way you're going to really know what's going on with your body is to educate yourself. Read up on Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Start temping and use that to avoid your fertile window. 

And for the love of all that's unholy, DO NOT TRICK YOUR HUSBAND INTO GETTING PREGNANT. 

divinemsbee

H and I used withdrawal along with occasional condoms for 3.5 years and I didn't get pregnant. It wouldn't have been the end of the world if I was, but we were also very careful about using it. I got pregnant the first time about 7 months after he stopped pulling out and we started trying in earnest. The key words there are 'we started trying'. We. Together. Made a decision to try to have a baby. I think it's a method that works if you're willing to put the work in on it keeping track of fertile periods and him being able to control himself. However, I think hoping for an oopsie is kind of awful. I think that if your husband is not ready, but has said he will want another kid, then you wait and have this discussion at a later date. Because you'll just get (unjustifiably) more and more frustrated as long as you aren't pregnant. And if you do oops, then he's going to start the whole pregnancy journey off feeling deceived. And why do that?

michellerenee1987

TheTrunchbull said:

This is going to go well for you. 

What do u mean?

michellerenee1987

I'm not trying to trick him! I would never do that! But if for some reason pulling out doesn't work out and we happened to get pregnant I would be happy! I don't think there's anything wrong with that.!

TheTrunchbull

Do you really think that bringing a child into your world/life/home is the best idea if you're not on the same page? If you're going to do this method, you've got to figure out how your body works and know when do avoid having sex. Period. 

michellerenee1987

TheTrunchbull said:

::sigh::. Let's go back to middle school here. The only 100% effective method of birth control is absitnence. And based on your s/n I'm assuming you're 26, not an unmarried teenager. So yes, the pull out method CAN work. But no, it's not effective. The only way you're going to really know what's going on with your body is to educate yourself. Read up on Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Start temping and use that to avoid your fertile window. 

And for the love of all that's unholy, DO NOT TRICK YOUR HUSBAND INTO GETTING PREGNANT. 

Yes I'm married 26 and I have a child already with my husband who was not a trick but a planned child. And I would never trick him! I couldn't do that but if for some reason oh fail to prevent pregnancy I would be happy! And I don't think there's anything wrong with that
So plz don't judge me

michellerenee1987

Was just looking for support from someone sorry my bad

michellerenee1987

wickedsugar said:

michellerenee1987 said:

I'm not trying to trick him! I would never do that! But if for some reason pulling out doesn't work out and we happened to get pregnant I would be happy! I don't think there's anything wrong with that.!

michellerenee1987 said:

Was just looking for support from someone sorry my bad

What kind of support are you looking for exactly ?? Someone else that got Pg when their H wasn't ready ?You may be happy if you get Pg, but how would your husband feel ?! That's the big question.

Not being judge and being told I'm tricking my husband that kind of support. All u ladies could do is answer my question yes if it's likely or not, if it happened to u or not est....... I don't need anyone giving
Me a hard time cuz I want a baby and my husband isn't quite ready. Sometimes men don't think their ready cuz their uncertain and as much as I've has the baby talk over and over again with my husband he still has his doubts like sex and not being about to do thing anymore especially with a second child. Where I'm at is trying to show him it will
Be okay while hoping maybe if a pregnancy hair accidentally happened that he'll be quite happy. I'm not a evil wife trying to trap my husband. So plz don't give me ur judgement responses

NerdyLucy

No. Way.

TheTrunchbull

WTF is going on in this thread? I'm fairly new here, but does this screwed up ordering happen often?

bugandbibs

TheTrunchbull said:

WTF is going on in this thread? I'm fairly new here, but does this screwed up ordering happen often?

It's because the OP created the thread as a question not a regular post.

MrsRustyGriswold

This question/answer out of order shit is for the birds.  

Oh, and use reliable BC until you are both ready.

Jags8

Well to be fair, it's not really "tricking" her husband if he also knows their only form of "birth control" is pulling out. He can't be so dumb as to not realize they could still get pregnant using that method. It would be tricking him if she said she was taking the pill but not actually doing so.

But anyway, OP if your H isn't ready, you need to both decide on a more reliable method of birth control.

NickaDee07

You should also know that even though you pull out at the time of his big O.. He's still secreting a little something during intercourse that can surely get you KO.. I'm just assuming you didn't know that either.

SmileyJay

Before actively ttc we were using fertility awareness. We had unprotected sex throughout the month but used pull out/condoms during my fertile window. I say pull out/condoms because he would usually pull out and then put on one. Sorry for tmi. But we both really wanted to get pregnant, but waiting a few months for not very important reasons... but I made sure he knew the risks of pull out and we decided together it works for us.  

The main things that make pull out less effective is if your husband has not peed since the last time you had sex so there are still live sperm in his pre-ejaculate. There is still a chance some could be in there anyways but this is the main cause. We don't do it like rabbits over here so that was never an issue. Other problem is him not having much self control or if he ever ejaculates prematurely. Also never an issue here. I didn't get pregnant and we are now ttc. 

In your situation, I would just let your husband know that you are ready for a baby but supportive of whatever method of bc he chooses to use (condoms, pull out, other...). Let him research it and decide. When used correctly pull out is very reliable, but he needs to know the gamble he is taking so he isn't upset if you get pregnant. No birth control method is fool proof besides abstinence. 

I would feel pretty sleazy if I told my husband "pull out is very reliable" but he never read into it and gave informed consent... then I got pregnant and he wasn't quite ready for a baby yet. It should be something you both equally want. 

SmileyJay

Disclaimer - I didn't read all of the other comments and OP's responses before posting. I want to agree with everyone else that pull out is a bit more risky than other forms of bc (the pill, condoms) even when used perfectly. 

OP - please get on the pill or support him in using condoms. It sounds like he is really not ready. You are "hoping" a pregnancy will be greeted with happiness but that won't make it so. These are the sorts of things that harbor resentment and end happy marriages. Be open and honest and work together to choose the method that offers a risk factor you both are comfortable with. 

MrsRustyGriswold

Nicb13 said:

"Where I'm at is trying to show him it will Be okay while hoping maybe if a pregnancy hair accidentally happened that he'll be quite happy. I'm not a evil wife trying to trap my husband".

What is a pregnancy hair? OP did you even proof read your shit before posting? Yikes.

Can we go back to this?  OP, what were you trying to type?  I can't come up with anything.

kcisthebombdotcom

I have. The one and only time we ever used the pull out method. With that being said we both discussed it and were ok with the possibility of getting pregnant a few months before we intended to start ttc. I know hypothetically it seems like it would all work out--I bet you see your dh as a wonderful dad and think he'd just be head over heels with the new baby too... and he would be in love. The thing you're overlooking in your poorly thought out plan is the stress and strain it would cause in your marriage. Talk to your dh. Ask him if/when he wants another child. If he never wants another child you have an issue. If he wants to wait more time just waiting isn't going to matter in the grand scheme of things--you're not going to die of baby fever.

missnacholover

DarcyHermione said:

michellerenee1987 said:

michellerenee1987 said:

I'm not trying to trick him! I would never do that! But if for some reason pulling out doesn't work out and we happened to get pregnant I would be happy! I don't think there's anything wrong with that.!

michellerenee1987 said:

Was just looking for support from someone sorry my bad

What kind of support are you looking for exactly ?? Someone else that got Pg when their H wasn't ready ?You may be happy if you get Pg, but how would your husband feel ?! That's the big question.

Not being judge and being told I'm tricking my husband that kind of support. All u ladies could do is answer my question yes if it's likely or not, if it happened to u or not est....... I don't need anyone giving Me a hard time cuz I want a baby and my husband isn't quite ready. Sometimes men don't think their ready cuz their uncertain and as much as I've has the baby talk over and over again with my husband he still has his doubts like sex and not being about to do thing anymore especially with a second child. Where I'm at is trying to show him it will Be okay while hoping maybe if a pregnancy hair accidentally happened that he'll be quite happy. I'm not a evil wife trying to trap my husband. So plz don't give me ur judgement responses

Nope. Respect your husband's wishes and don't wish for an "accidental" pregnancy. That's not fair to him.

OP, I think you should hold off on baby #2 until you know the difference between Their, They're, and There.

Oh, and until your husband is ready too.

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carabassa27

*raises hand*

I got pregnant from the pull-out method. Well, pulling out and then using a condom.  Ended in miscarriage. Fun times all around.

So, yes. Obviously it's possible to get pregnant from pulling out.  Slim odds, but possible.

Please use condoms until your husband is ready.

Pookieson

Well, looks like everyone has this covered.  FYI, I think this is what a PP poster meant by, "This is going to go well for you"...it's sarcasm.  

Mrodriguez898

I will tell you I have gotten pregnant while using the pull out method.
You are better of using some sort of birth control until you both know for sure at what moment you want that baby

anitabanita

Actually, the difference in the rate of protection offered by condoms and the rate of protection using the pull out method is not statistically significant, so condoms aren't much better than the pull out method *when used properly*.

anitabanita

Also everyone should really stop attacking this woman. Shes married, she wants a baby, thats all she said. Shes not tricking her husband because they have both agreed to their preferred method of birth control. And insulting someone because of their grammar or spelling on an online forum board is completely ridiculous. Are we writing for the NYT? Would you insult your mother if she sent a text with odd spellings or grammar? Stop being mean girls, youll be better mothers for it.

Jags8

anitabanita said:

Also everyone should really stop attacking this woman. Shes married, she wants a baby, thats all she said. Shes not tricking her husband because they have both agreed to their preferred method of birth control. And insulting someone because of their grammar or spelling on an online forum board is completely ridiculous. Are we writing for the NYT? Would you insult your mother if she sent a text with odd spellings or grammar? Stop being mean girls, youll be better mothers for it.

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anitabanita

anitabanita said:

Actually, the difference in the rate of protection offered by condoms and the rate of protection using the pull out method is not statistically significant, so condoms aren't much better than the pull out method *when used properly*.

anitabanita

MandJS said:

anitabanita said:

Actually, the difference in the rate of protection offered by condoms and the rate of protection using the pull out method is not statistically significant, so condoms aren't much better than the pull out method *when used properly*.

On what planet do you think this is true?

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method-4218.htm

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anitabanita

MandJS said:

anitabanita said:

MandJS said:

anitabanita said:

Actually, the difference in the rate of protection offered by condoms and the rate of protection using the pull out method is not statistically significant, so condoms aren't much better than the pull out method *when used properly*.

On what planet do you think this is true?

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method-4218.htm

Right. So...

How Effective Are Condoms?

Effectiveness is an important and common concern when choosing a birth control method.

Like all birth control methods, condoms are more effective when you use them correctly.

• Each year, 2 out of 100 women whose partners use condoms will become pregnant if they always use condoms correctly.
• Each year, 18 out of 100 women whose partners use condoms will become pregnant if they don't always use condoms correctly.

v. 

How Effective Is Withdrawal?

Effectiveness is an important and common concern when choosing a birth control method. Like all birth control methods, the pull out method is much more effective when you do it correctly.

• Of every 100 women whose partners use withdrawal, 4 will become pregnant each year if they always do it correctly.
• Of every 100 women whose partners use withdrawal, 27 will become pregnant each year if they don't always do it correctly.

2 v. 4 is 50% more people getting KU by just using withdrawal v. using condoms. But I can perhaps grant you that 2% v. 4% is not a huge statistical difference. Of course, that assumes 100% correct usage, which, is pretty much never a reality.

And I would argue that 9% point difference (18 v. 27) is actually fairly significant.

sex-study-pull-withdrawal-method-rivals-condoms-birth/t/story?id=7688558&ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F

anitabanita

MandJS said:

anitabanita said:

MandJS said:

anitabanita said:

Actually, the difference in the rate of protection offered by condoms and the rate of protection using the pull out method is not statistically significant, so condoms aren't much better than the pull out method *when used properly*.

On what planet do you think this is true?

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method-4218.htm

Right. So...

How Effective Are Condoms?

Effectiveness is an important and common concern when choosing a birth control method.

Like all birth control methods, condoms are more effective when you use them correctly.

• Each year, 2 out of 100 women whose partners use condoms will become pregnant if they always use condoms correctly.
• Each year, 18 out of 100 women whose partners use condoms will become pregnant if they don't always use condoms correctly.

v. 

How Effective Is Withdrawal?

Effectiveness is an important and common concern when choosing a birth control method. Like all birth control methods, the pull out method is much more effective when you do it correctly.

• Of every 100 women whose partners use withdrawal, 4 will become pregnant each year if they always do it correctly.
• Of every 100 women whose partners use withdrawal, 27 will become pregnant each year if they don't always do it correctly.

2 v. 4 is 50% more people getting KU by just using withdrawal v. using condoms. But I can perhaps grant you that 2% v. 4% is not a huge statistical difference. Of course, that assumes 100% correct usage, which, is pretty much never a reality.

And I would argue that 9% point difference (18 v. 27) is actually fairly significant.

https://abcnews.go.com/Health/Economy/sex-study-pull-withdrawal-method-rivals-condoms-birth/t/story?id=7688558&ref=https://www.google.com/

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carabassa27

Just thought I'd add (and forgive me if this has already been said)...

Even when the man is able to effectively pull out every single time, I'm pretty sure that failure rate of 4% is not due to him accidentally not pulling out, but rather, that there can be sperm in pre-ejaculate.