Just me or is this pretty tacky?

Nootbar · February 2014

I have been invited to an aquaintance's "sprinkle." This person has a toddler (always dressed to the nines) and is now due with a second baby of the same gender. They already had - get this - a "gender reveal" party (I'm sorry but I'm not a fan) AND also already had one fancy shower for the second baby (to which I was not invited, thankfully). Plus the "sprinkle." The "sprinkle" invite says something like "Jane Doe does not have a registry but xxx [insert description of desired gifts] appreciated!" The whole thing reads like such a tactless gift grab to me- am I just bitter, or is this over the line? I also can't understand why they didn't save the baby items from the first child. (It was made known that they were trying so it's not like it's a surprise.) DH thinks I'm too upset over this but I'm honestly bothered by the whole thing. I get wanting to celebrate new life and all that but this just seems like a bit much.

Gigi8212 · February 2014

Everything you just described is tacky as hell. I would not go, nor would I send a gift.

mjberube89 · February 2014

Decline immediately. That's just ridiculous.

t loves r · February 2014

msspeedymarie said:

Nootbar said:
I have been invited to an aquaintance's "sprinkle." This person has a toddler (always dressed to the nines) and is now due with a second baby of the same gender. They already had - get this - a "gender reveal" party (I'm sorry but I'm not a fan) AND also already had one fancy shower for the second baby (to which I was not invited, thankfully). Plus the "sprinkle." The "sprinkle" invite says something like "Jane Doe does not have a registry but xxx [insert description of desired gifts] appreciated!" The whole thing reads like such a tactless gift grab to me- am I just bitter, or is this over the line? I also can't understand why they didn't save the baby items from the first child. (It was made known that they were trying so it's not like it's a surprise.) DH thinks I'm too upset over this but I'm honestly bothered by the whole thing. I get wanting to celebrate new life and all that but this just seems like a bit much.
I get upset over stuff like this too, and I think it's because it pisses me off that me, and people like me, follow the "rules" and don't do gift grabby shit like have 2 showers for our second child, and then people like this do. And so they benefit because no one around them is willing to just flat out tell them, NO, you are wrong. So they keep doing shit like this, and mooching off the goodwill of the rest of us. Behavior like this, unchecked, eventually puts them, "ahead" of those of us who are nice and follow the rules. It's like people who cut in lines, or the a-holes who zoom around traffic and cut to the front in bottlenecks, while the rest of us chumps are patiently waiting, and some idiot always let's them in. Why don't they have to wait like the rest of us?

This sort of behavior pisses me off because it is symbolic of a whole category of behavior that involves taking advantage of the fact that most people don't break the rules, and don't call out those who do for fear of being seen as rude or fear of confrontation.

Preach it, sister!

I agree 110%.

MamaLlama14 · February 2014

Incredibly tacky, and sadly she'll never know it b/c no one will tell her. I would definitely decline- and I wouldn't send a gift, either.

Peanutz21 · February 2014

SOOOO tacky

what is wrong with people these days

VOR · February 2014

Its tacky. Don't go.

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MrsMac613 · February 2014

This screams tacky!

kimberpoo · February 2014

all she wants is gifts! she doesn't sound like she wants to celebrate the new baby, she just wants people to buy her stuff. Tacky. Decline and don't send a gift.

Nootbar · February 2014

Thanks everyone. I didn't go, but I did get a small gift. I'm trying to be more charitable toward this person, because I have hurt feelings that I need to move past. (Right after we shared about our infertility struggles in a small group setting, she whipped out her iPhone and started passing around pictures of her ultrasound.) Still, IMO ... it's super tacky and gift-grabby and to be honest a little attention-whorish to have serial showers for second, third etc., children of the same sex - ESPECIALLY if those children are born within a few years of each other. On the other hand, if this is your first girl after 4 boys or a later-in-life addition after you donated all your baby crap because you thought the vasectomy worked, I'm there with bells on. This is just my personal opinion, but if you want to celebrate, by all means cater a little get together after baby arrives, or take your close GF's to the spa or to tea- but put NO GIFTS in all caps on the invite like you really mean it.