My boys are 5 months, 3.5 adjusted. First people said the first week is the hardest, then the first month, then the first 3 months. Now they say the first 6 months but it honestly just seems like it continues to get harder. It is so difficult to manage them alone. We're trying to keep them on a schedule but getting them both down for a nap at the same time is so hard. And then they never wake up at the same time so one is always ready for the next nap sooner than the other. When they are awake, they eat and have maybe 15 minutes of play time before they just cry. Even if they should be well rested. Some nights they do well, but others they are up several times and we have to rush in to keep them from waking each other.
I really thought it would be easier by now. I'd appreciate any advice or suggestions.
Re: When Does it Really Get Easier?
Right ovary removed 09.04.2012 via vertical laparotomy
Essure implant placed on remaining tube 06.13.2013; successful followup scan 09.30.2013
Hang in there....everyone's experience is going to be a little different, so the best thing you can do is just focus on the challenge at hand and not set any unrealistic expectations for how things are going to go or how you're going to feel. Then one day out of the blue you'll look back and say "Man, it's gotten so much easier!"
Also - around that time my husband took over night feedings. I feel a little guilty about this but it's really helped me. Maybe see if there's some way your SO could help out more?