I absolutely do NOT keep him awake during the day. Most of my day is spent trying to get him down for naps, whether it be driving him around, taking him on walks, patting him, etc. But like I said, the boy is a fighter!
In addition to @MosyMama's book recommendation by Elizabeth Pantley you might also try 'Good Night Sleep Tight' by Kim West. Both good reads & use non tear-based methods
Babywise is responsible for the deaths of multiple children and failure to thrive in countless others. Pick ANY other method and wait til 6 mos, like they all recommend.
Six years of infertility and loss, four IUIs, one IVF and one very awesome little boy born via med-free birth 10.24.13.
My mom gave me Babywise when I was pregnant but I didn't get around to reading it until baby was about 3 weeks old. In my experience, the book was right on when it says if you get baby on a feeding schedule the sleep schedule will follow. At 6 weeks old my LO was eating every 3 hours and sleeping 7 hours a night. Now at 5 months she eats every 4 hours and sleeps almost 9 hours, eats, and back to sleep for 3 more hours. My friend's baby, who is 3 weeks older, is still eating every 2-3 hours and waking up 3 times in the night to eat as a 6 month old. I understand that each kid is different but I have had no trouble with LO being hungry between feedings or going to sleep at bed time. Just like older kids, a routine helps them and you. It might take a week or two to get into the new schedule but it will definitely be worth it. I have an awesome job (not a daycare) that allows me to bring baby with me so having her on a schedule that's integrated into my work duties allows both of us to get what we need from our day. Oh, and when I say schedule, I don't mean baby gets fed at a certain time and only that time. If she's hungry feed her. It's just nice to have a general idea of when baby will be hungry/tired so you can be prepared and plan your day.
I've done babywise since the day Ds was born. No where in the book does it say not to feed your child! I don't understand why it gets a bad rap .Concentrating on getting full feedings each feed is key. I would start sooner rather than later. Babywise has helped me read and understand my baby. I would've been lost without it. We do NOT CIO. The baby whisperer also follows the same principles and goes into more detail.
I've done babywise since the day Ds was born. No where in the book does it say not to feed your child! I don't understand why it gets a bad rap .Concentrating on getting full feedings each feed is key. I would start sooner rather than later. Babywise has helped me read and understand my baby. I would've been lost without it. We do NOT CIO. The baby whisperer also follows the same principles and goes into more detail.
You need to do a little more digging. The original version of this book was so strict that people following it actually killed their babies. The man who wrote it is not a doctor and has no education in ANY discipline relating to pediatrics or development. He's a disgraced former pastor. It's the only book the AAP has put an explicit warning on its use, and the only reason Ezzo modified the book at all was because of SO much backlash. This crap has been going on for over a decade.
Oh, and any parenting theory which is built upon the premise that my infant is a sinful manipulative little jerk and we need to train him that we are in charge from birth is just flat out wrong.
ETA: Here are some gems from one of the versions of the book:
If your baby does not eat at a scheduled feeding, s/he must wait until
the next one. Feedings are at 2 1/2- to 3-hour intervals. Your baby's
routine is to serve you; you are not to serve your baby's routine (p.
132).
You can hurt a baby by picking him or her up too much (p. 128).
The nature of the PDF program fosters relational security. That
is, a baby's security depends on her developing relationship, not on
proximity to the baby's mother. In contrast, mothers who are constantly
attentive by the way of baby slings, shared sleep, and demand feeding,
all in hopes of fostering security, too often accomplish the opposite
(p. 46).
Naps are not an option based on your baby's wants. When naptime comes,
the baby goes down in the crib (p. 118). Crying for 15–20 or even 30
minutes is not going to hurt your baby, physically or emotionally (p.
118).
That's some awful, dangerous information.
Six years of infertility and loss, four IUIs, one IVF and one very awesome little boy born via med-free birth 10.24.13.
And I don't get this business about focusing on full feedings. Sometimes DS is hungrier than others. At times he'll want only 2 oz and at others he'll want 7. I can't force milk on him he doesn't want and could possibly make him uncomfortable. I snack; why shouldn't he?
Please do not insinuate that I am a bad person because I follow the updated version of Babywise. There is nothing about an eat, wake, sleep routine that is bad. Nowhere in the new book does it say any of those thing. I am a very smart person and I love my baby. I have an angle baby because we are on a routine and he is not on my boob every 10 min because he doesn't snack. if you want your baby on your boob every 10 min thats great! good for you, go for it. But I want predictability and a routine. My little guy has come to appreciate structure as well. Sure, some days our schedule goes better than others, but at least I know what my day is going to look like for the most part. I have a perfect baby that is happy and healthy, so don't tell me what I am doing is bad. I have a little something called common sense. So OP, do what you want but I have had a lot of success with Babywise.
Thank you shannoncorrin! Each baby is different, we all love our babies and want the best for them and I know TONS of moms that's used Babywise AND cry it out and they love their babies too.
Let's quit the bashing and eliminate this mom judging other mom's business!
Thank you shannoncorrin! Each baby is different, we all love our babies and want the best for them and I know TONS of moms that's used Babywise AND cry it out and they love their babies too.
Let's quit the bashing and eliminate this mom judging other mom's business!
Nope. I'm judging you. Nothing about having an infant at home is convenient and you shouldn't expect it to be.
An eat, sleep, play routine is fine. Scheduling feedings and forcing milk on a baby isn't.
I think you're sick and twisted if you can sit and listen to your baby cry out of a need you can easily fill.
I never let my baby cry it out so don't judge me. He is loved and he knows it. When he is hungry I feed him. Give me a break. As I said, I'm highly intelligent, I have common sense and I love my little guy. There is NOTHING wrong with a routine. Most people thrive on routine. End of story.
I have no idea why I feel the need to defend myself against a few internet loons. I guess it's because I was accused of being a "sick mom". I take that a little personally especially because all I was doing was sharing my experience with a topic that the OP asked about.
But about the full feedings: my LO was a very sleepy newborn and I made a big effort to keep him awake so he would take a full feeding. This way he could rest and not wake up an hour later screaming out of hunger. How is this bad? IT IS NOT. Btw he EBF so he tells me when he is full.
I have no idea why I feel the need to defend myself against a few internet loons. I guess it's because I was accused of being a "sick mom". I take that a little personally especially because all I was doing was sharing my experience with a topic that the OP asked about.
But about the full feedings: my LO was a very sleepy newborn and I made a big effort to keep him awake so he would take a full feeding. This way he could rest and not wake up an hour later screaming out of hunger. How is this bad? IT IS NOT. Btw he EBF so he tells me when he is full.
LOL at internet loons.
Seriously, you're the one taking parenting advice from a whack job that has no credentials, was thrown out of his church, devised a program by which children have died as a result of dehydration, and is rumored to have no relationship with his grown daughters.
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Re: 12 weeks too late to start Babywise?
https://www.bellybelly.com.au/baby-sleep/babywise-dangers-warnings-parents-need-to-know#.Usdo6xYn-Do
https://thestir.cafemom.com/baby/110170/babywise_the_most_controversial_parenting?next=11
The only training we do in our house is to let her sleep when she wants, and wake when she wants. Works like a gem.
Oh, and any parenting theory which is built upon the premise that my infant is a sinful manipulative little jerk and we need to train him that we are in charge from birth is just flat out wrong.
ETA: Here are some gems from one of the versions of the book:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1595189/
That's some awful, dangerous information.
And I don't get this business about focusing on full feedings. Sometimes DS is hungrier than others. At times he'll want only 2 oz and at others he'll want 7. I can't force milk on him he doesn't want and could possibly make him uncomfortable. I snack; why shouldn't he?
Let's quit the bashing and eliminate this mom judging other mom's business!
An eat, sleep, play routine is fine. Scheduling feedings and forcing milk on a baby isn't.
I think you're sick and twisted if you can sit and listen to your baby cry out of a need you can easily fill.
But about the full feedings: my LO was a very sleepy newborn and I made a big effort to keep him awake so he would take a full feeding. This way he could rest and not wake up an hour later screaming out of hunger. How is this bad? IT IS NOT. Btw he EBF so he tells me when he is full.
Seriously, you're the one taking parenting advice from a whack job that has no credentials, was thrown out of his church, devised a program by which children have died as a result of dehydration, and is rumored to have no relationship with his grown daughters.