STTN?

legalbeagle1

One thing I love about this board so much is all the different LOs at different ages and stages.  So quick question, when did your LO start sleeping through the night?  L is 15 months old and was reliably sleeping through the night around 13 months (5 out of 7 a week), but a spate of teeth, travel and sickness has really thrown off his schedule.  He normally goes to bed between 7:30 and 8 -- we lie in bed with him until he falls asleep most nights -- and sometimes wakes up crying a few times before we go to sleep around 10:30/11.  That doesn't bother me, we just stick a paci back in his mouth and leave the room.  But recently he has been waking up at 4am too and one of us will go in there and sleep with him until 6/6:30.  Should I try sleep training again?  We did Ferber around five months and that worked for a week and then he got sick and we stopped doing it.  Shortly after that is when we found out about his gross motor delays and I guess I've just been loathe to force him to do anything related to sleep. 

hopefulmom81

DD ebbs and flows.  She has never really consistently STTN.

We ALWAYS have her fall asleep on her own in the crib, but every night she wakes up around 2AM and we bring her in our bed and co-sleep for the remainder of the evening.

legalbeagle1

Thanks! @hopefulmom81 I mostly am wondering if I am "just doing it wrong" or there are other sleepers that won't consistently sleep through the night no matter what.  I want to do what's best for him so he gets enough rest.

hopefulmom81

legalbeagle1 said:

Thanks! @hopefulmom81 I mostly am wondering if I am "just doing it wrong" or there are other sleepers that won't consistently sleep through the night no matter what.  I want to do what's best for him so he gets enough rest.

Around that age we just would re-Ferber whenever there was a system breakdown.  Now, the only "issue" we have is that 2AM wake up, but all of us seem to be doing okay, so we just roll with it.

This is not a suggestion by any means, but things got better when we got rid of the paci at 18 months because she would wake up wanting it because we would put her to sleep with it.

Chapter79

Technically,  6 weeks old.  She slept from 10pm-5am. Talk about blessed!!

That said? She went through weird stages that started around 12 months old.  All of a sudden, she started waking in the middle of the night.   She would do that for weeks, and then go 4 months and not wake.  Then she would wake again for a month, and stop, etc.  For her, they were always just stages.   It actually continued until she was like 4.  She would get sick and wake in the night, then get into that habit of waking and keep doing it and call out to me.  But then she would go months and not do it.

At almost 8, she will still call out when she's sick or has to pee.  But I don't really count that.  Once she feels better, she will sleep from 8pm-6am.  But she absolutely went through weird sleep stages.  They always ended, though, and I changed nothing.

Tink112011

DS starting STTN at 12 months.  For the first year, he was a really bad sleeper.  I would let him CIO if necessary to fall asleep (if nothing else was working), but for MOTN wakings, I always went to him.  I just can't handle the thought of leaving a LO to cry in the middle of the night because you never know why they're crying.  I would always snooze with him in the large recliner in his room and then transfer him back to his crib once asleep.  He outgrew it around 12 months and now only wakes when something is wrong.

Divallyn

First time he slept all the way through the night was 10 weeks. But it only happened once or twice a week. It wasn't until he was about ten months that he slept a solid 12 hours reliably. Now he only wakes if sick or teething.
He slept in his crib from the second week as he was soooo loud he kept me up.

tifdaski84

LO started sleeping 11pm to 6am around 7 weeks old and that's when we started a bedtime routine (we also transitioned him to his crib from a bassinet in our room around this age).  We would start the bedtime routine earlier and earlier each week with him still waking around the same time or later.  We hit an 8pm bedtime and 8am wake-time around 5-6 months old BUT he had started waking once in the night to nurse. We kept bedtime the same and he eventually dropped the MOTN feeding around 9 months.  He still sleeps 8-8ish but does wake up the odd time if he's sick or has a super wet diaper or something but he's easily rocked back to sleep.  He goes in his crib awake and puts himself to sleep and we've never co-slept.

bloverde

DS is 20mo and has never slept through the night. He's still up 3-4x to nurse.

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My DS is 22 mo and mostly sleeps through the night, but that has only been for a couple of months, maybe 3. He has always been a terrible sleeper. We sort of followed the Sleep Lady Shuffle around 13 mo (but we stayed by the crib for reassurance, didn't leave the room) and that worked for awhile, except he would still wake in the early morning to nurse. I think I should have night-weaned him completely at that point, because after a couple months of that he started waking more frequently again and our previous sleep training methods did not work. We muddled through and managed to night-wean him around 18 mo and since then he usually STTN. If he wakes now I know he needs something (I give him a few minutes to resettle himself before going in).

I don't think you're necessarily "doing it wrong". There are so many ways to approach sleep training or coaching, and every kid is different (from month to month even!), and every family is different. I do think part of the reason my DS finally started STTN is just developmental maturity. There are things you can do to nudge one way or another but you can't make anyone sleep! Some kids will just get it on their own but some do need more coaching.

I am rambling, but I hope that was somewhat helpful.

PB102012

LO has slept through the night since about 8 weeks old, with a few exceptions of sleep regression around 4 months. I am hesistant of any kind of "sleep training" but I am one of the Moms with a bit less experience than anyone else so I will let you rely on their advice rather than mine.

JackoftheBox

DS started mostly sleeping through the night around 9 or 10 months. He does have his occasional off night but usually he is out.

Could you try a noise machine? Or even some nice scents like lavendar? These are my only suggestions... sorry

kristennd

He started sleeping 6 hours at 4 months and 8-10 hours at 9 months. But there have always been phases of a week or two where he wakes around 1:30 and has to get helped back to sleep.

TiffanyBerry

STTN as in the technical definition of "five hours straight'?  2.5years?  Maybe.

STTN as in "doesn't cause me to wake up in the middle of the night"? At 3yrs, 8months, still not yet reliably - maybe 10 days out of the month, usually not sequential.

EMarieMe

At 5 months'ish when we cut out the middle of the night feeding.  Up until last week he did 7:30PM to 10:30PM with a dream feed, then back down till 6 AM. Last week we cut out the 10:30 dream feed, so 7:30PM till 6AM straight through. As he now has four teeth and I wanted to start brushing every day before bed, we dropped his dream feed and he's fine.

We sit with him until he falls asleep, but we don't rock or anything.  When working on a milestone he'll occasionally wake in the middle of the night, but I just soothe him from my bed as his crib is in our room. I don't sleep well with him in our bed, so while that's a great option for some, not for us.

We also use a sound machine.

Funny story, last night I heard him cough so I rolled over to look at him in the crib. He opened his eyes and gave me like the most crazy smile ever, before rolling onto his face and going to sleep smooshed right into the crib mattress.

EMarieMe

@legalbeagle1

Have you thought about hiring a sleep coach? My boss did it for her difficult sleeper and it was tough but saved her sanity.

Also want to add, for us it was mostly just luck. We're pretty serious about not getting up in the middle of the night, but we don't force him to go down on his own and some people see that as a failing.

Ultimately every family needs their own approach and I just don't let others thoughts get me down.

this decaf life

DD started STTN around 10 months, she went from waking every 3 hours at 9/9.5 months to STTN [6-6] in a couple weeks. 

I felt like death and could hardly function so I needed to sleep train. She's an amazing sleeper, amazing napper now. She's so easy and I'm all too happy we did some training. I think she needed to learn that she didn't need me to sleep through the night.

Different things work for different people. I just knew I was about to break and needed to get some better sleep.

KatieB19

TiffanyBerry said:

STTN as in the technical definition of "five hours straight'?  2.5years?  Maybe.

STTN as in "doesn't cause me to wake up in the middle of the night"? At 3yrs, 8months, still not yet reliably - maybe 10 days out of the month, usually not sequential.

This. If we're talking technical, then probably around two years with a few miracle nights before then.

But we are at 3 years 2 months, and he still wakes up at least once a night for a hug, water, potty, whatever. Last night he woke me up three different times