A friend of mine is a single mom of two boys, 13 and 7/8. The oldest has always had some issues at school. But lately they are getting worse. I'm not sure of the exact details, but apparently his teachers are fed up with his disrespect. And that is what is the worst to her. She has always demanded respect be given to her and others and held her boys to a high standard of behavior. But it's getting the point that she is worried about his behavior escalating.
A little backstory. She was a young teen mom (15). Was kicked out of the house at that age because baby was biracial but made it on her own with no help from BD or anyone else. Had worked her butt off to give those bus the life they deserve. And really, she is an awesome mom. When it comes to passion for her kids and what she had to do to steer them away from the wrong paths, there are few parents who compare. She is determined that they not follow in her footsteps (or the oldest' s dad who is mostly absent).
So here is the predicament. After extensive communication with teachers, she decided and was welcomed to accompany 13yo to classes to observe. But when she got to the school, administration and the SRO stopped her at the door and would not allow it, not even when the teachers got involved and said they would love to have her observe and had already arranged it.
What would you do in this situation? Naturally, she will be taking it up with the school board. She wants to be an active parent in all aspects of her son's life, wants him to know that she means business, wants tge teachers to know that she supports them and is working on things, and she wants to find out what is going on exactly so that she can effectively deal with it. Because obviously conventional method are not working.
I'm just curious what you would do if in this situation? I told her that if going up the chain doesn't work, I would take it to the media. I'll be dampened if someone stopped me from taking care of business with my kids. If you're not disruptive or intrusive or otherwise preventing the teachers from doing their jobs, then there is no reason a parent should not be allowed to do their job.
EDITED for the title. I meant to say WWYD, not Wed... stupid autocorrect