Update on my metting with GC

kristi&p

I meet with my Genetic counselor yesterday. I didn't go in very confident and I pretty much got the outcome I was anticipating but it doesn't hurt any less. They tell me the success rates of a pregnancy that makes it past the first trimester the likely hood of you having a child with wither normal chromosomes or with the same balance translocation as me is pretty high and I can have a successful pregnancy. But without PGD there is always a possibility of having a child with problems, and I guess with my translocation there is something called Emmanuel syndrome and it was described in relation to downs.

We talked about the possibility of my being able to carry my partners eggs. Had we known this in the start of our trying we would have had the money but with all of the expense of trying to get pregnant with 7 IUI and the large cost for sperm we have gone through a lot of money. As of right now my insurance with cover the expense of what my portion would be with the embryo transfer but all of the meds egg retrieval and everything else would be out of pocket. So we are waiting to have our first child and then continuing to save for our second child to be her egg my body.

I am having a bit of a hard time with swapping roles. My SO didn't have a desire to carry but of course is more than happy to do it so we have a family. I know for sure we are trying the induction lactation. So any success stories for trying this is much appreciated.

Also if any of you have been on birth control, do you know how long before we can do IUI once it is stopped? My SO has used birth control for acne. This will be her last month on it. We meet with the RE 2/5 so I know he will tell us but just curious.

 

 

wishiwaspreggo

Dang... Sorry for the bad news I don't take birth control but I believe you can get pregnant the cycle after you take it - but your cycles will be off so it may be harder to track.  Your RE will definitely be your best source for specifics.

Good luck!!!

ATXmommas

I'm sorry for the bad news. Best wishes to you as you move forward with your partner getting pregnant, and I really hope you get the experience you want one day.

KH826

I'm sorry to hear this. I hope that your partner is able to get pregnant relatively quickly so that you can move past this difficult TTC phase. She will be able to get pregnant (or try anyway) the cycle immediately following when she comes off the BCP. BCPs are used to regulate periods in IVF cycles, and I was on them (as were all the other IVFers here, I think) the cycle before I got pregnant. Also, I truly hope that you are able to get pregnant in the future (whether it be with your own egg or your partners). I will be thinking of you. Please keep us posted on your journey.

GoaliesWife123

Sending warm thoughts your way

kristi&p

I'm sorry to hear this. I hope that your partner is able to get pregnant relatively quickly so that you can move past this difficult TTC phase. She will be able to get pregnant (or try anyway) the cycle immediately following when she comes off the BCP. BCPs are used to regulate periods in IVF cycles, and I was on them (as were all the other IVFers here, I think) the cycle before I got pregnant. Also, I truly hope that you are able to get pregnant in the future (whether it be with your own egg or your partners). I will be thinking of you. Please keep us posted on your journey.

 

Thanks for the response that helps a lot with the BCP ? and it makes sense lots of sense.

kristi&p

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lamaitresse

My heart breaks for you. I can't even begin to imagine how you are feeling.

I have been on the BCP for PCOS for several years; my FS recommended I go off it for 3 months, to make sure all the synthetic hormones have left my body and don't interact with the fertility medication he wants me to use. I've been off it now since beginning of December. Definitely not enjoying the increased acne and hirsutism, but it's for a good cause IMO

doodah1013

Hey there,
My spouse and I found ourselves in a similar situation a few months back. She had tried several times and were told it would be hard for her to get pregnant without expensive medical
Intervention which we could no afford.
Now, me, being someone who identifies as gender-queer (more on the masculine side) had never really ironed out my feelings about carrying a baby, but I willingly stepped up.
We have found there are a lot of emotions that this brings out (on both sides). We have continually challenged ourselves to be open about these complex feelings... But they can often be surprising and hard to navigate.
Now that we are pregnant, we are firmly considering getting a counselor so we can be as emotionally sane as possible while we both face some serious emotional upheaval of this "not being the way we envisioned it". Of course we are so excited to be having a baby (and we would make the decision to switch seats over and over again), but that doesn't mean there aren't caveats and stressors that need to be addressed.
Let me know if you need any extra support. We are always around

kristi&p

doodah1013 said:

Hey there, My spouse and I found ourselves in a similar situation a few months back. She had tried several times and were told it would be hard for her to get pregnant without expensive medical Intervention which we could no afford. Now, me, being someone who identifies as gender-queer (more on the masculine side) had never really ironed out my feelings about carrying a baby, but I willingly stepped up. We have found there are a lot of emotions that this brings out (on both sides). We have continually challenged ourselves to be open about these complex feelings... But they can often be surprising and hard to navigate. Now that we are pregnant, we are firmly considering getting a counselor so we can be as emotionally sane as possible while we both face some serious emotional upheaval of this "not being the way we envisioned it". Of course we are so excited to be having a baby (and we would make the decision to switch seats over and over again), but that doesn't mean there aren't caveats and stressors that need to be addressed. Let me know if you need any extra support. We are always around

This is very much like our situation. It is hard to see us needing to switch rolls. My SO cant imagine not doing the things she is used to doing. Mowing the lawn, doing cat litter box, taking laundry baskets up and down, just things that when you are pregnant or further along she wanted to be able to do for me. When it comes to the nursery she had this idea that I would tell her what I was looking for and she would paint put things together and she just is having a hard time with this roll change (though there are things that she can do to still be involved and feel like she is taking care of me too)

The hardest for me is the extreme desire to be pregnant. We have already started a plan to do an egg retrieval when it is safe after we have our first child. So in future I can carry her egg. I have a plan started for the expense of what that will be and then my part of the procedures would be covered with insurance (as we stand right now that changes every year) Also we are doing the induced lactation. I really wanted to be able to breastfeed so this too hit me hard it feels like a loss knowing that I just cant without a lot of intervention. I am still trying to get more information on this. I have a lactation consultant in the area that has worked with others in a similar situation, just not sure how soon in advance I need to be starting this.

I truly believe that you are right about meeting with a counselor. I have started to look up some in my area that can help us deal with our emotions.

We have decided we need a little bit of us time so we have a FL trip planned for April before we really jump in to TTC with SO.

2MamazInSeattle

@kristi&p I sent you a PM!