FFFC

LorMor

It's Friday... confess!

LorMor

Mine is that I can't stop thinking of mint M&Ms that we mentioned in the UO yesterday. I've never heard of them, I'm pretty sure we don't get them here.

chricast

I said happy birthday to my husband on instagram and Facebook this past week. He doesn't have an account on either so it was mostly a place for his friends to say happy birthday to him.

Rachelilly23

We have DS1'S parent teacher conference today and I am not interested in going at all. I see his teacher every time I drop him off and pick him up. I don't need to talk to her more. I already know his behavior at school is not good and I'm doing as much as I can do. The only thing different about this is that DH will be there too, but I already relay everything to him.

BabyCarryingVessel

RVASC811 said:

I am laid up in bed and C is still recovering. H stayed home from work bc I told him I couldn't take care of her while vomiting. She's being really fussy, and he finally just asked her, "what do you want from me?" She said, "mama." I can't make myself get out if bed to honor her request.

Oh, that sounds just terrible! Sorry, but I'm glad your hubs is home to help. I chuckled a little at the thought of a man asking a one year old girl, "what do you want from me?"

BabyCarryingVessel

We watched a movie last night called Prisoners with Hugh Jackman and Jake Gillenhall. PSA - DON'T WATCH THIS MOVIE! It's about two girls getting kidnapped and Hugh Jackman is the dad to one of them, and he desperately tries to find them. It made my heart hurt the whole time . I just don't know what I'd do in a situation like that. The frightening part is that it happens to parents every day and I just can't handle it, especially now that I'm a mommy.

scrumpfy

End of semester is this week. SS failed multiple classes. He has a tutor and gets help after school 3 days a week. He just will not do his work, in class or at home. We've taken away virtually all his privileges, and tried rewarding even the slightest bit of work or effort, we've threatened and punished, and tried being supportive and helpful. Nothing works. The kid just will not work. He is mind blowingly lazy. Confession is that I'm kind of just ready to throw in the towel and let him fail. I give up. We can't force him to work, or to care. And he clearly doesn't give a shit about his future, so why am I trying so hard. This is so frustrating, and it sucks.

chricast

I just commented on a blog post to win the new 4moms rockaroo saying "I would love to have this for my little one coming in August" (it was required to comment to enter) and it automatically posted to facebook!! I deleted it off my timeline but it said it would still appear in the newsfeed. My friend checked hers and it was there, but not on mine so I had no way to delete it. I panicked and deactivated my facebook account. I havent told anyone other then my family and best friends...and you guys. I still havent even had my first doctor appointment to confirm the pregnancy! At least one person saw it and texted me to ask if I was pregnant. I told her I entered the contest to win one for a friend, I doubt she believed me.

ChrisG83

I complain about too many things. I complain to myself in my head then I call my mom and complain more. I need to stop.

ChrisG83

Also and I'm sure I have said this before. Being a stepparent is a thankless job and freaking stressful.

lady dixneuf

ChrisG83 said:

Also and I'm sure I have said this before. Being a stepparent is a thankless job and freaking stressful.

amen sister

I am a full time mom of 2 for a month. And more or less on my own. I am so over it. 

wesleycrusher

As of this morning I have 7 newspapers in their bags out on the front porch that I haven't brought inside.  The sad part is that we only get the Sunday Paper.

CnAnA

@BeaF12, that's about how often Alice gets changed.  Maybe 5.  But not much more than that.  Unless she blows up a diaper, I tend to forget.  She isn't sensitive skinned, and doesn't complain much about a wet diaper.  

CnAnA

I fed Alice canned beefaroni yesterday for lunch.  She's getting the rest of the can today.  I am busy, and she likes pasta with red sauce.  So she is getting fake pasta with red sauce.  And it was on sale.

Also, one of my most favorite comforting foods is Chef Boyardee ravioli.  Straight from the can, no heating.  Makes me feel like a teenager again. LOL

I am so sick of seeing articles about how people shouldn't comment on how cute/pretty/whatever little girls are. People don't do that to boys, and gender equality, blah blah blah.  It makes me roll my eyes really hard.  If we don't tell our daughters they are beautiful, the world is going to convince them they're not.  (Granted, I tell little boys how handsome they are just as often as I tell little girls how pretty they are.)  I get that it shouldn't be the ONLY thing we tell little girls, but come on.  If a little girl (or boy!) is all decked out in their Sunday best, you're gonna comment on it.  Just like you would an adult man/woman.  I am sick of this whole movement.

wesleycrusher

LO doesn't have sensitive skin, but some days she poops 5 times.  Some days just once. But usually 3 or 4 times, so I end up changing her more often. 

ETA: do your kids poop on a schedule?? @BeaF12 @cnana

CnAnA

@awesomesauce123 not really.  It's usually once or twice a day, but never the same time/consistency/amount.  Sometimes she'll go 2 days without pooping, some days she poops 3 times.  Just depends on what she's eaten and what teeth she's trying to cut.

stephcarter

lady dixneuf said:

ChrisG83 said:

Also and I'm sure I have said this before. Being a stepparent is a thankless job and freaking stressful.

amen sister

I am a full time mom of 2 for a month. And more or less on my own. I am so over it. 

I was telling a very close friend of mine today that I can't stand it anymore. We have my SD almost all of the time. And her attitude is fucking ridiculous. I'm at the point where I don't even want to be around her anymore. It's horrible, I know.

stephcarter

Pretty buzzed right now. All this stuff with the house is causing some depression over here.

Owners daughter is a former NH politician. Go fucking figure.

nealbl

I love valentines day! I am a hopeless romantic and love the romantic part of the holiday. I don't want a present but Choco strawberries or flowers I think are nice to get. I also like to do a nice dinner and go on a date. I think I have a connection to this holiday bc my dad always spoils me on this day. He still gets me a stuffed animal every year on vday! He spoiled my mom too and I guess I grew up seeing and thinking it it was a big day. DH also proposed to me the day after vday, but we were celebrating vday then!

This year DH is taking dd1 to a daddy daughter dance. I'm so excited for them!

nealbl

CnAnA said:

I fed Alice canned beefaroni yesterday for lunch.  She's getting the rest of the can today.  I am busy, and she likes pasta with red sauce.  So she is getting fake pasta with red sauce.  And it was on sale.

Also, one of my most favorite comforting foods is Chef Boyardee ravioli.  Straight from the can, no heating.  Makes me feel like a teenager again. LOL

I am so sick of seeing articles about how people shouldn't comment on how cute/pretty/whatever little girls are. People don't do that to boys, and gender equality, blah blah blah.  It makes me roll my eyes really hard.  If we don't tell our daughters they are beautiful, the world is going to convince them they're not.  (Granted, I tell little boys how handsome they are just as often as I tell little girls how pretty they are.)  I get that it shouldn't be the ONLY thing we tell little girls, but come on.  If a little girl (or boy!) is all decked out in their Sunday best, you're gonna comment on it.  Just like you would an adult man/woman.  I am sick of this
whole movement.

Omg yes yes yes. I hate this whole movement that we shouldn't give gender specific toys and yada yada. I mean if dd1 wants a truck I will get it but I am not going out of my way to buy her boy and girl toys. And yes I tell her she is beautiful all the time. I also reinforce that her heart is beautiful too but seriously it's ok for children to hear they are cute!

CnAnA

I tell Alice how smart, brave, and kind she is. I tell her how proud I am of her, and that she can do anything she wants when she grows up. She has a John Deere tractor parked next to her princess castle. She wears a dress with her camouflage boots. And you know what? You better damn well believe I tell her she is beautiful every chance I get. Not only that, I love it when other people tell her, too.

CnAnA

NeedUtonite said:

I've never heard people say don't tell your kids they are beautiful. I've heard people say don't ONLY tell them they are beautiful. I've also heard people say don't over emphasize any single adjective...so they don't get it stuck in their head that they HAVE to be said adjective.

I have seen people saying don't mention appearance. It objectifies the child.

stephcarter

CnAnA said:

NeedUtonite said:

I've never heard people say don't tell your kids they are beautiful. I've heard people say don't ONLY tell them they are beautiful. I've also heard people say don't over emphasize any single adjective...so they don't get it stuck in their head that they HAVE to be said adjective.

I have seen people saying don't mention appearance. It objectifies the child.

If that's the case my kid is screwed. I tell her she's gorgeous all the time.

StefanieM522

I just ate an entire bag of animal crackers while trying to decide what's for dinner and I just ordered Chinese food as well I i didn't want to cook. Also I tell Wesley he is handsome all the time as well!

wesleycrusher

CnAnA said:

I've never heard people say don't tell your kids they are beautiful. I've heard people say don't ONLY tell them they are beautiful. I've also heard people say don't over emphasize any single adjective...so they don't get it stuck in their head that they HAVE to be said adjective.

I have seen people saying don't mention appearance. It objectifies the child.

I have also read the same thing about always telling a child they are smart.  It is better to praise their effort than whether they got/did something right or wrong. 

wesleycrusher

Most of the time I tell my DD she's handsome. 

CnAnA

@awesomesauce123 but what if alice is naturally gifted and didn't really "work hard" at something?

wesleycrusher

CnAnA said:

@awesomesauce123 but what if alice is naturally gifted and didn't really "work hard" at something?

I read an article/study about it.  It has to do with being afraid to fail.  To a child, being smart = getting everything right. So if a child is always told they are smart, then they don't want to seem "un-smart" by getting something wrong.  They will do things more cautiously and not stretch themselves. When they are faced with something they don't know, they get more anxious and will actually put forth less effort- a  "why bother if I'm just going to fail?" mentality.  

So like- a child gifted in math would be way less likely to want to do art, they'd just want to stick with math because they know they are good at it and are praised for it.  

FWIW, it's really super hard to put into practice. 

ETA: @cnana

CnAnA

@awesomesauce123 it does sort of make sense. I just worry that kids have been over analyzed to the point parents are afraid to move lest they bruise poor Little Johhny's ego. Kids fail, kids lose sports games. Kids screw up. IMO, parents should let them. It's part of life. Just use instincts. Tell your kid she's beautiful, that he's brilliant. Common sense applies to parenting, too. LOL

nealbl

CnAnA said:

@awesomesauce123 it does sort of make sense. I just worry that kids have been over analyzed to the point parents are afraid to move lest they bruise poor Little Johhny's ego. Kids fail, kids lose sports games. Kids screw up. IMO, parents should let them. It's part of life. Just use instincts. Tell your kid she's beautiful, that he's brilliant. Common sense applies to parenting, too. LOL

This This This

Enough with the studies! Let parents just be parents!

wesleycrusher

CnAnA said:

@awesomesauce123 it does sort of make sense. I just worry that kids have been over analyzed to the point parents are afraid to move lest they bruise poor Little Johhny's ego. Kids fail, kids lose sports games. Kids screw up. IMO, parents should let them. It's part of life. Just use instincts. Tell your kid she's beautiful, that he's brilliant. Common sense applies to parenting, too. LOL

That was my original point too, people say you shouldn't comment on their appearance, or their intelligence, the list goes on and on. what's left to say?

CnAnA

@BandEddie you are my hero. Truth.

Ziegeficker

@BandEddie, I love Parenthood! And I frequently give Henry the Roku or TV remote without the batteries in it. Is that shameful? :-P

Is it too late for me to confess? Because I just realized today that I relay a lot of parenting and baby advice I receive from you guys to my in-laws and husband and say that the doctor told it to me.