FFFC

holly321

I ate peanutbutter twix for dinner.

I hate when people act like they should win an award for breast feeding. I offered my coworker a similac check the other day. She got so happy with herself because she only has had to supplement a bottle a day, therefore didn't need my check. Congrats, your boobs work properly. She just had an attitude that disgusted me. I know breastfeeding is hard work, babies are hard work in general.

Drea926

@holly321 My MIL was the president of her local La Leche League chapter. She always regales us with stories about it. Even when I was 2 weeks PP and having low supply issues. And while I don't think she was actively trying to stick it to me, a little thoughtfulness would have been nice.

holly321

Also, I need to clean my house. But ds' birthday party is next week..... so I keep thinking, why clean twice? I plan to vacuum and all, but dusting can wait.

Drea926

Today I find myself actually missing being pregnant. Not because I have baby fever, but because I want to eat a second breakfast and gorge myself with food. I miss second breakfast.

tamarar5

I've been having a hard time sleeping at night lately. And usually DH stays up on Friday mornings after work so that he can actually spend some time with us. And that usually means I get to sleep in on Friday morning. Well, today I didn't. And I'm angry. I just want to sleep for more than two of three hours in a row! And I'm really mad that he sleeps 8 plus hours every day while I'm struggling to remain conscious with the kids.

I kind of want too throw ice cubes on him.

jbatch

I took a pregnancy test. I knew it was VERY unlikely to be positive because it was too early but I just wanted to check. It was negative..

Puck1182

This one may be truly flameworthy. Two weekends ago, I let FIL give DD a teeny tiny taste of his beer. (To be fair, at 11 months, she was two months older than I was when I had my first taste!). She seemed to like it, but no surprise their. I supposedly tried to chug it when I had my first sip!

Obviously this won't be a regular thing we do, but I fully credit my parents for installing me with a healthy attitude toward alcohol and a big part of that was not turning it into forbidden fruit. They let me try a tiny sip as a baby, then as a toddler/small child I could have sips of my dad's beer. As an older child, I was allowed to have a small glass of wine on holidays or at other special dinners. And in high school I could have a beer or a glass of wine at home, provided I was staying in for the rest of the night.

Not once did I sneak around behind their backs to get booze, and I can probably count on one hand the number of times I drank enough to be hung over, though I do havdeities beer and wine on a pretty regular basis. So clearly they did something right, and I want to try to replicate that with DD.

StephPeth

I have stalled out on going to the gym and I am eating like crap. Chalking it up to being sad that DD will be turning one in two weeks. Also, its the dead of winter and we are having subzero temps here like everyday for weeks now. I am wearing layers anyway so who can tell if I am not losing weight, Right? I am giving myself the next month to eat like jaba the hutt and then back to the gym. Just have to come to terms with the fact that I cant use the baby weight excuse anymore, this is " I am too lazy to work out" weight! Whoa is me...

kleigh926

This is more of a vent than a confession, but I'm putting it here anyway. On Saturday we traded in our old, junky car that we've had tons of problems with for a slightly newer car that seemed to be in good condition. We couldn't afford much, but it was the car that we wanted at a good price. We got it at a big used car dealership that has a good reputation.

Wednesday morning, it had no heat. The temperature gauge jumps all over the place and it would be in danger of overheating if it wasn't so ridiculously cold outside. It barely starts. We didn't even have the car for 4 days and it started doing this. We called the dealer, but since it was an "as-is sale" they take no responsibility for the car and refuse to do anything to help us.

FIL is a licensed mechanic so he always helps us with our car troubles for free, which is a huge blessing. But I am just so sick of this. We have had more car problems in the 4 1/2 years we've been married than anyone I know. It's almost unbelievable, really. And now to trade in our very problematic car just to get another piece of junk in return?! This is exactly what we were trying to avoid! And now we have no money to get rid of this one anytime soon because we just wiped out half our savings buying this one. I guess my confession is, I can't stop thinking WHY DOES THIS ALWAYS HAPPEN TO US. I know other people have problems that are much worse but it's just one stupid thing after another for us, and it has been that way ever since we got married. I'm tired of it. 

Drea926

I'm sorry for your car troubles @kleigh926 and @sagen.

I was also going to suggest leasing. DH and I both lease our cars (a Rav4 and a Corolla.) I got my Corolla stupid cheap because they were clearing out the 2013s. It might be worth a look!

draeray

We are TTC #2 and I posted yesterday that I think I was ovulating (based on a test strip). Well DH was at the doctor's yesterday and he has a UTI. The doctor told him to take his antibiotics and to not have sex for a week.

My confession: I am really pissed off about this. My husband said we can try next month which is true, but regular healthy people only have a 20% chance and I knew my chance was yesterday and he wouldn't do it. My sex drive is really low and I don't really want to have sex on a regular basis (but I do want another baby!). I don't see what the big deal is on having sex when you have a UTI?! I have been really trying to pinpoint when I was ovulating for a while now and this was my first time 'knowing' when it was happening.

Oh well, I guess we will try again in February.

(:|

kleigh926

Thanks ladies. The problem with leasing is that we already have a car payment on the car we had to buy last year at this time when DH's truck broke down. DD was 4 days old and DH was out buying a car because at that point, none of our vehicles had heat in the dead of winter (why is it always the same problem!!) and we had a newborn. Plus we couldn't use his truck for a car seat anyway. We can't afford another car payment, which is why we took half our savings and paid for the car out of pocket.

Rosebean

Ummm... I STILL have not vacuumed my house. It's being rectified after breakfast. Yuck!

eriannc22

DC2London said:

jbatch said:

I took a pregnancy test. I knew it was VERY unlikely to be positive because it was too early but I just wanted to check. It was negative..

That's not flammable! what's flammable is when I take one and am actually a tiny bit disappointed when it's negative. I have no business having another baby right now! (We aren't TTC)

I irrationally feel this way every time I take a pregnancy test. It's like a test I just want to pass! (But I don't actually want to be pregnant)

singingsea

My DH is on baby duty tonight and I'm wineing it up with a friend

beckajw

jbatch said:

I took a pregnancy test. I knew it was VERY unlikely to be positive because it was too early but I just wanted to check. It was negative..

I took one even though my period had started.  It was just spotting and I irrationally convinced myself that maybe it was just implantation bleeding!

draeray

Sagen said:

My house is clean right now and I should be working on getting the storage room cleaned. I have been putting it off for months, maybe even a year by this point. It is so messy, hoarder messy,I mean I don't know where to start it is too overwhelming. It is crap crap and more crap just spread out all over. I need to some how organize it or something. Also I have a ton of baby stuff like swing, bouncer, exercauser, and other things that I need to get rid of but I can't bring myself to do it.  Also I bought the baby a super cool present for his b-day, it arrives on Saturday. I have no intentions of waiting till his birthday he get it Saturday, I think I am more excited than he will be. Here it is..

We have that. My MIL got it for DS for Christmas....it's a good toy! We keep it in the shape of a box so it helps keep him contained!

Poppy523

I just bought DD a baby book yesterday because I felt bad she did not have one.  I was my mother's third child and she managed to detail everything in my baby while also caring for two toddlers...I  am retroactively filling it in and guessing the dates for things because I don't remember MOTY!

PhieryBFly

For the baby book thing, I did that too. If you use Facebook at all, the timeline can help fill in the milestones because usually that's the type of thing you'd post about! It helped m a lot anyway...

shineupabove

Sagen said:

My house is clean right now and I should be working on getting the storage room cleaned. I have been putting it off for months, maybe even a year by this point. It is so messy, hoarder messy,I mean I don't know where to start it is too overwhelming. It is crap crap and more crap just spread out all over. I need to some how organize it or something. Also I have a ton of baby stuff like swing, bouncer, exercauser, and other things that I need to get rid of but I can't bring myself to do it.  Also I bought the baby a super cool present for his b-day, it arrives on Saturday. I have no intentions of waiting till his birthday he get it Saturday, I think I am more excited than he will be. Here it is..

That just made my list for my LOs bday. 

eriannc22

Ah I finally thought of a confession. I am starting Zoloft for the first time today after battling with anxiety/depression since Evan's been born. I am both excited and apprehensive. I'm hoping this will help me be a more even keel, patient mom.

Drea926

@eriannc22 good for you! Hugs! >:D<

DublinMama

I ordered Buffalo chicken pizza just now and have a 1.5 L of Merlot on hand. I'm probably going to take in just as many liquid calories as I am in solid food. I did this because today I had an 8 year old uttering both homophobic and racial slurs to other children, and was basically told to sit down and take it from admin. So it's total emotional eating. But BFD.

I also ordered a small side salad. This should earn me some bonus points.

Drea926

DublinMama said:

I ordered Buffalo chicken pizza just now and have a 1.5 L of Merlot on hand. I'm probably going to take in just as many liquid calories as I am in solid food. I did this because today I had an 8 year old uttering both homophobic and racial slurs to other children, and was basically told to sit down and take it from admin. So it's total emotional eating. But BFD.

I also ordered a small side salad. This should earn me some bonus points.

Okay, your district sounds scary and makes me feel spoiled. Today when I got back from my department meeting, there was a note on my desk from a student telling me that before he came to the middle school he knew nothing about poetry and now he feels like he found "his gift" and he wanted to thank his teacher for it. 

Yeah, I cried. 

DublinMama

Drea926 said:

DublinMama said:

I ordered Buffalo chicken pizza just now and have a 1.5 L of Merlot on hand. I'm probably going to take in just as many liquid calories as I am in solid food. I did this because today I had an 8 year old uttering both homophobic and racial slurs to other children, and was basically told to sit down and take it from admin. So it's total emotional eating. But BFD.

I also ordered a small side salad. This should earn me some bonus points.

Okay, your district sounds scary and makes me feel spoiled. Today when I got back from my department meeting, there was a note on my desk from a student telling me that before he came to the middle school he knew nothing about poetry and now he feels like he found "his gift" and he wanted to thank his teacher for it. 

Yeah, I cried. 

My district is scary. The town Budget Committee has to tape and post their audio on the district website. I won't share all of the gems, but here are my favorites:

"Is it even legal or ethical to pay a 2nd grade teacher $60,000? I mean, is she really even earning her money?"
"Anyone with 15 years experience and a CAGS who is teaching the primary grades is wasting her education and taking the easy way out. I mean, with some training I could teach kids how to read."
"You wouldn't pay a pizza delivery man that kind of money. Or a janitor, right? And I highly doubt that any kind with problems asks to see the guidance counselor (guidance counselor said with sarcasm). They need to see the nurse."
"Why is is written here that this guidance counselor is doing community service projects with the kids? That's fluff." 

This is not a joke. I can link my district's website and the files are right there on the homepage. It's appalling.

Drea926

DublinMama said:

Drea926 said:

DublinMama said:

I ordered Buffalo chicken pizza just now and have a 1.5 L of Merlot on hand. I'm probably going to take in just as many liquid calories as I am in solid food. I did this because today I had an 8 year old uttering both homophobic and racial slurs to other children, and was basically told to sit down and take it from admin. So it's total emotional eating. But BFD.

I also ordered a small side salad. This should earn me some bonus points.

Okay, your district sounds scary and makes me feel spoiled. Today when I got back from my department meeting, there was a note on my desk from a student telling me that before he came to the middle school he knew nothing about poetry and now he feels like he found "his gift" and he wanted to thank his teacher for it. 

Yeah, I cried. 

My district is scary. The town Budget Committee has to tape and post their audio on the district website. I won't share all of the gems, but here are my favorites:

"Is it even legal or ethical to pay a 2nd grade teacher $60,000? I mean, is she really even earning her money?"
"Anyone with 15 years experience and a CAGS who is teaching the primary grades is wasting her education and taking the easy way out. I mean, with some training I could teach kids how to read."
"You wouldn't pay a pizza delivery man that kind of money. Or a janitor, right? And I highly doubt that any kind with problems asks to see the guidance counselor (guidance counselor said with sarcasm). They need to see the nurse."
"Why is is written here that this guidance counselor is doing community service projects with the kids? That's fluff." 

This is not a joke. I can link my district's website and the files are right there on the homepage. It's appalling.

So..... you're moving right? (Or at least hunting around for jobs?)

DublinMama

Yuuup. Resumes will be hot off the press as soon as people start posting openings. It's so early now, that I know it will just get tucked in some admin's file cabinet and forgotten. I plan on hand delivering my packages, too. I can't work anywhere that seriously entertains those kind of notions about education/educators.

Drea926

DublinMama said:

Yuuup. Resumes will be hot off the press as soon as people start posting openings. It's so early now, that I know it will just get tucked in some admin's file cabinet and forgotten. I plan on hand delivering my packages, too. I can't work anywhere that seriously entertains those kind of notions about education/educators.

Does the majority of NH feel that way or is it just your area?

(Obviously, I have ulterior motives to get you back to the Commonwealth. ;-) ) 

DublinMama

It's my district. It's like the Twilight Zone there. Two years back there was a vote to either raise the taxes by a percentage that equated to about an $8/month tax bill increase. If they didn't pass it, 20 teachers would need to be laid off in order to accommodate the bottom line number.  Yup, 20 teachers were let go. I found out I was keeping my job March 27th of that year. That's when DH and I decided to pull the goalie and TTC. I got pregnant two months later.

Now they are going after the guidance counselors, because classrooms here are already at state maximums for student:teacher ratios.  They are also cutting any paraprofessional positions that are not legally mandated by an IEP.  I live directly across the street from another district's elementary school, where a teacher with my qualifications would be making over 60K.  The superintendent of my current district can be heard on the audio saying that our salaries are no longer competitive and we are losing good educators. They didn't care. Why would you, when you think my job has the same skill set required to drive a car with a pizza in it?

Drea926

DublinMama said:

It's my district. It's like the Twilight Zone there. Two years back there was a vote to either raise the taxes by a percentage that equated to about an $8/month tax bill increase. If they didn't pass it, 20 teachers would need to be laid off in order to accommodate the bottom line number.  Yup, 20 teachers were let go. I found out I was keeping my job March 27th of that year. That's when DH and I decided to pull the goalie and TTC. I got pregnant two months later.

Now they are going after the guidance counselors, because classrooms here are already at state maximums for student:teacher ratios.  They are also cutting any paraprofessional positions that are not legally mandated by an IEP.  I live directly across the street from another district's elementary school, where a teacher with my qualifications would be making over 60K.  The superintendent of my current district can be heard on the audio saying that our salaries are no longer competitive and we are losing good educators. They didn't care. Why would you, when you think my job has the same skill set required to drive a car with a pizza in it?

That's one of the worst things I've ever heard! I would love to take people who say things like that and have them do our job for a week and see the kind of skills it takes!

lbonga1

verovladamir said: 

3) DH is a total jerk in the middle of the night if I have to wake him. I don't think he means to be, but he totally is. Last night I asked him to feed the baby at about 3:30am, knowing that I'm on my own until Monday evening when I get off work. He complained about it but got up. Then when he came back to bed he said something about how he wasn't going to be able to fall back asleep. Baby started fussing again and I rolled over and looked at the clock. It was 4am and he was passed out and didn't even hear her crying. So I ended up getting up anyway. 

My fiancé does this. He either sleeps through DD crying at night, or he just ignores it…or just tries shushing her without getting up (DD's crib is still in our room). And when I wake him up to ask if he can help, he does, but he gets in a very pissy mood about it. I swear, men have more emotional problems than women sometimes. But usually I just take care of DD at night myself because I'm awake anyway, and I'd rather just get up and make a bottle instead of listening to him complain while he makes one.

My FFFC is that I went in for a second ultrasound today, and it was confirmed that I'm not having twins. I have to say I got my hopes up that it would be. I know it would be a lot more work, and I'd have to trade my car for something else among other things, but I think having twins would be incredibly fun. In either case, I'm happy baby is growing as expected.

tamarar5

My dh is completely useless with the kids at night. His solution is to bring the crying baby into our bed so that I can deal with him.

Um, not helpful. Jerk. E no longer nurses at night, you are every bit as capable of getting him a clean diaper and a cup of milk. Just do it!

kelly321

My confession: The other night at Bible study, I was totally judging one of the other woman's husbands. Our Bible study did coffee hour after church last week (bring snacks, make and serve coffee, clean up), and so he was in charge of their 7-month-old son for about 3 or 4 hours. When we were discussing when to do coffee hour again, she said we would have to let some time pass because her DH is still a little ticked off that he had to watch their son on Sunday. Are you kidding me? This guy works full-time and his work hours correspond with when their DS is awake. And he can't handle watching his own son for 4 hours by himself once every few months??? 

Hearing stories like that make me so grateful for my DH, who really and truly helps out and is staying at part-time so that I can work. He watches the girls on Thurs and Fri all day (mostly - I work from home on Friday so I'm around, too, and jump in sometimes), and when I'm off at 2 conferences next week, he's taking off work and watching them pretty much by himself all week. Go DH! Sorry, couldn't help a brag there

sefferj

I am so tired of the 80+ degree weather here in SoCal! Don't get me wrong I love SoCal, but I would love for it to be cool enough to feel a little bit like winter...

tamarar5

Can we trade a bit? I love winter, don't get me wrong, but I'm seriously over this below zero weather.

TarheelMama202

kelly321 said:

My confession: The other night at Bible study, I was totally judging one of the other woman's husbands. Our Bible study did coffee hour after church last week (bring snacks, make and serve coffee, clean up), and so he was in charge of their 7-month-old son for about 3 or 4 hours. When we were discussing when to do coffee hour again, she said we would have to let some time pass because her DH is still a little ticked off that he had to watch their son on Sunday. Are you kidding me? This guy works full-time and his work hours correspond with when their DS is awake. And he can't handle watching his own son for 4 hours by himself once every few months??? 

Hearing stories like that make me so grateful for my DH, who really and truly helps out and is staying at part-time so that I can work. He watches the girls on Thurs and Fri all day (mostly - I work from home on Friday so I'm around, too, and jump in sometimes), and when I'm off at 2 conferences next week, he's taking off work and watching them pretty much by himself all week. Go DH! Sorry, couldn't help a brag there

Girl, preach! I probably would have judged too. And you should brag!

I'm the same way. I knew I couldn't marry anyone who wasn't willing to do marriage and parenting 50/50. It was an absolute for me. My parents always shared the responsibilities in our household; no one "wore the pants" or fulfilled a specific gender stereotype. Thus, I searched for the same in a husband. We split parenting duties down the line, and I can't imagine doing it any other way. Whenever I hear about husbands complaining about taking care of their own children, I just can't comprehend it. It's outside of my realm of reality. 

tamarar5

pinesnow said:

TarheelMama202 said:

kelly321 said:

My confession: The other night at Bible study, I was totally judging one of the other woman's husbands. Our Bible study did coffee hour after church last week (bring snacks, make and serve coffee, clean up), and so he was in charge of their 7-month-old son for about 3 or 4 hours. When we were discussing when to do coffee hour again, she said we would have to let some time pass because her DH is still a little ticked off that he had to watch their son on Sunday. Are you kidding me? This guy works full-time and his work hours correspond with when their DS is awake. And he can't handle watching his own son for 4 hours by himself once every few months??? 

Hearing stories like that make me so grateful for my DH, who really and truly helps out and is staying at part-time so that I can work. He watches the girls on Thurs and Fri all day (mostly - I work from home on Friday so I'm around, too, and jump in sometimes), and when I'm off at 2 conferences next week, he's taking off work and watching them pretty much by himself all week. Go DH! Sorry, couldn't help a brag there

Girl, preach! I probably would have judged too. And you should brag!

I'm the same way. I knew I couldn't marry anyone who wasn't willing to do marriage and parenting 50/50. It was an absolute for me. My parents always shared the responsibilities in our household; no one "wore the pants" or fulfilled a specific gender stereotype. Thus, I searched for the same in a husband. We split parenting duties down the line, and I can't imagine doing it any other way. Whenever I hear about husbands complaining about taking care of their own children, I just can't comprehend it. It's outside of my realm of reality. 

This, exactly. I saw someone on Facebook who posted "hubby is watching the baby tonight so I can have a girls night!!"

ummm your husband is not "watching" his child. He is just parenting. He's not like, the babysitter. HUGE PET PEEVE OF MINE. 

Amen!!! You can't babysit your own children.