Since it's a nasty flu season, the hospital I'm delivering at just banned all visitors under 14. Even siblings.
So this means DS doesn't get to be the first to meet LO and dh and I don't get to tell him it's a boy or girl together. I was so looking forward to seeing his reaction and seeing him meet the baby, and felt so strongly that he should be the first to meet the baby.
And now it won't happen. And I keep ugly crying. I hate crying over crap I can't change. I'm just so upset that other people get to meet baby and tell DS about baby and that rather than just DS and dh and baby and I together for the first time, there's going to be someone else at our house during the meeting since obviously DS can't stay alone.
I know I'm not the only one handling this. Please tell me someone has ideas to make this special or better somehow. I'm kind of crushed about it, even though I know it's not a huge thing. It just feels like one.
Re: No children at the hospital
FaceTime? Can you show the new baby through a window while talking on a phone? I'm really sorry you're having to deal with this on such short notice.
Would it maybe work for your H to go and visit your DS right after LO is born? Then you could video chat as a family and share the news together that way?
((Hugs)) - hopefully others will have more and better ideas for you!
Is there a way you could Skype or FaceTime? You would get to see his reaction and he could see you and LO. Not ideal, but maybe a decent alternative?
Maybe you can Skype or Facetime. I know that's not even marginally close to the same thing as your DS meeting the baby in person, but at least you can be sure he sees LO first.
I'm so sorry
I'm with TLex, too.. I might be a little "irrational" and tell everyone no one knows until big brother knows...
I hate to send someone two hours home... Especially if we've had people not visit at the hospital.
And the thought that my MIL could be there upsets me. She's been really unpleasant lately and she will make a big deal about how she got to see the meeting or if she gets to see baby first.
Mom to Lily and Colin!
Mom to Lily and Colin!
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Eta: you could also do no visitors at the hospital so DS is still first? Depends on how long you'll be there I guess but it's what I would probably do.
If MIL wants to be a weirdo and "brag" about being there when they met, well, she sucks. I mean, a reasonable/normal person would recognize it's a moment for the family and kindly step into the other room or something to give you guys a few moments of privacy together.
While it stinks your initial meeting won't take place the way you guys planned, I'm sure your DS will be so thrilled to meet his new brother/sister that it won't matter the time/place.