I posted here a while back about my custody case that was coming up. Well yesterday morning I learned that my Ex, committed suicide. I am so confused and frustrated and mad and hurt and my head is spinning. I don't know what to feel. On the one hand a lot of my worry is gone, but on the other hand How do I tell my sweet baby girl about this when she is old enough to understand.
Then in the middle of all of the craziness that came after finding out about his death, I find out he never took my name off his life insurance policy. So there are now so many more questions that come with this. What if his parents find out it's under my name, what if they try to take me to court, what if, what if, what if.
This single momma is tired, and confused. Every time I closed my eyes last night to go to sleep I pictured his parents finding him, in his bed, in their house, so not much sleep last night. Anyone ever dealt with a situation like this or know someone who did?
Tired momma.
Re: Something I wasn't expecting...
Throwing leaves
I do recomend talking to a councelor they may know better how to explain things to your child.
And about the life insurance policy buisness i know its easier said then done but try not to worry about it. Why borrow worries from tomorrow when you can enjoy today
I think once everything settles down I will go see a counselor, my mom suggested that as well. Hopefully doing that will help me to let go of all the anger I have towards him from the past and now.
Suicide is one of the worst things you can do to the people who love you. Your BD never should have left his child, no matter what was going on with him.
There's a book called "Night Falls Fast" about why people kill themselves. It's literally taken me years to read it because its hard to think about. My biggest takeaway from it has been that people do that because they want to, and you have to accept that their sadness was more important than you. This is going to be something your LO will always struggle with. You need to take care of yourself and your feelings so you'll know how to help your LO in the future.
I think it's important for you to see a counselor sooner rather than later.
This shouldn't have happened. I'm sorry it did. Ill be thinking about you and your family.
Btw- Sorry if I was too blunt. I've been dealing with this for a long time.
I have half siblings who were told he just broke his neck and they didn't know the details until they were adults. I think it was easier for them that way. Kids shouldn't have to take all that in at once.