Dear DH

PumpkinMommaaa

( a little over due )

I understand that you stay at home with DD all day while I'm at work, but that doesn't mean that you can't assist with anything after I get home at five.That only leaves me a few hours to unpack my bags, put the milk away, feed and bathe DD, get her to sleep, cook dinner, switch over laundary, and load the dishwasher (yes, DH we have a dishwasher now. alllll you need to do is rinse off your dish and put it on a rack instead of leaving it in the sink). 

So when I wake up in the morning and tell you that Im takng a shower and DD is sleeping in the PnP next to you, please do not come barging in the bathroom five minutes later stating that I left her screaming by your face. She was sleeping when I left the room and probably woke up to you bouncing all around the bed in your sleep like she does a million times a night. Instead of rushing in to get me out. of. the. shower. how about next time try to soothe her before she gets to the screaming point. 

Also, thanks for eating my breakfast that I saved for this morning last night. You're a real peach.

Let's hear them ladies!

edited for fat fingers

nursebride2be

I understand that your school is closed again today and you can't drop ds1 off at his daycare till 9am so you can go do work. But I would really appreciate it if you didn't give me attitude when I asked you to help me since ds2 was screaming as I got out of the shower. You are the one who said you would pack lunches in the morning leading me to believe you were getting up when I did not sleeping in.
Just for that I am leaving ds2 upstairs in his crib talking to himself while I pump and get my stuff together. To bad if hearing it on the monitor means you won't go back to sleep

VitaLuna

@legitsince86 My night is playing out the same. I have to be up at 445 (it's 4am now) for work, and LO has been fussing since 3am. Of course H wakes up after I've already walked her up and down the halls for 45 min and says "did you feed her?" FFS, this isn't my first night home with her. He's also going to text me to complain all day about how tired he is... while I'm working a 13hr shift on 4hrs of sleep.

HisChamaoleGirl

Dear DH,

Monday was a holiday and Tuesday and Wednesday work was canceled bc of the weather. Yesterday I took LO to the ER since her doctors office was closed. You were welcome to come, but decided to stay in bed. Today work is calling us in, but I have decided to keep LO home to monitor her reaction to her antibiotics and medication. The excitement in your eyes that I saw when you realized you could say you were home with LO and miss work pisses me off. Why? Bc when I suggested I go in and get some work done you said you wanted me to stay for LO bc she "needs her mom." That's when I realized you had no intention of caring for her on her sick day and just wanted off work. That's also when I realized you are being pretty douchey. And you know I don't even like that word.

ravenclaw1

Dear DH

Thanks for being the most awesome husband and dad ever. I appreciate everything you do, all day and night. Please call all the douchey husbands up in here and set their asses straight.

Also, thanks for send in me funny selfies of you and A. They make my heart melt.

-love, ravenclaw

Lesley726

ravenclaw1 said:

Dear DH

Thanks for being the most awesome husband and dad ever. I appreciate everything you do, all day and night. Please call all the douchey husbands up in here and set their asses straight.

Also, thanks for send in me funny selfies of you and A. They make my heart melt.

-love, ravenclaw

This post just made me smile! Thanks @ravenclaw1 for showing the positive side!

MegStark

Dear DH,
Overall, you're an amazing Daddy and Husband.
That said, I'm letting you golf again this weekend. That doesn't mean an "8 hour round" like last time. Come on. It's January. I'm not an idiot. The course isn't backed up. It will take 4 hours. You better be home within 5 hours. I believe that's totally doable. And you'll be with your dad... don't drink too much. K, thanks.

bermybabe68

Dear DH, every night I think about smothering you with my pillow in your sleep. I hate that you can pass out before your head hits the pillow whereas I lay there thinking about a billion stupid little things, then have the cat jump up for cuddles, then listen to you snore. Then when I finally fall asleep, DD wakes! Ugh.

sapphire0228

Mine may have taken the cake this weekend.
Dear DH,

Thank you for not waking up either night LO decided not to sleep. Even though you didn't have to work and I did. Thanks for allowing my mom to come to work with me and LO because I don't have enough milk to leave her with either of you. Thanks for, while my mom is doing a horrible job helping me while I work, going to a bar I've never heard of and not telling me. Thanks for calling me at work hardly able to finish a sentence asking me how to order pizza! I called you in a pizza, paid for it. You're welcome. You were supposed to stay home and work on the boat so we could sell it. But no, the bar seemed more important then either getting the boat done or helping me with LO at work.

Thank you DH's job for putting him through training for 4 hours the next morning as he was hungover! See babe, I don't even have to punish you. The universe will getcha!

Whew I feel better!!

He came home the next day with a bagel and coffee and took LO when she woke up so I could eat in bed. Almost enough. Lol

Albertsgirl1982

Dear dh,

You are amazing and wonderful and I love you but please stop obsessing over soccer. Please stop watching it allweekend when we are supposed to be having family time. Please stop spending hours over stats and articles online and even more on the phone discussing soccer with anyone who will listen. The players and coaches etc do not now and never will know you exist so just. Plain. Stop.

Thanks

(I know this will never happen but I can dream)

noelani42

Dear dh thanks for farting so loud you woke up the baby last night :P

stephl3055

Dear DH, thanks for deciding right.this.second is the time to start training for a triathlon.  I didn't realize you had that much free time.  Also, thanks for deciding your $2000 road bike IS good enough to train with and not spending $4000 on a triathlon bike.  Instead you'll just be "upgrading" your current bike.  I can't wait to take care of LO all by myself while you train after work or on the weekends. 

averettgirl

Dear DH, a soundly sleeping baby means you and me can have sexy time. It does not mean you get to immediately pass out as soon as I lay LO in her RnP. Many a night I have turned from putting LO down only to find you in a coma and I have to go to bed frustrated. And even when I try to wake you up, you just snore louder. Can mama get some lovin' ? C'mon!

Kristonita12

Dear DH, 

Thanks for being so helpful. You truly amaze me. HOWEVER.When I have spent an entire day letting you take naps, watching LO, cleaning everything, doing your laundry and cleaning the house all on my one day off, do NOT tell me how tired you are at the end of the day. 

Love,

 Kristonita12

Violet1372

Dear DH,

Thank you for doing everything you can to be the best H & Papa. I really am surprised that we have had such a good time falling into this parenting thing. I really thought it would be worse. Thanks for working your ass off to provide for us and still pulling your weight at home(most of the time ) I really don't know what we would do with out you
BUT please go to the doc and stop hiding medical problems from me until I pry them out of you. I do NOT need the extra stress of worrying about a possible serious medical issue.. 

Love,
Me

EllaBelle2010

Dear DH,

Thank you so much for understanding me finally and moving toward getting back to the awesome marriage we once had. And thank you for surprising me with the massage on Sunday. I love that we're working toward getting back on the same page. I see that you're trying and I promise to do my part too. I love you and miss you. 

Sarajanelleladd

Dear DH,

Thank you so much for speaking in a condescending tone to every relative we have when discussing how to care for LO during the day. I know you're nervous and scared to leave him, as am I, but our family love him and will take wonderful care of him. Thank you especially for getting in a fight with your sister and making her cry when you told her there were plenty of other relatives willing to watch LO on her 1st day with him when she rolled her eyes at you after you asked her for the 5th time whether she read the schedule/helpful hints sheet I left for her. We have free child care for now, but maybe not for much longer if you keep this up.

kimberlymacrae

@PumpkinMommaaa:   Okay so I am glad my DH isn't the only one that does this. I walk in the door and he jumps up and holds out DS. I am all "Whoa buddy, one second, I need to pee, take off my heels, change out of my blazer, get some water, take an IBprofen and get settled, 10 min.s homes" Then he checks our for the next 3 hours and I do chores like you've listed. I ask that he holds DS while I run and fold laundry... it's like I am asking for him to run a marathon! Goodness.

MJHershey

DH, You're pretty cool. 

Me

Tally879

Dear H,

Thanks for taking care of LO without being asked and being all around a good guy.  I wouldn't mind if you stopped your strike on poopy diapers though.

PumpkinMommaaa

@kimberlymacrae I know!! He lost his job and I now do more work than before? :-/

TKtravels

Dear H, 

Just because you think that one should not have to rinse/wash dishes before loading them in the dishwasher does not mean that one does not have to rinse/wash dishes before loading them in the dishwasher. 

Our dishwasher is a total POS, but if we're going to use it, please let's rinse/wash the dishes beforehand.  I'm tired of scraping baked-on residue off the "clean" dishes. 

Also, I am beyond thrilled that after 5 years of marriage, that is all I have to bitch about.  Thanks for that. 

thedash

Dear DH,

Thank you for helping me get everything prepped for my crazy mornings alone with these two kids. It is super helpful when you make coffee, wash bottles, and pack my lunch. Making me a peanut butter sandwich and putting it in the car before you left today was super sweet too. And now we know that in 7 degree weather for 1.5 hours a peanut butter sandwich will freeze! ;-)

BriR924

TKtravels said:

Dear H, 

Just because you think that one should not have to rinse/wash dishes before loading them in the dishwasher does not mean that one does not have to rinse/wash dishes before loading them in the dishwasher. 

Our dishwasher is a total POS, but if we're going to use it, please let's rinse/wash the dishes beforehand.  I'm tired of scraping baked-on residue off the "clean" dishes. 

Also, I am beyond thrilled that after 5 years of marriage, that is all I have to bitch about.  Thanks for that. 

Can totally relate!! DH home one evening after I had worked, cleaned, cooked supper, and cared for the baby all afternoon and proceeded to put dirty dishes in the dishwasher full of CLEAN dishes!

Albertsgirl1982

TKtravels said:

Dear H, 

Just because you think that one should not have to rinse/wash dishes before loading them in the dishwasher does not mean that one does not have to rinse/wash dishes before loading them in the dishwasher. 

Our dishwasher is a total POS, but if we're going to use it, please let's rinse/wash the dishes beforehand.  I'm tired of scraping baked-on residue off the "clean" dishes. 

Also, I am beyond thrilled that after 5 years of marriage, that is all I have to bitch about.  Thanks for that. 

I'm your dh too but i just discovered my dishwashers rinse cycle. It rinses so I dont have to!

kennazebrowsky

Loppy19 said:

Dear DH,

Overall, you are fantastic. You set a high standard for the other H's around here. You're invested in our children and make a point to spend quality time with them as much as your work schedule allows.

If you could just stop leaving food in/on the dishes when you put them in the sink and stop leaving food residue in the sink after doing the dishes I would be grateful. We do not have a garbage disposal, so it's nasty.

Thanks! Love you!

Loppy

I hate when they leave food scraps in the sink too

Also leaving trash by the trash can or dirty laundry by the hamper. Seriously dude it's 3 more steps to the left! Lol

I have a good one-

Dear DH

I'm pretty stoked that you are taking us to the beach for a quick get birthday away for me this weekend. It sucks that it's going to be cold...but the gesture is nice.

nbartlett47

Dear DH,
You are a fantastic father. I love to stand back and watch you interact with our son, and I smile everytime I hear you and DS having babbling conversations in the next room.

However, I need some freaking help. I can't do all of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, errand running, etc. all on my own. I know that I did it all before our LO was born and while I was maternity leave, but now that I'm back to working 50 hours a week, it's not possible. I want to spend my time with you and our son, not running around like a nut, feeling severely unappreciated. I know you work hard, too, but I shouldn't have to do all of this while you take naps and putz around on your laptop.

So, please, instead of adding more to my list, let's work as a team to get stuff done so we can spend more time together and with our little guy. This will also lead to you having a more relaxed and present wife after LO has gone to sleep at night.

Love,
Me

noelani42

nbartlett47 said:

Dear DH, You are a fantastic father. I love to stand back and watch you interact with our son, and I smile everytime I hear you and DS having babbling conversations in the next room. However, I need some freaking help. I can't do all of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, errand running, etc. all on my own. I know that I did it all before our LO was born and while I was maternity leave, but now that I'm back to working 50 hours a week, it's not possible. I want to spend my time with you and our son, not running around like a nut, feeling severely unappreciated. I know you work hard, too, but I shouldn't have to do all of this while you take naps and putz around on your laptop. So, please, instead of adding more to my list, let's work as a team to get stuff done so we can spend more time together and with our little guy. This will also lead to you having a more relaxed and present wife after LO has gone to sleep at night. Love, Me

I couldve written this!

redfallon

Dear DH,

Please don't play with the baby and get her all riled up while getting her ready for bed. I love her giggles, too, but then I have an awake baby and not a sleepy/drowsy baby and it's much harder for me to get her to fall asleep.

coraggiosa

Dear DH,

Thanks for being an awesome husband and father. You have never shirked your responsibilities, and you are always my partner in caring for our daughter. You really are the best. 

Love,

coraggiosa