A little back story on me, I am 28 years old, married with one child. I had an ectopic pregnancy in 2008 and had to have surgery to remove the pregnancy (my tube was saved), I have been trying to get into the nursing program at my school for over 2 years. I can finally start this upcoming fall, but now I am having second thoughts.
My reason why, I am getting close to 30 and knowing that I had a prior ectopic, I know my chances for having another one goes up with age.
I wanted to have my kids close in age, that has always been important to me. I want to be a nurse though too. Both of these things are so important to me.
I am not sure if I should just get a certificate and go with that or what I should do?! My husband is the only one working and he is tired of struggling with just one paycheck. I understand completely. If I got pregnant next month, then the age gap would be around 2 years and 2 months.
I called the nursing department today and they said that they have had pregnant students, but it is either too hard on them or they miss one clinical and fail.
What do you think? Anyone in a similar situation like me? Wanting another child and wanting to finish school?
Re: More kids and careers?
Not in the same situation at all but if you work hard at it you can do it! It just may not be easy. As long as you are willing to work hard and know that it will be a struggle at first you can accomplish it. I say follow both of your dreams, you might just have to figure out your work arounds.
Are you planning to go to a 4 year school and get your RN or a two year plan and get your LPN? I know that with the LPN, the two year plan is a little more flexible in this area. And you can ignore my 20 questions at any time Does the nursing program go year round or do you have a break in the summer? If so maybe you and SO could shoot for a due date around then.
Having a history of various types of pregnancy loss myself, I can identify with worrying about waiting too long. But 28 years old is really very young in the world of fertility, especially since you know you have both tubes and were already able to carry a pregnancy to term. If I were you, I would go back to school for two years, then try to get pregnant.
I am now 38 weeks pregnant and I am very lucky that my body handles pregnancy very well, but it is still super tough to work full time and take care of a toddler. I would save yourself that stress by finishing the school program first.
I would finish nursing school first, if that has always been your goal. First, I think you'd feel a good sense of accomplishment. Second, it would be nice to have that additional income when you have a second child. Third, while having kids close in age is nice and I understand that is important to you, having kids farther apart in age can be okay, too.
If your first pregnancy was relatively free of hardships, you might be able to handle nursing school AND pregnancy. You might surprise yourself. I am in graduate school right now and there is NO way I could have done that pregnant because I was so sick in the evenings. But, I also thought I couldn't take two classes at once. I thought it would be too hard for me. My adviser talked me into trying it and it's not as back as you thought. You might surprise yourself.
Again, take my advice with knowledge of bias - I am only having one child, partly because I love my job (teaching) and I want my students to continue to be a priority in my life.
I would finish nursing school first, if that has always been your goal. First, I think you'd feel a good sense of accomplishment. Second, it would be nice to have that additional income when you have a second child. Third, while having kids close in age is nice and I understand that is important to you, having kids farther apart in age can be okay, too.
If your first pregnancy was relatively free of hardships, you might be able to handle nursing school AND pregnancy. You might surprise yourself. I am in graduate school right now and there is NO way I could have done that pregnant because I was so sick in the evenings. But, I also thought I couldn't take two classes at once. I thought it would be too hard for me. My adviser talked me into trying it and it's not as back as you thought. You might surprise yourself.
Again, take my advice with knowledge of bias - I am only having one child, partly because I love my job (teaching) and I want my students to continue to be a priority in my life.
My suggestion would be to complete the nursing program and then plan for another child.
FET #1 Dec 2013 BFN
FET # 2 Feb 2014 BFN
No more frosties
IVF #2. September 2014
PGD yielded 2 perfect 5d blasts
SET November 9, 2014
Nov 23, 2014. Another BFN
Not sure where to go from here.