How Do You Keep Your Sanity??

TashnBabii

Hi ladies! My son is 3 months 3 weeks old and lately I've felt so run down. My life consists of waking up at 6 for work & then come home and take care of the baby. My life revolves around nursing, changing diapers and playing with my son. Although this doesn't sound too bad, it is exhausting & I no longer have time for me. Oh, and forget about my sex life with my husband; that's nonexistent! Lol. How are you ladies dealing with having a baby, especially if you're a FTM like me? Thanks! :-)

PB102012

It's an adjustment. LO goes to her sitter three days a week and on days like that I am up at 5 am. You just have to find a balance, it takes time, but you will get it.

amandarins

You will find a "routine" that works, it can take some time. For us, we always schedule a little extra nanny time each week so that we can go on dates.

Mom38673

I am doing this with kid #2.  First kiddo is 9, so we are starting over.  It's definitely hard, and hard on the body.  You will get a new routine, no worries.  I've found that if I go for a 30 min run during lunch, it really helps (especially on the sunny days).  It's calm, and it helps.  I don't get to do this every day, but I've started on Tues. & Thurs. and one weekend day.  See if you can work in something like that.

roo1oo

It's tough at this age. My LO is 3 months 1 week so I feel ya - he needs someone to entertain him most of the time and I feel like sometimes I don't do anything for myself other than shower and eat. Enlist DH or family a bit more if you can, even for one night a week so you can get out and do something for yourself. Date nights every few weeks can really help you connect with your husband again. 

Lizghannam

I went back to work three days a week solely for the purpose of keeping my sanity! I def. go crazy and keep telling myself they won't be this age forever and it too shall pass Sex life? What is that? We're averaging once a month lol. I'm okay with it just because that's the last thing on my mind but my poor husband. Is this your first? ...I hate to say but it doesn't get any easier. Just when you think  you're about to have some "me" time and get both kids down, one is bound to wake up

We never ask others to watch our kids so we never get a break but I think making sure you go on dates is key. I'm starting to tell myself that it's okay when people offer to watch them, it's not a burden. We do need breaks eventhough we like to think we're super mom and can do it all

So one thing I'd offer, which I'm going to take my own advice, is to schedule date nights...or even just going out by yourself. Good luck!!

TashnBabii

@Lizghannam, you're right! Yes, this is my first. I thought I'd get the hang out this by now! Haha! My husband works 60 hours per week, so when I do see him, it's for maybe an hour before either him or I leave for work. He's off on Sunday ...maybe we can go out for dinner.

LittleNugget93

Exercise!! I cannot say this enough. You may feel exhausted, but that has a lot to do with the fact that you stress out and do nothing to release the energy. I try to go on walks every day and squeeze in a 10 minute work out. Even if it is just squats, bicycle kicks, and a couple bicep curls, I feel immensely better. It really really really helps. 

Carnation77

It's hard.  LO is 5 months now and I can tell you it has gotten easier every month.  Put one foot in front of the other every day and eventually you'll feel like you're getting some breathing space.  If you can, try to work it so both you and your husband get some "me" time each week - maybe just an hour.  It can make all the difference in making you feel like a human being.  It's hard since you work and your husband has crazy hours.  There's really no quick solution.  As my LO's sleep has gotten more predictable it's made it easier for DH and I to hang out and talk  Hopefully that will happen for you too.  Hang in there!