When does the anxiety go away????

samIam7/28

So when does the anxiety of having a preemie go away or does it ever go away?  I honestly feel like I am nuts sometimes!  I feel like if I am not with Ava or have to leave her to run errands, etc., that I am constantly calling to check up on her or in a rush to get home because I am honestly afraid to leave her side for too long!  And she is with my husband! Ugh, sorry for the vent.

lstaylor73

Well, 9 months later and I'm still struggling with it.  But it does get better.  A little.  You just get used to having them and all their little quirks and problems.  The reflux and the delayed motor development have me all worked up most of the time, but everything else seems to be okay now.  But I don't know if it ever really goes away.  Maybe someone else has a better answer.

Mrs. Destructo

For us, when they hit about 6 months adjusted the severe anxiety started to wane. I'm still a bit of a nutcase, but I'm not a crazed woman any more.

I do think that part of this will be with me forever. You can't go through the NICU and not have it change you forever. 

TriciaJoy

I'm still waiting. *sigh*

IAM4UK

Mine went away at 6 months actual age. She didn't have any long term medical effects for my to continue to worry. She was progressing in weight, height, and developement and only lacking in gross motot. It does get easier as they get older. Now, she had spends the night at her grandparents so we can get a night out. It's great.

lauraanddave

I don't have too much anxiety, but I think part of it is because DD was healthy, just a "feeder/grower," and we're still fairly early on...if I do leave the house, it's to run to the grocery store or the bank, so I'm never gone for more than an hour or two, and she's always with DH.  And not that I didn't have complete faith in my DH, but that man is a complete natural with children and he is amazing with DD. 

I'm sure that the first time DH and I go out together, we'll leave DD with my parents, and even though I absolutely trust them, I'll probably be a nutcase.

mcdev

I have to FORCE myself to leave her. ? There is still a part of me that thinks of her as this fragile 1 pound 10 ounce baby. ?I remember just how quickly things could change for the worse when she was in the NICU and in many ways still expect that she'll have setbacks again. ?IT SUCKS!!