FFFC

Erin10408

JollyWife said:

This will totally get me flamed, esp bc of yesterday's post:

We live in a really small community (like, we know every person/family who lives here) that is set away from the town and other housing (hard to explain). The sitter lives a block away. If we drive to her house bc of weather or whatnot I let DS (3 in April) ride IN THE FRONT SEAT. No seatbelt, no car seat.

At all other times he rides rear facing in a properly installed car seat, but every once in a while I let him ride the 30 seconds to the sitter's unrestrained.

All I can say about this is that if I saw this happening...I would call the police. Not even a seatbelt??

ClandestineX

Mommymorticia said:

Mommymorticia said:

I am so wound up today. I have an all day wedding dress shopping trip with friends and her family tomorrow. An aunt that we haven't even met yet had her tell us to look nice, wear nice clothes, no piercings or tattoos showing because she thinks most of her friends are "weird". I am so not going to put up with this shit. I'm not a confrontational person but I'm getting really tired of this crap. Not much of a confession but I needed to vent.

That is SO so rude.

You know I think my favorite shop has a discount on piercings today.....

I re-pierced my eyebrow yesterday and that entire part is red and probably will be for a few days. I am also thinking about re-piercing my lip today.. she'd hate me. Where is this discount?

I guess those are my two confessions.

Mommymorticia

@ClandestineX Sweet! I bet it will look great. Lol I was just jokin'. I would never get a piercing just to provoke someone I don't care about. However, I really have been planning a dermal between my nose and upper lip for months and I just might make it happen tonight or next week.

MsAmeera25

I confess I hate my job that's all I got.

Debbie0580

Treehouse and Disney Jr have been parenting DS all morning. I'm a flippin' zombie today because I was up with DD every 30-45 minutes from 2am to 6:30 when she got up for the day. I promise to be a better mom when they get up from their afternoon naps...

I also wanted to smother DH with a pillow when I was up for the 6th time. He's lucky this time.

sherina825

Debbie0580 said:

Treehouse and Disney Jr have been parenting DS all morning. I'm a flippin' zombie today because I was up with DD every 30-45 minutes from 2am to 6:30 when she got up for the day. I promise to be a better mom when they get up from their afternoon naps... I also wanted to smother DH with a pillow when I was up for the 6th time. He's lucky this time.

I confess that I have elbowed my husband awake and demanded that he go and check on the baby after I have gotten up a couple of times. I'm not going to believe that you (he) didn't hear the baby crying. You're 2 full inches away from me.

tondraluv

@clandestinex @mommymorticia my shop has Ladies Night every Friday 3x3 tattoos for $30 and piercings for $10 if you want to make a trip out my way!

JBDamonM

MrsHartman7 said:

I have a doozy today.  I think of Fin's first birthday as more of a celebration for me and DH, like 'we made it through the first year, no one killed anybody, we're still married and like each other at least half the time, winnnnning'.  Im inviting some close friends over, requesting NO PRESENTS (because he needs nothing and I dont want more crap in my house) and generally patting myself on the back for making it this far <:-P

I could have written this myself. I also plan on enjoying a few drinks at LO's party- to celebrate myself

JBDamonM

@kate_c - HUGS. I have been having some anxiety issues myself since the holidays. I have a referral for a therapist sitting in my nightstand drawer and have since the New YEar - I just can' t find to make myslelf go - I get where you are coming from.

Also - I confess I have never peed in a shower and am thoroughly grossed out at those who pee in a public shower.

My real confressions for the day:

The biggest mistake I have made in motherhood may have been pointing out to DH That daycare is open until 630, when we thought they closed at 6. He is fine with leaving LO there late and it drives me NUTS. There is no reason we cant both get there by 6 and that last half hour should be a emergency buffer only.

Second - lately I have been fantisizing about checking into a local hotel for the night by myself. Ordering room service, reading my book and most importantly SLEEPING..... a quiet night alone..... THat's how exhausted and burnt out I have felt lately.

ClandestineX

tondraluv said:

@clandestinex @mommymorticia my shop has Ladies Night every Friday 3x3 tattoos for $30 and piercings for $10 if you want to make a trip out my way!

I do miss SoCal sometimes, though I was only in Santa Monica (literally across the street from Venice Beach) for the month I stayed there. That sounds like a really good deal too.. =( 

Kate_C

JBDamonM said:

Second - lately I have been fantisizing about checking into a local hotel for the night by myself. Ordering room service, reading my book and most importantly SLEEPING..... a quiet night alone..... THat's how exhausted and burnt out I have felt lately.

Let's get a suite and run away together for a weekend. I'll bring the wine!

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JSS1002

JBDamonM said:

@kate_c - HUGS. I have been having some anxiety issues myself since the holidays. I have a referral for a therapist sitting in my nightstand drawer and have since the New YEar - I just can' t find to make myslelf go - I get where you are coming from.

Also - I confess I have never peed in a shower and am thoroughly grossed out at those who pee in a public shower.

My real confressions for the day:

The biggest mistake I have made in motherhood may have been pointing out to DH That daycare is open until 630, when we thought they closed at 6. He is fine with leaving LO there late and it drives me NUTS. There is no reason we cant both get there by 6 and that last half hour should be a emergency buffer only.

Second - lately I have been fantisizing about checking into a local hotel for the night by myself. Ordering room service, reading my book and most importantly SLEEPING..... a quiet night alone..... THat's how exhausted and burnt out I have felt lately.

You know what's AWESOME though?  If you take advantage, once in a while, of the daycare being open until 630, and meet your DH for dinner or play hooky and go to a movie, or go home and have sex and then go pick up the baby afterwards... 

lpowell333

pinottoparenthood said:

lpowell333 said:

Mine is that LO had one of her overtired, didn't want to take a nap all evening last night day and it sucked.  I don't know why but I can't handle her when she's like that. I usually don't have a temper and are pretty laid back, but when she is clearly indesparate need of a nap and fights it until it's bed time, I get REALLY grouchy.  It doesn't help that my husband works nights so he's asleep in the evenings before work so it's just me and my 10 year old.  I feel guilty when I finally get her to bed and realized that I was being so grouchy/mean at a baby that doesn't know any better.  I blame hormones and stress, but it's still not an excuse.....TGIF and a 3 day weekend to boot!

@lpowell333 Don't feel bad... I am the same way. I have a very hard time dealing with the baby when he gets super fussy for an extended period of time. I actually posted a video of him being completely whiney and fussy to the facebook group when I was at my wit's end, and they just said, "That's nothing! That's not so bad!" So I don't know why it drives me crazy... but it does! I would rather him just scream it out for a few minutes and get over it than whine for hours.

Also, I have never peed in the shower either, and I think it's disgusting. I have forbidden DH from peeing in the shower as well, but I'm 95% sure he does it anyway. At least I don't know about it. Now that baby is in the picture, however, our tub probably gets peed in a lot!

Yes the whole pee thing is gross, I sure hubby does too when I've told him it's gross and you should go before or after the shower.  He did it once while we were in there together and I threw a fit, he knows better now, lol

melissad23

I confess I peed on a stick this morning.  Negative. 

We are hoping for 4-5 months from now, so I don't know why, but good Lord I was panicking and so shaky.

suedell

I confess to getting sadder and sadder about not having more kids. We definitely can not emotionally or financially ( or physically- I am old and tired!) afford more. But I feel a lot more bummed than I thought I would about the end of baby time. I am especially bummed that I will never have a daughter. This is very weird to me because I honestly do not love the baby stage and I am 100% exhausted. Where is this coming from?

ChicagoBroad26

I refuse to listen to kid music. We either listen to classical music (because I love it) on Spotify or my iTunes playlist, which is a stream of 2Pac, Lorde, Pink, Alanis Morissette...all adult stuff. Anyway, Ava was playing with her toy tiger this morning and was talking about taking her tiger for a walk on a gold leash. I couldn't figure out what it meant until I realized she was quoting the song Royals. Huh. 

burneyonboard

pinottoparenthood said:

Here we go! So as some of you may know, my H has been out of town all week. He came back last night very late (after there were plane problems, he missed his connecting flight, yada yada). My in-laws are watching Rhys today so they came into town last night around 8 PM. I went to bed at 9 because I couldn't wait up for DH.

Long story short, he rolls in at midnight and is talking to his parents REALLY loudly, like pretty much shouting. He's excited and probably had a couple drinks at the airport. Anyway, it woke me up and immediately I'm thinking oh no, it's going to wake the baby. Bear in mind, since I have the magic boobs, if the baby wakes up, guess who gets to get him back to sleep? Me. Every time. And also bear in mind that I'm a teacher and I wake up at 4 AM. And finally, bear in mind that I was still half asleep. 

So I literally sprinted to the top of the stairs and angry shout-whispered, "Shut the fuck up!"

Ughh. I woke up this morning and was like oops, did I really tell my H to STFU right in front of his parents? As if they don't hate me enough already... 

I would flip out too...a good nights sleep is worth gold these days! My confession is my sex drive still hasn't returned yet

:-<

JSS1002

burneyonboard said:

Here we go! So as some of you may know, my H has been out of town all week. He came back last night very late (after there were plane problems, he missed his connecting flight, yada yada). My in-laws are watching Rhys today so they came into town last night around 8 PM. I went to bed at 9 because I couldn't wait up for DH.

Long story short, he rolls in at midnight and is talking to his parents REALLY loudly, like pretty much shouting. He's excited and probably had a couple drinks at the airport. Anyway, it woke me up and immediately I'm thinking oh no, it's going to wake the baby. Bear in mind, since I have the magic boobs, if the baby wakes up, guess who gets to get him back to sleep? Me. Every time. And also bear in mind that I'm a teacher and I wake up at 4 AM. And finally, bear in mind that I was still half asleep. 

So I literally sprinted to the top of the stairs and angry shout-whispered, "Shut the fuck up!"

Ughh. I woke up this morning and was like oops, did I really tell my H to STFU right in front of his parents? As if they don't hate me enough already... 

I would flip out too...a good nights sleep is worth gold these days! My confession is my sex drive still hasn't returned yet :-<

Ooooh mine came back full force... which resulted in getting knocked up...which has resulted in zero sex drive. Sorry DH!

JSS1002

melandjames14 said:

While we're on the topic of sex and peeing in showers: I confess that I hate shower sex. There's quite a height difference between DH and myself so it just doesn't work. And the shower is my sacred alone time. I'm usually forward in telling him to get out if he thinks much is gonna happen in there

I"m not really a fan either.  Can't quite figure out the mechanics of it. And I also don't really love showering together -- however, I might feel differently if we had a bigger shower/ 2 shower heads... I feel like right now, nobody gets that clean, and somebody is always shivering. :-)

arschm02

I confess that when I put DS to bed at 6:15 the other night I went yo bed too. I think I may have even fallen asleep before him. I know I didn't last even 10 minutes. So I slept from. 6:30 to 5 am and was still crabby when I had to get up.

MKC12/22/2006

I confess that I'm a grown woman who wants to go see the animated movie Frozen this weekend... I've also played the soundtrack during class a couple times this week (the high school students love it for some reason).

Sol1790

MKC12/22/2006 said:

I confess that I'm a grown woman who wants to go see the animated movie Frozen this weekend... I've also played the soundtrack during class a couple times this week (the high school students love it for some reason).

You must go!!! Best movie eveeeeerrrr!!! And who can resist those songs?? Do you want to built a snowman??? lol my 6 yr old sister is obsessed! We have seen it 2x at the movie theater! And I I will pre-order it soon.

lpowell333

melandjames14 said:

While we're on the topic of sex and peeing in showers: I confess that I hate shower sex. There's quite a height difference between DH and myself so it just doesn't work. And the shower is my sacred alone time. I'm usually forward in telling him to get out if he thinks much is gonna happen in there

i don't like it either. I hate when DH asks if I want to take a shower together.  I always say yeah so I don't hurt his feelings, but really don't care for it.  Especially in the upstairs bathroom, it's tiny for one person let alone two.

La Olivia

ChicagoBroad26 said:

I refuse to listen to kid music. We either listen to classical music (because I love it) on Spotify or my iTunes playlist, which is a stream of 2Pac, Lorde, Pink, Alanis Morissette...all adult stuff. Anyway, Ava was playing with her toy tiger this morning and was talking about taking her tiger for a walk on a gold leash. I couldn't figure out what it meant until I realized she was quoting the song Royals. Huh. 

I confess that I love kids music. I have a kids station on Pandora that predated LO by several years. Raffi rocks! I once tried to talk the hubs into going to see the Wiggles live. Also pre-LO. He said no. I have always worked with kids. That is my excuse and I'm sticking to it.

Edited for spelling.

elbou

Murraydog said:

My friend got married 5 weeks after Eli was born.  I was the maid of honor.  It really pissed me off that she planned the wedding that close to my due date.  She is now pregnant and has honestly been kind of the worst friend in the world over the past year (we've have a really difficult year and she has been completely non-existent through it).........We are planning a longer trip to go back to the midwest to visit DH's family in the spring, and I'm pretty sure I am going to intentionally plan our trip for when she is due.  I know it's stupid and petty, but I want her to know that her due date means as much to me as mine did to her. 

I sorta know how you feel. My friend (supposedly one of my best friends, to boot) asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding and then planned it for the weekend (2 days) after my 25th birthday, which I was planning to celebrate with a great big party. Okay, fine...I love weddings and was happy to celebrate with her on her special day. Until I find out that they separated about 6 months later, and she decided to not tell me for another 3-4 months! It nearly ended the friendship, and it still isn't the same. On the plus side, I no longer feel guilty for not getting her a wedding present. Sorry you're going through something similar.

tondraluv

@ChicagoBroad26 you just stole my heart with your music selection!!!!!!

elbou

My confession: it makes me angry when people don't brush ALL the snow off their cars in the winter, including trunk, hood, and especially the roof. It is such a pain to drive behind someone who hasn't done it. Not to mention that too much blowing snow can be a hazard. I judge people who are too lazy to do it properly.

ClandestineX

elbou said:

My confession: it makes me angry when people don't brush ALL the snow off their cars in the winter, including trunk, hood, and especially the roof. It is such a pain to drive behind someone who hasn't done it. Not to mention that too much blowing snow can be a hazard. I judge people who are too lazy to do it properly.

My husband has a brand new truck he bought a few months ago, he says the bristles on the brush scratches the paint.

To me, the blowing snow is annoying, but I haven't dealt with anything hazardous, even when it seems like Frosty himself jumped from the top of big trucks.

JSS1002

elbou said:

My confession: it makes me angry when people don't brush ALL the snow off their cars in the winter, including trunk, hood, and especially the roof. It is such a pain to drive behind someone who hasn't done it. Not to mention that too much blowing snow can be a hazard. I judge people who are too lazy to do it properly.

Agreed. It can be REALLY dangerous in MN.

arschm02

elbou said:

My confession: it makes me angry when people don't brush ALL the snow off their cars in the winter, including trunk, hood, and especially the roof. It is such a pain to drive behind someone who hasn't done it. Not to mention that too much blowing snow can be a hazard. I judge people who are too lazy to do it properly.

Not gonna lie, I use the big push broom to get snow off my (DHs) truck in the winter. I can't reach all those places with the regular snow brush and the only "scratches" I've noticed are in the underlying dirt all over the truck ">

Meggs2559

Are you ready......

DH and I haven't done it yet....

I know I know. Starting the NuvaRing next week and hubby is like a child on Christmas morning. He's been very patient with me. Flame away ladies, flame away!

JSS1002

Meggs2559 said:

Are you ready...... DH and I haven't done it yet.... I know I know. Starting the NuvaRing next week and hubby is like a child on Christmas morning. He's been very patient with me. Flame away ladies, flame away!

I would never flame somebody for this, I just can't fathom going that long since getting serious with DH... I mean, pre-relationship, I once went two YEARS without sex and it wasn't that big of a deal,but I would feel so disconnected from him if we didn't do it regularly.

Meggs2559

JSS1002 said:

Meggs2559 said:

Are you ready......

DH and I haven't done it yet....

I know I know. Starting the NuvaRing next week and hubby is like a child on Christmas morning. He's been very patient with me. Flame away ladies, flame away!

I would never flame somebody for this, I just can't fathom going that long since getting serious with DH... I mean, pre-relationship, I once went two YEARS without sex and it wasn't that big of a deal,but I would feel so disconnected from him if we didn't do it regularly.

I know it's definitely been hard but I feel like now that I'm done nursing, I'm finally getting back to myself. I've definitely been dealing with body image issues and need to get over it. I had a beautiful baby! I'll take that over a flat, no stretch mark body any day!

JSS1002

Meggs2559 said:

Meggs2559 said:

Are you ready...... DH and I haven't done it yet.... I know I know. Starting the NuvaRing next week and hubby is like a child on Christmas morning. He's been very patient with me. Flame away ladies, flame away!

I would never flame somebody for this, I just can't fathom going that long since getting serious with DH... I mean, pre-relationship, I once went two YEARS without sex and it wasn't that big of a deal,but I would feel so disconnected from him if we didn't do it regularly.

I know it's definitely been hard but I feel like now that I'm done nursing, I'm finally getting back to myself. I've definitely been dealing with body image issues and need to get over it. I had a beautiful baby! I'll take that over a flat, no stretch mark body any day!

It was physically painful for me actually until I quit nursing so I hear ya there.  And I'm the queen of body image issues -- what I"ve learned... DH doesn't care about that at all, its my own baggage... I'm sure your husband just loves you to death and can't wait to be intimate with you,stretch marks and all!

Meggs2559

JSS1002 said:

Meggs2559 said:

JSS1002 said:

Meggs2559 said:

Are you ready......

DH and I haven't done it yet....

I know I know. Starting the NuvaRing next week and hubby is like a child on Christmas morning. He's been very patient with me. Flame away ladies, flame away!

I would never flame somebody for this, I just can't fathom going that long since getting serious with DH... I mean, pre-relationship, I once went two YEARS without sex and it wasn't that big of a deal,but I would feel so disconnected from him if we didn't do it regularly.

I know it's definitely been hard but I feel like now that I'm done nursing, I'm finally getting back to myself. I've definitely been dealing with body image issues and need to get over it. I had a beautiful baby! I'll take that over a flat, no stretch mark body any day!

It was physically painful for me actually until I quit nursing so I hear ya there.  And I'm the queen of body image issues -- what I"ve learned... DH doesn't care about that at all, its my own baggage... I'm sure your husband just loves you to death and can't wait to be intimate with you,stretch marks and all!

That's exactly what he said!
Thanks for the kind words

ClandestineX

cece2682 said:

I have serious body issues as well right now. My hubby hasn't even seen my belly since having the baby. When we are intimate ( which isn't too often), I cover up with a blanket or shirt. He is very into his own body image and maintaining a good physique, that I think he DOES care what I look like and I would be afraid that my belly would gross him out if he saw it. I mean, it grosses me out! It's all flabby and stretch marked. I would be okay with him seeing it if it was just stretch marks, but the flab and all- not so much .i need to just get in the gym and do something about it instead of whining and feeling insecure.

Squats are 1000 times better for your stomach than crunches/sit ups. It will seriously give you a flat stomach. It gave me abs and visible abs for someone who was 330lbs once is like a miracle. When I got the abs, I then did bicycle crunches to top it off. 

But no matter what you're beautiful. I do believe that most guys understand to some extent of what we went through. 

JSS1002

ClandestineX said:

cece2682 said:

I have serious body issues as well right now. My hubby hasn't even seen my belly since having the baby. When we are intimate ( which isn't too often), I cover up with a blanket or shirt. He is very into his own body image and maintaining a good physique, that I think he DOES care what I look like and I would be afraid that my belly would gross him out if he saw it. I mean, it grosses me out! It's all flabby and stretch marked. I would be okay with him seeing it if it was just stretch marks, but the flab and all- not so much .i need to just get in the gym and do something about it instead of whining and feeling insecure.

Squats are 1000 times better for your stomach than crunches/sit ups. It will seriously give you a flat stomach. It gave me abs and visible abs for someone who was 330lbs once is like a miracle. When I got the abs, I then did bicycle crunches to top it off. 

But no matter what you're beautiful. I do believe that most guys understand to some extent of what we went through. 

Squats and also work on the BOSU trainer and with a medicine ball -- my favorite ab exercise actually is probably to get an 8 lb medicine ball and bounce it starting with hands over my head -- woooeeeee just 3-4 of those gets my HR RIGHT up there, and works your core!

And yes, what Clandestine said! You grew a human and your husband loves you both. I actually have no concept of what it is like to NOT have flab and stretch marks - I was an adult onset athlete, marathon runner, etc- but have had flab and stretch marks since I was about 13!