Baby Wise

Nshoults12

Cashingn2 said:

Nshoults12 said:

And to add I would NEVER start CIO at this age. With DD not until about 5-6 months and DS probably same age I like my children to

And that's exactly what we've all been saying. It's not okay at this age. They're crying for a reason. You failed to explain anything in your first comment.

Yea as i reread now i see that i was at the store and commented quickly bc i feel so strongly about this topic and dont believe the book is as horrible as all feel since I havd read it

Lyzza350

AmyG* said:

Nshoults12 said:

And to add I would NEVER start CIO at this age. With DD not until about 5-6 months and DS probably same age I like my children to self sooth. I have seen to many children not be able to.

Being able to self sooth is something that happens when baby is developmentally ready.  It's not something you can teach,

I certainly don't believe that it is something that Crying teaches, crying teaches us very very little.  If you think self soothing is something you can teach, you can start it now by helping baby to find their own thumb to suck on, when a bit older providing a soft cuddly blankie and teddy bear and such.

Of course, people then complain that baby has a bedtime crutch and think that's bad.  But it's not bad.  we as adults have sleep crutches.  most of us get out of our daytime clothes and turn out the lights and lock the doors.  we might get a glass of water for the nightime and a book to read.  brush teeth and go pee before bed.  then when you lay down, most of us have OUR pillow, and we want the covers a certain way.  we might read for bed, or watch the late show to help us wind down.  we might play candy crush or make a to do list for the next day and check out calendars to help our minds settle down.  Those are all things that help us to relax to go to bed, which are forms of sleep crutches. 

 Even more of us only sleep well when dh comes to bed and snuggles, because human touch is so important in keeping us happy and healthy. sounds like most babies I know, but their needs are just bigger
than ours.

Beautifully put...thank you

thesportsgal

Nshoults12 said:

Cashingn2 said:

Nshoults12 said:

And to add I would NEVER start CIO at this age. With DD not until about 5-6 months and DS probably same age I like my children to

And that's exactly what we've all been saying. It's not okay at this age. They're crying for a reason. You failed to explain anything in your first comment.

Yea as i reread now i see that i was at the store and commented quickly bc i feel so strongly about this topic and dont believe the book is as horrible as all feel since I havd read it

You don't think there's anything "horrible" about a book that actually caused children to be diagnosed as failure to thrive by their doctors?? And that the book had to be revised with warnings from the AAP?

To each their own.