I can't believe this. My work told me today not to talk about my daughter anymore. They said that someone on my team has been through a "similar" situation, not the same but "similar" and she has moved on. When I talk about Brooke is causes her to hurt.
Why should I stop talking about my daughter just b/c you have "moved on"? I am sick of walking around everyone elses feelings!
One thing that has kept me coming back to work is the feeling that everyone here cared about me and we were a family. They were so there for me when she passed but I guess 8 months is enough time to "move on". They just crushed me! I lost my daughter when I came back to work! Part of me feels like they are the reason she is gone and then they go and do this.
Sorry for the vent. I just needed a safe place to get it all out. Thanks for listening.
Re: Was told to stop talking about my daughter! (vent)
Wow! Seriously?! I'm so sorry that people are so insensitive. It's one thing to not bring our children up, but it's another thing to say to stop talking about them.
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I am so sorry you have to deal with such insensitivity and downright rudeness. And not for nothing, but if this other co-worker has moved on so much, why does your talking about Brooke upset him/her so much? And why is this co-workers feelings given so much more consideration than yours? Ugh! I am so sorry you have to deal with such ignorance! ((((((Hugs))))))
I can understand others having trouble finding the right words to say to you, but the fact that you are comfortable talking about your angel should be a good and welcomed thing. It's therapeutic! I think this is absolutely ridiculous.
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Thank you all for the kind words. I was so upset yesterday! I still do not view this company the same way I did and I want to leave but I really need this job. If I was the yonger me, I would have told them FU, I quit. I so wanted too but it would not be the best thing at this point in time.
I know who complained and her situtation is nothing like any of ours. She has no right. I will contiune to talk about Brooke to only the people that matter at my work, my friends who have been there for me and still are. Everyone else at my work doesn't matter to me now.
This girl is the new one on our team and she is mean to everyone. As why her feelings matter more than mine I just don't have the answer to that.
Thank you again so much for being there for me. Brooke has put alot of good people in my life and you ladies are more than included!
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People are d*cks. I am so sorry . Brooke was a beautiful and amazing baby girl, and she is still loved and remembered!! F the people who can't understand that.
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Thank you again Ladies! I will contiune to talk about Brooke when and where I see fit. I will not let them conrtol that but I still really need this job. Just now very aware who really cares and who does not at my place of work.
Hugs to all of you for being here for me.
Brooke Elizabeth born Feb 17, 2013 grew wings May 9, 2013 @ 11 weeks & 4 days old from SIDS
Thank you again Ladies! I will contiune to talk about Brooke when and where I see fit. I will not let them conrtol that but I still really need this job. Just now very aware who really cares and who does not at my place of work.
Hugs to all of you for being here for me.
Brooke Elizabeth born Feb 17, 2013 grew wings May 9, 2013 @ 11 weeks & 4 days old from SIDS