I spoke with the counselor at DS1's school this morning. She advised that I not disclose what happened, but rather to reinforce our safety rules with him, remain calm when discussing it, etc. She also loaned me a copy of The Berenstain Bears Learn About Strangers. I thought I would share that with you, especially moms of older children.
The cops though? OMG I am so livid!! After DS2's play group this morning I went in to the police station to follow up on the police report. It turns out the cop never filed it. AND he is off for the next 3 days. I felt like he was really patronizing to me and blowing off the situation. How are they supposed to keep this guy in jail if there is no report for why he was arrested? This makes no sense to me. I assume that the arrest that was made is only based on the other house he broke into right before mine. But my address is not listed in the system at all. The woman at the desk is passing my information on to the cops Sargent, and I will follow up with that.
Yesterday I knew I was in shock. Today I feel so defeated and unsatisfied with the system that I feel unsafe in my house now. There have been some tears of fear and frustration shed. I talked my mom into staying the night tonight because DH left this morning for a business trip.
My lesson learned is that, as with healthcare, we clearly have to be our own advocate in terms of law enforcement. You can't trust anyone to have your best interests in mind.