Opinions please

1stComesLove421

Here's what happened this past week

https://mamatobeblog.wordpress.com/2014/01/11/week-8/

I'd love your input, and encouragement.

One thing I just found out that I did not mention in my blog,

is that before the OB did an ultrasound on me, she allowed for me to use the restroom,

I just read that my bladder is suppose to be full before she was to do one of those.

So now I'm not sure if that's what's caused this whole mess.

I didn't even want an ultrasound to begin with, not this early- but it all happened so fast.

My midwife said that she doesn't even check for a heartbeat until 12 weeks 

and that I have nothing to worry about at this point. But I guess I'm more wondering

 if anyone else has had this experience? I really don't want to see a specialist for a

 vaginal ultrasound, not if it's just to get a more accurate date.

mrsedwards8812

Obviously, I can't say for sure what's going on...but here are my thoughts on your situation based on what I've been told and things I've read:

I *know* exactly when my last period was and my dates were off simply because I apparently don't ovulate on the same schedule that most women are presumed to. I was around 6 weeks when I had a confirmation u/s,  it was done vaginally and it was hard to see the teeny tiny little heartbeat.

It is my understanding that, before 12 weeks, an internal ultrasound it the only way to get an accurate picture of what's going on in there because, before 12 weeks, your uterus is still behind your pelvic bone.

I would certainly consult a different OB. I wouldn't be real fond of going to a specialist either, being so early and trying to go a more natural, less medical intervention route with the pregnancy (I am to). I'm only electing to have one u/s, which is coming up, because we would like to know the sex of the baby. Obviously, if you feel like there could be a problem or have reason to be concerned, you should see whoever you need to see. Unfortunately, if there is no heartbeat then a D&C is what is done to handle a situation like that.

Also, unfortunately, homebirth is one of those things that is still reasonably controversial in many people's eyes and will bash it as hard as they can because they don't agree with or understand it. I understand that as well as I am also planning for a homebirth. I haven't even seen an OB, aside from a brief consult in the ER a few months back and I wasn't even there concerning the baby.

I really hope everything turns out to be alright!

sschwege

Estimated due dates are just that, estimates.  Unless you were charting as in taking your temp every morning, checking CM and position, there's really no way of knowing exactly how far along you are.  At this stage in the game a difference of a week or more is huge!  Your EDD based on the first day of your last menstrual (28 day) cycle assumes ovulation on Day 14.  If you ovulated let's say on Day 21 then you are really a week earlier in your pregnancy than they are assuming, which again makes a big difference in the first tri.  There is a reason they typically do vaginal u/s this early, because they paint a much clearer picture of what's going on.  It's also good that you are still having symptoms.    Time will tell, but I certainly wouldn't be giving up hope yet!  

Why did you end up at the doctor in the first place?  Were you having spotting?

wintersong

Good luck, Jessica. Our thoughts and prayers are definitely with you. Keep positive, and God bless!

1stComesLove421

sschwege said:

Estimated due dates are just that, estimates.  Unless you were charting as in taking your temp every morning, checking CM and position, there's really no way of knowing exactly how far along you are.  At this stage in the game a difference of a week or more is huge!  Your EDD based on the first day of your last menstrual (28 day) cycle assumes ovulation on Day 14.  If you ovulated let's say on Day 21 then you are really a week earlier in your pregnancy than they are assuming, which again makes a big difference in the first tri.  There is a reason they typically do vaginal u/s this early, because they paint a much clearer picture of what's going on.  It's also good that you are still having symptoms.    Time will tell, but I certainly wouldn't be giving up hope yet!  

Why did you end up at the doctor in the first place?  Were you having spotting?

When I called to schedule the appointment, they asked when my last period was and then said "Okay, come in on this day." Not sure why they wanted to see me so soon, but as you could probably tell in the blog- I decided I'm not a big fan of this office anymore. I haven't had any spotting or abnormal pains. Just the typical pregnancy symptoms- fatigue, nausea, enlarged sore breast. Nothing out of the ordinary. I don't intend to get the vaginal ultrasound done, I personally know of 4 or 5 different woman who have openly talked to me about their experience with those, and they all ended with miscarriage. Sure that didn't happen to everyone I talked to, but it happened to 4 out of 9 woman I spoke to about this. How sad is that? I trust that my body will alert me if something is wrong. In the meantime I'll just leave the checkups to my midwife!