The transition for 1 DC to 2 DCs

SoMoNY

Had our second boy on 12/12 and what an adjustment its been from family of 3 to family of 4.

Anyone else find it harder to go from 1 to 2 as compared to when first child arrived? 

Any tips for adjusting to this new norm?

emberlee3

Congrats! For me, #2 was way easier, but of course DS took a few months to adjust. Having my mom to help with cooking and cleaning for a few days was great so DH and I could focus on LOs.

ASmallWonder

Like everything, there are some parts that are harder and some that are easier.  Logistically it's been harder going from 1 to 2 because it just seems like there's always something that needs to be done and obviously it's harder getting two kids out of the house, etc.  But on the other hand, not much phases me now lol  I know that baby won't break if he has to cry for five minutes while I bathe his brother, for example.  

The first few months were hard, I won't lie.  But once we hit about 6ish months it's been a LOT better.  The baby can sit up and understands who his brother is and his brother actually enjoys sitting with him and making faces so I can pee in peace  It does get better, promise

mittensonkittens

I have 3 now, and I think the first year after #2 was born was the hardest. It didn't help that #2 was the most challenging as a baby. I don't have any specific advice. Once the baby gets older and they start playing together, it will get a lot easier. And in case you're thinking about more kids, going from 2 to 3 wasn't as hard as 1 to 2.

SoMoNY

I will say that my oldest (almost 4) has been AWESOME about everything.  He adores that baby and wants to be near him at all times.

I just don't remember it taking so long to get out of the house or get anything done. And I feel like the laundry produced every day is something you would expect from having twins or triplets.  I'm always behind on laundry which is not like me.

I agree with person who said being more relaxed with #2.  I don't check his diaper every 30 minutes nor do I sprint over when he whimpers.  

Glad to hear 2 to 3 isn't bad because I feel like this craziness might shoot down any chance of having a third