time out when to start

remlap235

When do u start time out ???

Smh619

I personally haven't tried time out with my son but I have read that you can start after 1 year just for like a minute at a time. 

singingirl96

my son is 18 months and we've started using it sparingly... only for major offenses (biting).  It seems to help.

vintagejjane

We recently just started at 19 months. It's worked for us for the most part. She has her days, some work better than others.

Samiantha101

I started about a month ago when she was 17 months. She actually enjoys going to her time out chair, so I'm doubting the effectiveness of it.

jnnfrrose6

I've started, but sparingly as well (maybe 3 times total).  Right now, it's more of a distraction tool than anything else, especially since I have to sit with him.  We've only done it for serious things (doing something that will hurt him or someone else) and more than anything else, it gets him away from whatever he was doing wrong and helps me redirect him.

ashiscute

We started around 18 months with DD.  DS is 16 months and I know he's not ready.  It really depends on the kid.

With DD we started with 45 seconds and worked our way up to 1 min.  I did not hold her down in my lap but just sat her in her space on the floor.  She actually seemed to get it pretty fast.  

meglette417

We started at 1, he may not have gotten it then but certainly gets it now and it works very well for us.  A PP said their daughter enjoys going to her chair, you have to put them somewhere away from toys, we do the stairs.

LEIGHLOVE09

I used it the other day on my 18 month old DD. She hit me so she went to timeout. She knew it was bad and she didn't move until I went over to her and told her what she did was wrong. Seemed to work for her. She hasn't hit me again yet.

janinekrause

we started around 15-16 months. It is very effective and she got it very quickly. my DD is now 2, and I feel like 2 is late if you are going to do it. I was never a redirect fan- I wanted her to understand appropriate/inappropriate behavior earlier.  At 2, we are having full discussions about things- it is crazy what she can understand. of course, she is still a baby, but totally knows when she is doing something wrong and has for a long time.

fanofanne

our twins are about 21 months...and we're considering starting time outs soon.  

AlfiesMOM

We don't really do "time out" we just pick her up and take her to the chair and sit her down and explain why what she did was not right. We use it more as a way to deflect than anything. I asume we will start actual ones around two.

hmontty

We didn't use time outs with our DD until she turned 2. Before that age, I don't think they'll really understand the idea of consequences for bad behavior. Before age 2, redirection is probably your best bet.

janinekrause

I disagree that they don't understand consequences for behavior before 2.

as I mentioned, we started early. at 22 months, she was used to dessert after dinner (problem with having a 5 year old). I said if you don't eat your dinner, no dessert. So she ate up the whole meal, and said, mommy all done, dessert now?

Just pointed out that level of understanding before 2. if she gets the positive consequence, and can strong that together, she will definitely understand the negative.

Irishsapphire

It was more effective for my son when he was 2 years old.  And he could talk better and understand what we were saying to him.  And it was even more effective when my son saw another little boy and his brother get a timeout at a playdate/party.  He made sure to point out to other little boy that he got a timeout ("You got a timeout").  And I think it really clicked for my son when he knew he was not the only person to get timeouts.  And he still understands timeout at 3 years old.