Would you leave your LO with a nanny at a resort?

hilsy85

If you went to a resort (beachy Caribbean type) would you feel comfortable leaving your LO with a nanny or at a kids' club/daycare type place there? If we do end up going on the trip we are planning, I feel like I would want to leave him for a an hour or two a day so dh and I can enjoy other activities (snorkeling, diving, etc).

I am thinking I feel comfortable with it but I've never left LO with anyone but my parents or in-laws, so I don't know...

Also do you think you would prefer a nanny hired by the hotel, or a full daycare type center that the hotel has?

Sillygirl85

I wouldn't be comfortable with either at this point.

CnAnA

I don't know that I'd leave her all day at either one.  But an hour or two to go snorkel, I'd probably feel more comfortable with a day care type scenario.  Then again, it just depends which one gives me a better vibe.  I'm not leaving my kid with anybody I'm not comfortable with at a first impression, period.  

hilsy85

CnAnA said:

I don't know that I'd leave her all day at either one.  But an hour or two to go snorkel, I'd probably feel more comfortable with a day care type scenario.  Then again, it just depends which one gives me a better vibe.  I'm not leaving my kid with anybody I'm not comfortable with at a first impression, period.  

It would definitely not be all day--it would be for an hour or two, like you said. 

Of course, this assumes that he would even stay somewhere completely new without me, without losing his sh*t...

Sillygirl85

CnAnA said:

I don't know that I'd leave her all day at either one.  But an hour or two to go snorkel, I'd probably feel more comfortable with a day care type scenario.  Then again, it just depends which one gives me a better vibe.  I'm not leaving my kid with anybody I'm not comfortable with at a first impression, period.  

This would be my problem. After my experience last fall with a daycare that was not good at all, I don't trust my first impression. I would have to spend at least two hours with either one before I would be okay leaving him.

Wally3

Depending on the time. If it was day I would probably do the center at night or nap the nanny. However my ds1 was really shy as a toddler. I would have probably do nanny for him. Ds2 is more outgoing he woud do well in daycare I think.
I have a friend who works as a nanny for a resort. She is amazing - she has watched my kids. Also she has told me about the process they strict about who they hire. Background checks extra.

Wally3

hilsy85 said:

CnAnA said:

I don't know that I'd leave her all day at either one.  But an hour or two to go snorkel, I'd probably feel more comfortable with a day care type scenario.  Then again, it just depends which one gives me a better vibe.  I'm not leaving my kid with anybody I'm not comfortable with at a first impression, period.  

It would definitely not be all day--it would be for an hour or two, like you said. 

Of course, this assumes that he would even stay somewhere completely new without me, without losing his sh*t...

If he is not use to being away and you think he would lose it. I would do nanny. It is easier to get use to one person then a whole center. Also you can usually request the same person so if you leave for a few hours each day it would be the same person every time. Also I would do a lunch or dinner the first time you leave him to make sure it goes okay and the nanny can call you if there is a problem. I would probably save snorkeling and other excursion type activities after it went well with the nanny the first time.
Remember many children cry when you leave. Leave quickly with a quick hug and kiss. The nanny/daycare has dealt with his before and it is much easier if you go quickly. Call in 15 /20 min to check in.

hilsy85

dotmbc said:

I have in May.  We went to Club Med in FL.  They had all day daycare and we also left him at the "pajama club" at night one night (6pm-midnight).

We had only planned to drop him at daycare for an hour or two per day, but they had weird rules where you could only drop off before 9am and pick up after 4.  We didn't pay attention to the pick up rule and picked up at 2 or 3, but they complained every day.  

Overall I felt ok leaving him there.  There were probably at least 5 or 6 teachers between 2-3 rooms that total had maybe 6 kids in them.  Not all of the teachers spoke English so we had one day where we are pretty sure they gave him the resort food instead of our food due to a misunderstanding.  It wasn't that big of a deal....it was a pureed vegetable.

The pajama club was two people watching just our kid and he was about to fall asleep when we dropped him off.  

Thanks for sharing your experience! I guess for some reason I'm not so worried about something bad happening to him while he's there--I'm more worried about him just disappearing. Crazy, I know. 

hilsy85

Wally3 said:

CnAnA said:

I don't know that I'd leave her all day at either one.  But an hour or two to go snorkel, I'd probably feel more comfortable with a day care type scenario.  Then again, it just depends which one gives me a better vibe.  I'm not leaving my kid with anybody I'm not comfortable with at a first impression, period.  

It would definitely not be all day--it would be for an hour or two, like you said. 

Of course, this assumes that he would even stay somewhere completely new without me, without losing his sh*t...

If he is not use to being away and you think he would lose it. I would do nanny. It is easier to get use to one person then a whole center. Also you can usually request the same person so if you leave for a few hours each day it would be the same person every time. Also I would do a lunch or dinner the first time you leave him to make sure it goes okay and the nanny can call you if there is a problem. I would probably save snorkeling and other excursion type activities after it went well with the nanny the first time. Remember many children cry when you leave. Leave quickly with a quick hug and kiss. The nanny/daycare has dealt with his before and it is much easier if you go quickly. Call in 15 /20 min to check in.

Yeah that's a good call actually...one place has a daycare (which they call a creche--so french!) so I should call to see if I could hire a nanny instead for an hour or so in the beginning of the week to just hang out with us while I'm there. I like that this hotel has a kids' program, seems kid friendly etc. As opposed to the other hotel, which offers nanny services, but makes no mention of any kids' program, nothing on the website about "kid friendly pool" or anything...I don't want us to be the assholes who show up with our LO and ruin honeymoons!

nealbl

I wouldn't do either. I would worry too much

Sillygirl85

@nealbl I am glad to know that I am not the only worrywart.

Starry Again

I probably would if I had a different child. Right now she goes psycho when anyone other than her in home DCP or my mother watches her. We hope to take a cruise in early 2015 and leave her in the kids' club (Carnival starts kids' clubs at 2 years old)

Rachelilly23

RVASC811 said:

Definitely safety in numbers. I'd do daycare.

I agree with this. And if he's around other kids he may be more distracted and not as likely to get upset. In the meantime before you go on this trip, it might be a good idea to start warming him up to being left with people other than grandparents.

LorMor

I probably would, DH wouldn't.

Daycare sounds better - more likely to be trained, more kids to be social with.

nealbl

Unless I have reccomendations from personal friends or family who have specifically used the person, I would not use them. Again I worry easily though

Mrs_Lady

I think as long as you could check the daycare or nanny out to nmakke you comfortable credentials etc- of course an hour or two would be bliss to do adult stuff!
Good luck!

AMT1107

nealbl said:

I wouldn't do either. I would worry too much

We wouldn't. I would worry to much and I am not very trusting of strangers

ThatWasAHoot

We took DS on a Disney Cruise when he was 10 months old.  We left him in the nursery some nights and he did great and had fun in there!  The girls that took care of him were all college-aged girls who just adored little babies and all were in school for Early Childhood.  I saw them dealing with really unhappy babies and they did really well with those kids, so I felt fine leaving DS there.  He was a super laid-back and happy baby.  Anyway, we talked to them and liked them, so we left him for a few hours :]

Rachelilly23

ThatWasAHoot said:

We took DS on a Disney Cruise when he was 10 months old.  We left him in the nursery some nights and he did great and had fun in there!  The girls that took care of him were all college-aged girls who just adored little babies and all were in school for Early Childhood.  I saw them dealing with really unhappy babies and they did really well with those kids, so I felt fine leaving DS there.  He was a super laid-back and happy baby.  Anyway, we talked to them and liked them, so we left him for a few hours :]

We did this too when DS1 was 21 months. It was great! They also required a password of your choosing to be able to pick up your child. We only left him a couple hours for 2 times while we were on the ship.

hilsy85

Thanks all! i think we are going to try it out with a one on one nanny for an hour or so at first, and then try the daycare center (with me there for a bit) and see how it goes. Worst case, we just  have the nanny hang out with us on the beach and DH and I can go for a dip in the ocean/pool together and then come back while always being within eyesight/earshot.

hilsy85

LauraT25 said:

We are actually considering bringing our nanny on vacation with us if she is still with us when summer rolls around. I can't believe how bourgie we are.

Not at all! If we had a nanny or regular babysitter that we liked, I would do it. I refuse to bring my parents/in laws along because then it really won't feel like a vacation!