Where's the off button?!

tig594

For the first time in several months I find myself kind of missing the sperm donor these last couple days.  Why can't we turn feelings off once in awhile.  Lord knows he doesn't deserve it.  

He had his pre-trial this week and they dropped the stalking, driving on a suspended, and habitual charges for the second time and he only got 6 months in jail for the felony DUI 3rd offense with a plea.  I think he has to go back next week and deal with the probation violation stuff but not sure.  Needless to say, I am not very happy with this sentence and the asst. prosecutor dropping the other charges AGAIN so I called her Wednesday and she had the nerve to say, among other things, that because I happened to talk to him (it wasn't a nice conversation at all) on the phone on Christmas when he called I must not be very afraid of him and hung up on me.  WTF!  I wrote a 3 page letter to her boss yesterday and demanded an apology.  The only reason I answered the phone on Christmas is because my number was supposed to be blocked from the jail and that is the ONLY time I've talked to him since mid-November.  It's not like I'm up there on visitation day or writing him letters and crap.  Do I deserve an apology (not that I'll ever get one) or am I being too emotional?  

MinnesotaMomma91

You deserve an apology. That is unexceptable how she talked to you.

Im assuming she only knows his side of the story? Im also sorry most of his charges have been dropped.

Im going to say i understand missing arias sd. Hes her dad you had feelings for him. Its natural you miss him some times. Hugs

jesuisfatiguee

Wow. Not cool. You definitely deserve an apology. She is showing a severe lack of understanding of abusive relationships. Sometimes the victim is more afraid of what will happen if they don't talk to the perp.

Not cool at all.

tig594

Thanks, ladies.  I did mention in the letter I sent to her boss that I didn't think she should be working with victims of any kind of abuse.  I also think she lied about listening to the conversation.  Too bad there aren't many dark alley's in town.   :-\"

20thirteen

Wow, I would've snapped on that bitch. I have to give props to anyone that could keep their cool in that situation, because I know I would've flipped out! If you don't get a response, you should call the supervisor, lol, and verbally bitchslap them.

rmajbusiness

Lol you are a good one for that letter. I wouldhhave been in her supervisor's office within that next hour. COMPLETELY uncalled for. & I'm there with you about missing bd. I think it's because it's so quiet in the house and it's raining. *shrugs* oh well. the rain will dry up soon along with this bout of emotions. Lol

jokimoto

That's was completely out of line. Sometimes I am so disappointed in people. You may never receive an apology, but at least you made it clear you found the behavior unacceptable.

Not the same situation, but I have received judgement from people concerning things like going back to work and such, from people who don't know my xh and I are divorcing. Also in the hospital, the on call ped kept asking when I'm going to have another baby. Finally to not make it awkward, I said life takes you down many different paths and she maybe my only one. He took that to mean I was depressed and sent a social worker in to talk with me.

People judge and make way too many assumptions. You should really know the whole story and get all your facts before jumping to conclusions.