end of my pregnancy rope - vent and request for advice

susieandmarty

DH and I started trying for this baby in May 2012 - after months of charting I was diagnosed with hashimotos thyroiditis and low AMH .25 - what google says is a good candidate for donor eggs.  We were lucky enough to get 7 eggs and pregnant after a failed fresh cycle.  I spent months getting acupuncture as well.

I recognize that this pregnancy  nd child are a miracle and I am eternally grateful.

That said - I am done. I was crying to DH last night as I realized that it had been 18 months of hyper-vigilance on everything - every feeling, pain, discharge, smell - everything. I am so so done being pregnant.  I am just tired of monitoring my body like this and want a break, you know.  I know that there are women who have been trying longer or gone through more, but starting last night, I feel like I have had enough.

I was talking with my midwife today and she said she could put me down for an elective induction in my 39th week.  I am very tempted, though I begged off until after I see the MD and head of the department on Monday.  Would you take it?  I should give a background note - I never dilated with DD.  In fact, after a weekend of contractions that were inconsistent, my water broke at 40+5 and I was only dilated to  finger tip and immediately started on pitocin.  I fear that even if I wait, I will have the same fate.  AGH - I don't know what to do and was so tempted to just say yes to the induction.  I think having an end date would really help me relax.  would you take the induction (the midwife based on my exam thought I would be favorable). 

Edit: it would also make it easier to arrange care for DD and had have DH clear his schedule - but that is secondary of course to baby health and my mental health

sugarland726

What is the latest she would let you go past your due date? Because you say having an end date would make you relax. That is also an end date. One labor is not the same as the next, even for the same mother. So what happened with DD does not mean it will happen with this LO. Personally, I'd hold off scheduling at this point because a lot can happen in two weeks. But it's your call.

susieandmarty

I think they would not let me go passed 41 weeks, unless I requested it.  Maybe I am just feeling ridiculously hormonal and irrational but for some reason that seems so far away that I could cry thinking about it. 

I also felt I should not schedule without a medical reason for doing so, yet - i think just hearing elective made me feel guilty.  But like I said, the temptation is overwhelming. 

that said - i just ordered eggpant parm for lunch - see if I can get this going on its on.

Heck, i am sure it was the scale, but apparently, I lost like 5 pounds over the past week - i was like, can that be a medical reason to induce?
:-S

Arrgcr

KaitiMac said:

I would not choose to be induced at 39w unless my OB/MW said it was medically necessary.

I also agree with @sugarland726 about asking how far they'll let you go past your EDD. My OB said she'd let me go to 41w before inducing because I'm really trying for a med-free birth. She said if I wasn't trying med-free, she'd call for an induction at 40w. 

This.

megs12914

I wouldn't. I was on bed rest for a month after my water broke at 29 weeks and I fought for every single day I could get for baby. I was miserable in bed from all my back surgeries and just not being able to get out of bed for a month but I did it. Not to mention the constant fear of something going wrong.

I know your situation is different I just wanted to say that when the baby is here, those extra two weeks won't seem like a big deal and you will have accomplished something you didn't think you could. Those two weeks for baby mean so much!

mj0413

First of all, I'm very sorry you're going through this. I can absolutely relate, though I have not been dealing with all of this for as long as you. I can totally understand being done, because I'm right there with you.

I agree and disagree with the previous posters. It's not the best idea to induce, as you already know. However, I think mental health is just as important physical health. If you're mental well being is this big of an issue, I think induction is a viable option. 39 weeks is a full term baby, so it isn't as though you'd be inducing at 35 for kicks and giggles.

Do I think you should induce? Honestly, it's not any of my business, but I do feel like mental health should be a factor as I'm sure it affects the way baby develops and mom handles delivery and newborn life.

Just my thoughts, though. You have to do what is best for you and your family and what you're comfortable with. I hope you feel better soon!