I was't sure where to post this question... I figured I am 34 weeks so here would be good. I just found out the date that my sister-in law is having her C-Section... next week. This is her second child and we come from a big family. Is it rude if I show up in the afternoon to the hospital?
Being pregnant myself I have had to use a lot of my PTO time at work for my own appointments and I am running very low on time so I don't want to take a full day off of work as I need the time for the rest of my appointments and during maternity leave. She never asked me to be there for the actual procedure and I know her husband's family will be there bright and early. I figured that by the time they do the procedure, weight, check and test baby. etc. and make sure she is okay that showing up around 12:00pm or 1:00pm would be okay.
What would you do?
Re: Advice: Would you go to sister-in-law's c-section?
Go after the baby arrives. That way she has some time to recover as well and nurse her baby. I like a little alone time myself so I think going in the afternoon would be best. Two I'm sure they have limits on the number of people in the room so you will have to go staggered anywho.
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You should just talk to her and ask when they think they'd like you to visit. If she says "anytime" or something vague, I would think going that evening or whatever would be fine.
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Thanks, that is what I was thinking about doing... When she had her first child, also via c-section her husband had everyone come up at once and it was a mess... There were so many of us in the waiting room (literally 30 people) and people getting upset that they had to wait because there was a limit of 4 in the room at a time, etc.
I just wanted to make sure that I wasn't being rude by waiting or want her to think I don't care, because I do. But I understand that she will need time to herself and to bond with baby after she is born... some others in the family don't understand that and are there before the procedure and stay all.day.long.
I planned on texting her today and let her know I would come in the afternoon and see what time is good for her. That was I can stop by her house and get things she may need or pick up food or what not.
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Hospital stays are all of 2-3 days max without complications, and hopefully she isn't the judgy type. I preferred people wait till we got home and really didn't want company at the hospital.
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Well I talked to her and she said afternoon is fine, I figured she would say that... (I forgot to mention that her procedure was early in the morning... and I didn't think I should be there since I wouldn't be allowed in the room anyway), but I just wanted to make sure. I was not sure of the "rules" for sister in laws having babies and when I should show up. We have gotten close being that we are both pregnant and only 4 weeks apart. And I didn't want her to think her brother (my husband) and I went not being supportive.
I just didn't want anything bad said about be for "not being there"... sometimes things like this get a little tricky with our family...
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