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HeadRedInCharge

Anybody else ready to join at this point?
Send your facebook email address to me via PM - make sure it's not a comment on my wall (or whatever the heck it's called here)

curlylocks3

Guess everyone didn't learn enough from what went down on July huh?

Bmcmullin01

It is a great Facebook group with a bunch of awesome ladies!! ...FYI

chaysefaith

curlylocks3 said:

Guess everyone didn't learn enough from what went down on July huh?

You can't just dangle that out there in front of us with no explanation!!

mrs_drc_rn

I must know!

chaysefaith

Why do they always post and run?!

maggiexxx

Is it going to be a closed group?

HeadRedInCharge

maggiesingh said:

Is it going to be a closed group?

It's private.

Cstarks2013

It is a really great group I really enjoy it.

curlylocks3

Apologies, I went to heat up dinner. 
This is the crazy long thread on July, regarding recruitment for a facebook group when the recruiter in question doesn't bother to participate in the BMB. 
And as @Brighteyes112 pointed out, the crazies haven't been weeded out yet. 

chaysefaith

@curlylocks3 can you link?

k2k2tog

I'm part of, though barely actively participating in the facebook group. It is a) remarkably drama free and b) not nearly as interesting as the Bump. Believe it or not, despite the lack of anonymity, I feel like I'm building far more connections here than I am there. 

To each their own. 

MSUMands

July is SO fun to keep an eye on

chickpea912

MSUMands said:

July is SO fun to keep an eye on

This makes me giggle, given the fact that so many July ladies couldn't wait to get out of June as they waited for their BMB to be built.  They thought we were nuts

LadyMacaron

Can I ask what the benefit of joining a FB group is? Like, why do I want a bunch of strangers to have access to my personal information/pictures/identity? Genuinely curious. Is this not a helpful enough platform?

Read247

SNLT1012 said:

@curlylocks3 can you link?

This is an 8 pg discussion. They said some nut job was stealing info and pics and creating fake  pregnancy scams to get money and/or sympathy from people. I only made it 3 pages in, but they hated the idea of a FB group...
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12219062/fb-group

MNOpea

LadyMacaron said:

Can I ask what the benefit of joining a FB group is? Like, why do I want a bunch of strangers to have access to my personal information/pictures/identity? Genuinely curious. Is this not a helpful enough platform?

I joined my first bmb's Fb group after our babies were born, I feel like it has allowed me to build strong connections and many of our 130 members have met and are friends in real life now. I may decide to join this Fb group later on but for now I am fine here

curlylocks3

The word "this" in my original post is hyperlinked, but if you are mobile this might be easier:
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12219062/fb-group/p1

katiebartton

LadyMacaron said:

Can I ask what the benefit of joining a FB group is? Like, why do I want a bunch of strangers to have access to my personal information/pictures/identity? Genuinely curious. Is this not a helpful enough platform?

If your page is private I don't think anyone in the group has access to anything except what you post within the group. You aren't "friends" with all of the members.

k2k2tog

LadyMacaron said:

Can I ask what the benefit of joining a FB group is? Like, why do I want a bunch of strangers to have access to my personal information/pictures/identity? Genuinely curious. Is this not a helpful enough platform?

When you take anonymity away, I think that some people have an easier time connecting. And, I do know that people can develop real friendships over the Internet. 

Also, because you're posting under your own name, I do believe there's less drama. 

noryang

MNOpea said:

Can I ask what the benefit of joining a FB group is? Like, why do I want a bunch of strangers to have access to my personal information/pictures/identity? Genuinely curious. Is this not a helpful enough platform?

I joined my first bmb's Fb group after our babies were born, I feel like it has allowed me to build strong connections and many of our 130 members have met and are friends in real life now. I may decide to join this Fb group later on but for now I am fine here

I haev had a similarly wonderful experience with my Feb 2012 mamas. I would honestly be lost without the group some days. (It is pretty darn lonely here for a new mama.) However, we had been together for a year+ before most of us joined a "secret" FB group. The first FB group that came out of that group was not for me and I skipped it. I was not comfortable for a good deal more time. 

I totally get the value in the groups - later. Once real relationships are established. I'm pretty new on this BMB so that's me. 

MrsCase1

Read247 said:

SNLT1012 said:

@curlylocks3 can you link?

This is an 8 pg discussion. They said some nut job was stealing info and pics and creating fake  pregnancy scams to get money and/or sympathy from people. I only made it 3 pages in, but they hated the idea of a FB group...
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12219062/fb-group

Both of these things happened in my original BMBs!!!!!

HeadRedInCharge

LadyMacaron said:

Can I ask what the benefit of joining a FB group is? Like, why do I want a bunch of strangers to have access to my personal information/pictures/identity? Genuinely curious. Is this not a helpful enough platform?

For me (and I know a lot of other people) it's more of an interface issue. I don't find the bump to be mobile friendly enough, so I can't spend as much time here as I can on facebook.

AndreaC428

Those July girls are sassy!

I've really enjoyed seeing our FB group posts pop up on my newsfeed... It's been a nice way to learn a little bit more about my fellow Bump-ers!

NYChick

I've been in several BMBs and fb groups. I find the privacy issues with posting on TB much more concerning than posting on a private fb group. Whatever you post here can be read by anyone on the planet who has an internet connection. You have to be incredibly wary of posting too much identifying info because if you do it would be easy for anyone to find you. This happened to my sister, who found out than an old ex boyfriend was stalking her posts on an ivillage birth month board. To me that is a much greater concern than that some pregnant lady in Ohio will know my name and ..then what? I have never heard a scary story about someone stalked by another member of an online moms group, have you? Seriously, if you have please share. Anyway that's why I don't participate here anymore and it's one reason why I much prefer fb groups. The other is that many people are often more honest, open, kind, and real when they know the name and face of the person theyre talking to.

Bmcmullin01

NYChick said:

I've been in several BMBs and fb groups. I find the privacy issues with posting on TB much more concerning than posting on a private fb group. Whatever you post here can be read by anyone on the planet who has an internet connection. You have to be incredibly wary of posting too much identifying info because if you do it would be easy for anyone to find you. This happened to my sister, who found out than an old ex boyfriend was stalking her posts on an ivillage birth month board. To me that is a much greater concern than that some pregnant lady in Ohio will know my name and ..then what? I have never heard a scary story about someone stalked by another member of an online moms group, have you? Seriously, if you have please share. Anyway that's why I don't participate here anymore and it's one reason why I much prefer fb groups. The other is that many people are often more honest, open, kind, and real when they know the name and face of the person theyre talking to.

Completely agree!!! Plus I feel way more connected to the ladies in the group than to if I were to just know them in here. Their aren't any bullies and not much drama which is great!! It's more private and more intimate IMO than talking to random user names on a forum. And you actually create friendships with people.

allrightmeow

This is still new to me so here is good for now.  But, I have made fantastic friends with "strangers" Ive met on the internet on a totally non-pregnancy site.  Those relationships are going strong almost 4 years on.  We've flown to other cities to meet up and hang out with each other so it can be done.....just not yet here. 

MrsRage

I'm kind of curious to check it out.. How do I join?

HeadRedInCharge

MrsRage said:

I'm kind of curious to check it out.. How do I join?

@MrsRage, send me a private message with your facebook email address

Pepper6

For the FB group, are you admitting anyone who wants to join, or are you restricting it to the more regular posters?  The other private FB group I'm a part of from another message board only admits new people to the group once they're considered a 'reg' because we don't want our info out there to any random who decides to jump in.

HeadRedInCharge

Pepper6 said:

For the FB group, are you admitting anyone who wants to join, or are you restricting it to the more regular posters?  The other private FB group I'm a part of from another message board only admits new people to the group once they're considered a 'reg' because we don't want our info out there to any random who decides to jump in.

@Pepper6, you don't need to be a regular poster to get into the facebook group.

mrsgyaray

Bmcmullin01 said:

It is a great Facebook group with a bunch of awesome ladies!! ...FYI

I love our FB!! Very supportive! I hope to see some more of you in there. 

rachelyoung1984

I think after reading what you ladies have written, a private fb group sounds like a fun thing to do. I lurked with both of my last pregnancies but never really joined in. This time I have and it seems like people have already gotten to know eachother rather well and I'm not really finding a place. I guess I find it harder to get to know so many random people. Something closer knit and more personal seems like a good way to go. Hard to weed out the nuts though, no?

KristaU831

we'll post another call for people who want to join in mid april when we know each other better and again after the babies are born. 

Bmcmullin01

It's great for people who want a more private intimate setting. It is a secret group so you don't have to worry about random people lurking who aren't pregnant. and I find it much easier to post questions or just regular posts in there than in here. It's nice having 100 or so girls than 400+ women in here. It's quicker and easier to check. And believe it or not there is more drama/crazies in here than in there

RaeJ004

We did have a slight stalking case in my original birth month board turned Facebook group. I know the police became involved and many splinter groups have now been formed as a result. I'm with the ladies that don't want to become a part of it until after babies are born. I would much rather get to know people here first.

tbmadeamistake

I joined my last BMB's facebook group, and for a while it was really awesome.  Then some shit went down with one member being NOT AT ALL WHO SHE CLAIMED TO BE and people got extremely, overly paranoid and no one was allowed to be mean, ever (no snark, it was sad).  I left because it felt like a police state, and I literally sobbed because I had made so many friends there and felt like I was leaving them all.  I will not be joining this BMB's group not because I don't want to be closer friends, but because if it all blows up later, I won't deal well with it.  DH doesn't want me to join, either, because of how upset I got last time.  I like the way it is on this board, so I'll stay here for now and hope that a lot of you do, as well

AshB11

I barely post here, that doesn't mean I'm any less who I say I am. FB is just easier for me to keep up with.

Bmcmullin01

AshB11 said:

I barely post here, that doesn't mean I'm any less who I say I am. FB is just easier for me to keep up with.

Same...plus it's easier on mobile which I am 99% of the time

futuremrseagle

@HeadRedInCharge is accepting of all people because some people may not be regular posters on TB like they are on facebook. I rarely post here, but am pretty much a FB whore. And I'm not a creep, a dude, or sketchy in the least (or so I hope!). Different strokes for different folks.

mek20

YGPM @Headredincharge!!