Ruptured Ectopic

Marie0812

I know that this probably isn't quite the same as the loss that a lot of you feel. But, it was my first pregnancy. I went to ER on Friday and came home at 5 am on Saturday after emergency surgery without my baby and without my right Fallopian tube. I feel empty. The worst part is that I was alone. I'm a military wife and my husband wasn't home.

Does it ever get better? Will I ever stop being jealous of my friends for being pregnant right now?

P.S. I'm also pissed that I physically recovered so quickly. Is that weird?? It's like life just went on despite the fact that my world is turned upside down.

katib77

The loss of a baby is hard, no matter when you lost your little one. And ectopic with tubal removal is traumatic. Having had two losses and four years of infertility I can say it gets a little easier to handle in some ways, worse in others. I've almost gotten just used to it sadly. But for you, its still so fresh its hard to see the light. Take time to grieve and if you ever feel the sadness is too much, talk to a counselor, bases have those for you if your SO is serving.

missgore04

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I can't imagine going through it alone.

As far as will we ever not feel jealous...I wish I had the answer! I'm really struggling with that right now. We have a puppy that just turned one today and everybody had really cute comments on his picture....except for the one that said "I think it's time for a kid" (implying that I treat him too much like a real child) ---really using all my self-control to not let that person know what I'm going through!!! I have to see every stinking little picture of everyone's babies...surely they can deal with pics of my dog!!

Anyways....I have found it to be extremely helpful to open up to a trusted friend. For me, it is just nice to know that someone else knows what I'm going through...even if she doesn't really understand everything. If you don't have that available, then by all means, we are all here for you. Wish I could give you a big hug right now!

lrendon

I had an ectopic first pregnancy last month that also resulted in emergency surgery and the loss of a tube. I can totally sympathize with you and it does and will get better. Unfortunately it is still hard to see and hear about everyone else's pregnancies but every day I think it gets a little easier. I had a supportive family, but you still feel alone and I suggest you take the time you need to heal and grieve. About three days after the surgery when it didn't hurt to cry I just cried a good cry one afternoon. I'm sorry you had to go through this, but it will get better. Promise.