An Odd Problem

LittleNugget93

I am insecure about my post baby body. I'm still 10 pounds away from where I'd like to be. Unfortunately, I don't feel like I can share my insecurities with anyone because everyone says, "Oh my god! What are you talking about? You don't even look like you had a baby!". I've heard that so much that you'd think it would make me feel great...but really it just makes me feel like my insecurities aren't valid. Even mentioning that I want to start working out again grants me looks as if I'm crazy. 

Anyone else deal with this? I know I just have to get over it...but it sucks right now. Haha.

mcfife09

What will you say to Layla when she is 4 out from having a baby? Will you validate her insecurity about those last 10lbs? Sounds like people are trying to encourage you, sounds like maybe you should listen up. I'm not trying to be snark. You should take a deep breath, take a moment to be thankful you only have 10 lbs to go, take a second to thank your body for making you a mom, and perhaps take a different approach. 

It says your baby is 4 months, I think you should be cleared by your Dr. to exercise. Exercise is good for you on so many levels, hit the gym! I would be willing to bet the people who are giving you crazy looks about wanting to exercise never go to the gym themselves. Because if they did, they would understand that working out is more than just getting a certain body shape, it's good mentally physically and spiritually. 

MelissaMiso

Remind yourself it took 9+ months to grow a happy healthy baby girl. Think about it. That amazing body of yours GREW A HUMAN BEING!!! Think about how much your body rocks for that reason. If it took 9 months to do that, give yourself at least that much as a goal to get back to your basline. Ten pounds over five more months, completely doable. And if you don't hit that goal...you still grew a human being. Simply amazing.

ajbook

I completely understand how you feel.  I am 3.5 months PP and have the same feelings sometimes.  Weight wasn't my problem.  The number on the scale went down quickly, but the size of my body hasn't.  I fully understand that it will take time, just like it took time to put it on.

The things that have helped me feel better are:

-buying a pair or two of pants that fit well

-exercising daily (or at least regularly) even if it is just 15 minutes or a few sets of push ups

-water, water, water

-picking an area or part of my body I am happy with and focusing on that (I think my legs look great!)

-coming up with a go-to mantra for when the negative thoughts enter my mind, something I can repeat to myself instead of whatever pessimistic view I had