miscarriage - in my 5th week. what the heck? is this normal its taking soooo long??

twobabiesforme

Hard enough to lose your baby, why does it have to drag on so long?!  Feeling so upset. 

I am trying to avoid the d n c cuz I'm so scared of it, but anyone else gone through 5+ weeks of miscarriage? I am being followed by an ob, and currently on miso

Islandgirl10

I think I know how you feel. I am going on 6 1/2 weeks of bleeding and occasional cramping. I have yet to have a day where the bleeding would be considered "spotting".  I am so sick and tired of wearing a pad.  I know it seems trivial, but it's just the last straw after all of the pain (emotional and physical) of this horrible miscarriage. I want to physical part of it to be finished so I can focus on healing emotionally.  Every time I use the bathroom, it's a fresh reminder of my loss.

twobabiesforme

i know. its just never ending. how cruel!! its stressing me so bad

twobabiesforme

im waiting for it to slow down so i can do yet another ultrasound (ive lost track how many i've had), and it just seems to keep going. I just did the miso last thurs-sat. uggggghhhh why does this have to go on so long?!?! I reaallllly dont want to do the d & c. 

Ohliveeuh

Hi ladies, I haven't posted on here before but didn't feel like doing an intro. this post really hit home for me and I feel like I can relate to a lot of things that were said. Long story short, at 8 weeks pregnant I found out I had a blighted ovum measuring at 5w6days. Thankfully I started bleeding within a few days and had the miscarriage naturally within the first week. But, I have still continued to bleed. Today it has been 4 weeks so far and like "islandgirl10" I have yet to have a day that would be considered "spotting" I desperately do not want a D&C but the daily reminder of my loss is making it difficult to move on. Plus I am sick and tired of wearing a pad every single day. I'm just ready for this to be over!

twobabiesforme

@ohliveeuh - so did your ob say you still have tissue left? Because otherwise why would your bleeding continue if you miscarried naturally? I'm just curious. Because I miscarried Dec 14 I saw the sac and I guess my baby in there really small, but I've had some ultrasounds since and shows still tissue. I thought it was all over when I saw the sac.
ughhhh this sucks huh

Ohliveeuh

@twobabiesforme First, I'm so sorry for your loss. I had no idea it would be this difficult. (First pregnancy, first loss for me).. Because yes. This just sucks!

My OB said I could still be bleeding because of tissue that still needs to come out and she asked if I had passed any recently and I have the past few days but hadn't the week or two prior. (This was over the phone). She said to check back in in another week and we might have to discuss "options like a D&C". For me, I'd like to have another ultrasound to see if they can see any tissue. They can do that right?

Here is some back story: I had gone to the ER 12/8 because of some light spotting and I wasn't even really concerned. Then they did the ultrasound and found out it was a blighted ovum. I saw my OB the next day (12/9) to go over everything. Later that week was the worst of the bleeding, cramping and lots of large clots and what I'm pretty sure was the sac (empty sac because no baby actually developed). After that (a week since the ER visit) my hcg levels had dropped from 12,000 to 4,000. But that was the last blood draw I had (12/16). I wasn't supposed to do another blood draw until a week after I had stopped bleeding, which hasn't come...

twobabiesforme

I'm so sorry for your loss too! Its really sad! I pray you will have your baby one day soon. 

I don't know what it feels like to have had a blighted ovum, I've never experienced that. 

This was my second pregnancy (I have an 11 month old), it was a total surprise pregnancy. The miscarriage all happened so fast after I learned I was pregnant. I went to ER for the spotting, and they did an u/s and found no heartbeat. This was at 6 weeks approx. The tech said she thinks I'm not as far along as I thought. But my periods are right on time so that to me was my first indication that this was going so right. Then the brown spotting turned to bright red blood. I then had another u/s with my ob office and guess what - they found a heartbeat! I couldn't believe it!!!!! It was low at 78 though. And my ob (who is VERY experienced long-timer) looked at me and said "honestly, I've seen this go both ways. Some bleed and go on to have a healthy baby, some bleed and miscarry. All we can do is wait for a week to do another u/s and see if there has been growth. He said that the heart could have just begun beating therefore the low heartrate. And I could have ovulated later than I thought" So, instead of what I thought was goingn to be an appointment of "i'm sorry its a miscarriage", I actually walked out with hope.

That night it turned to bleeding and huuuuuge clots (looked like liver and size of my palm). But still had hope because of what the ob said, and I hadn't seen any "grey tissue".  I stayed home for days and days for fear of what was happening and that I would just bleed on the street or sometihng. Then one day we went to do groceries and I told my boyfriend I need to go to the bathroom, and to please stay right outside the bathroom close by. I dont even know why I said that but its like something inside me was telling me to say that. So I went into the empty bathroom and had some blood as per usual, and felt little clots. I went to look thinking nothing of it because I had had such huuuuuge clots and this was very little. And there I saw the sac and my baby.     You can't mistake such a thing. I just felt SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO empty at that moment. Literally and physically!

We went back to ER where we were with the same doc, and just before he put the u/s wand on my I told him that for sure my baby is not in there. And of course I was right. There was nothing left. (((((((((((((((((((((((( 

It has been u/s after u/s, almost once per week. Including xmas eve morning, and dec 30 so basically the entire holidays. Aaaaaaand I've been stuck indoors because I dont know if I'm going to just bllllleeeeeed or whatever. So its just been awful. To top it off I have no family (just lost my mom 2 years ago, and father abandoned me. Annnnnd my boyfriend reeeealllly doesnt want a baby right now because our relationship isnt that stable (because he is unsure about marriage and wants to be sure before we bring another baby into the world. Yes we got pregnant on the one time we had unprotected sex) He has really been there for me and is not a bad guy at all, its just our relationship is not where I want it to be. And I'm sad about that too.

So, it was the most loneliest miscarriage! 

And he doesn't even live in the country, so guess what, the very next morning after the u/s in ER, i was driving him to the airport because he had to get back to work. 

To answer your question - of course they can do another u/s to check for tissue! And why can't they do more bloodwork? I just ask for it, and its done. Not a big issue, but maybe because I'm in Canada, and healthcare here is different..

twobabiesforme

that reply above was meant for @oliveeuh

Ohliveeuh

Wow, I'm so sorry! What a roller coaster.. I hope that you are able to process and cope with what happened. I'm pretty fortunate with the support of my husband... I'm ready to move on though... Hopefully this process will speed up for the both of us! @twobabiesforme