Please help with advice on hitting

krisstyk1224

DS is 21 months old and was transitioning ok with new DD ( she is 10 months now) but the has been more frequent and intense the past few weeks and I am at a loss on what to do.. He hits and throws objects at her.. sometimes won't look at her etx when I try to include them on activities together which I understand and know I shouldn't force but the throng is out of control.. I never leave him alone with her but as all moms know toddlers can hit within seconds.. The other day when putting together his Xmas train he threw the train track at her and have her a black eye.. Advice please! I am trying time outs for the hitting but that's in his crib and now I am worried he will jump out of it.. Thanks in advance

RedDDD

Its tough.....We have a similar issue but one thing I have heard is not doing time outs in their crib.  The crib is supposed to be a place of refuge for them, quiet time/safety...etc.  So I have just heard to not have them associate their crib with being "bad".  That said I know why people do it because you can't really keep them in a time out at this age so its really the only place you can confine them safely.  We have just started time outs.  I pick him up, put him in the "naughty" spot and I just hold him in place and talk to him.  I say things like "we dont hit our friends/dog/mommy"  "hitting causes owies"  "we have to be gentle"  (DC uses the word gentle with him so I try to be consistent with what they are doing).  And then I say "tell mommy you are sorry" which he doesn't because he isn't really old enough and then I give him a hug and say I love you.  To be honest I think this is more for me....to practice being consistent with time outs.  He gets it sometimes and cries and sometimes he runs off and laughs in my face.  

The only other thing we have done is taken away a lot of the hard objects like hard blocks, plastic golf clubs etc so if he is tempted to throw something at someone it at least wont hurt.  Im no expert but this is what we are doing and Im just working on being consistent and hopefully as he matures a bit he will start to understand more.