UO Torsdag

katieharpiceland

I'm bored!! And stuffed up in my head. So, lets hear them!

DemoDoll

I think maternity pictures are a beautiful, memorable thing that should be done with all pregnancies. This seems to be a pretty UO on TB. Sure, the ones that involve food, belly painting, naked dads, moms wrapped in sheer fabric, are a little tacky.

I just don't know anyone that regrets getting them done but I do know so many women that regret no having them done yet most boards I've been on TB almost seem to discourage them.

tiffy81

I find it hard to believe that people can be truly unemployed for 6+ months that turns into years of not obtaining any kind of job, all the while collecting unemployment. I do believe that people can be out of their field for lengthy periods because they have a hard time getting a job related to their degree or skill/field. But I think its laziness and lack of desire to work at all when people literally have NO job for years and cry that unemployment isn't enough. My DH and I saw this woman on the news who is hoping her unemployment gets extended past the two years or so she's be on it because she will have no way to support her family if she's cut off. Really?? In two years she could've worked her way up at McDonald's, Walgreens, lowes or almost anywhere and be supporting her family, and use her unemployment as a supplement and not sole source of income. Give me a break!

nicole mackenzie

tiffy81 said:

I find it hard to believe that people can be truly unemployed for 6+ months that turns into years of not obtaining any kind of job, all the while collecting unemployment. I do believe that people can be out of their field for lengthy periods because they have a hard time getting a job related to their degree or skill/field. But I think its laziness and lack of desire to work at all when people literally have NO job for years and cry that unemployment isn't enough. My DH and I saw this woman on the news who is hoping her unemployment gets extended past the two years or so she's be on it because she will have no way to support her family if she's cut off. Really?? In two years she could've worked her way up at McDonald's, Walgreens, lowes or almost anywhere and be supporting her family, and use her unemployment as a supplement and not sole source of income. Give me a break!

I find it hard to believe someone could be unemployed that long as well. I'm seeing hiring signs everywhere where I am!

But I'm sure it's possible.

I don't know how anyone could live off of a job at places like McDonald's. I have a decent job in my field and live paycheck to paycheck...

At the same time... I don't think we as a country can afford to pay unemployment benifits for years...

And I didn't think you could get unemployment while working at a place like McDonald's...

Not really sure what the solution is here... Better resources to help place people in at least temp jobs, a better economy...

tiffy81

@nicole mackenzie I believe there's some kind of formula used to calculate how much someone makes at a job in conjunction with their unemployment and if it's less at the job then they get the difference in unemployment and if it's more than what they would get in unemployment then their benefits are reduced or eliminated.

And I agree most people probably could not support their family from working a fast food restaurant but IMO it would be a step in the right direction of getting off government assistance.

Lots of factors, like the ones you mentioned play huge roles in hopefully finding a better solution to the unemployment rate. I just think people become complacent when a check is mailed to them for doing nothing for years. Hopefully we will see things get better in our lifetime!!

DemoDoll

I will agree that 2 years on unemployment is a little ridiculous in today's economy. If it were 2008 or 2009 I wouldn't blink an eye at that.

Buuut...living off a McDonald's income is just not happening. I don't know this ladies situation but assuming she has at least one kid, it would be damn near impossible to pay for daycare and gas to go to work and make money at the end of the day. Take me for an example, starting wage at McDonald's is 1/5th of what I make. It's just not doable. Even taking the max $550 a week on unemployment would force our family to make some lifestyle changes.

I do think it would be beneficial to try to offer training/schooling to those who have been on unemployment longer than 6 months so they can find a suitable paying job.

tiffy81

Actually I can't imagine most people wouldn't agree that years on unemployment isn't a bit ridiculous. That news story just bothered me.

But I will agree with you AprilMay9 that I'm so over being pregnant too. 27 weeks with twins and I'm counting the weeks until my c section. I'm just uncomfortable and ready for these little guys to get here!!

rockstarlaw

Can someone clue me in as to what "uo torsdag" means/stands for?

DemoDoll

rockstarlaw said:

Can someone clue me in as to what "uo torsdag" means/stands for?

UO= unpopular opinion
Torsdag= Thursday

rockstarlaw

Thanks. Still searching for my secret decoder ring #:-S

snowclouds

AprilMay9 said:

Oh great. 5...4...3...2...1 for a welfare and entitlement program debate. I don't have a good uo. I truly hate being pregnant and can't wait for the baby to get here. I hate it so much I can't imagine doing it again. I haven't had ms or complications so I sound like an ass saying this. I'm just sick of the back pain I've had since 12 weeks, constant peeing, heartburn, etc. I am huge and look like shit. End rant.

That mom amnesia kicks in around the time baby turns 1 and you see other newborns then when you get pregnant again it all comes back.  Nice thing though is that having a busy toddler means I don't have as much time to think about the fact that I hate being pregnant as much and time is going by much more quickly.

Emily041285

I agree with @demodoll. I like maternity pictures and will definitely being doing them. (Actually that reminds me to call my friend and reminder her we need to get that scheduled!!)

*sparky*

@AprilMay9 - I am w/you on hating being PG.  I don't even have it that bad at this point, but I am achy, don't sleep well and now I am started to puff up if I eat the smallest amount of salt.  I am just not used to feeling like my body is out of control, and I am tired of being too tired and lazy to do what I want to do.  I know this is the last time I am doing this - I am 42 - and I have to say I am so glad. 

My UO - I am glad the holidays are over.  DH was making me nutty after being home for 7 days straight and was coming up with too many things for me to do around the house.  I was so wiped out after Christmas and New Years that I wanted to lay in bed for about 12 hours a day.  I need my normal routine!

sweetmelissa0707

Mine is a sexy one. I apologize in advance if you feel kink shamed. I don't get the whole -DSM part of that. My opinion is that an abusive, controlling assh***, is one whether he or she is dressed in a nice suit and buying you stuff for your submission. There are plenty of women ( and men) being hit, choked and made to feel like shit about themsves every day in abusive relationships. We tell them to get out. I don't feel like a relationship of that nature involves any kind of love and I would side eye anyone who thought about starting a family with someone who gets off by having absolute control over and hitting those who they supposedly care about.
Eta clarity: I'm sure there is a spectrum, I guess I'm referring to extremes.

hpanabaker

It makes me sad that people "hate" being pregnant.  I get that it's uncomfortable and things are happening to our bodies that wouldn't normally happen and it's weird.  But the end result is a beautiful, precious little person who we get to love.  

Serenla

tiffy81 said:

 

And I agree most people probably could not support their family from working a fast food restaurant but IMO it would be a step in the right direction of getting off government assistance.

Lots of factors, like the ones you mentioned play huge roles in hopefully finding a better solution to the unemployment rate. I just think people become complacent when a check is mailed to them for doing nothing for years.

DH was unemployed for a year after being laid off and MIL was also unemployed but for a year and a half. I'm telling you DH was NOT lazy, I wouldn't let him be trust me. It can take a loooong while to find a job. He did pick up a min wage fast food job but we still ended up on state aid anyway because he didn't make enough.

Serenla

My UO is I think Valentines day is just weird, DH and I do not celebrate it. It would mean more to me to get flowers or a present on some random day in May than to do it on a day when we are supposed to say I love you.

JessieAlbin

hpanabaker said:

It makes me sad that people "hate" being pregnant.  I get that it's uncomfortable and things are happening to our bodies that wouldn't normally happen and it's weird.  But the end result is a beautiful, precious little person who we get to love.  

I don't think anyone is disputing that the end result justifies the ~40 weeks of hating life a little. But there are some of us who really can't fathom doing it again. This little man is an amazing blessing that I wouldn't trade for the world and I can't wait to be his mama. And he is totally enough for me. I'm more afraid of getting pregnant again than I ever was of a pregnancy scare before we were ready.

maelic

sweetmelissa0707 said:

Mine is a sexy one. I apologize in advance if you feel kink shamed. I don't get the whole -DSM part of that. My opinion is that an abusive, controlling assh***, is one whether he or she is dressed in a nice suit and buying you stuff for your submission. There are plenty of women ( and men) being hit, choked and made to feel like shit about themsves every day in abusive relationships. We tell them to get out. I don't feel like a relationship of that nature involves any kind of love and I would side eye anyone who thought about starting a family with someone who gets off by having absolute control over and hitting those who they supposedly care about.

Way to not know anything about BDSM. 

My (apparently) UO: consenting adults get to do whatever they want with other consenting adults. Hooray!

maelic

Jumping on the I hate being pregnant train:

not only do I hate being pregnant, I'm not particularly excited about having a newborn either. I can't wait until the kid's out of the worm stage and moving to toddlerhood. 

deidremaria

hpanabaker said:

It makes me sad that people "hate" being pregnant.  I get that it's uncomfortable and things are happening to our bodies that wouldn't normally happen and it's weird.  But the end result is a beautiful, precious little person who we get to love.  

That's beautiful. I love my baby very much and haven't even met him yet but you can bet your sweet ass I hate pregnancy. Now that I know what's in store there is no way I'm ever getting pregnant again.

J&NL

AprilMay9 said:

Oh great. 5...4...3...2...1 for a welfare and entitlement program debate. I don't have a good uo. I truly hate being pregnant and can't wait for the baby to get here. I hate it so much I can't imagine doing it again. I haven't had ms or complications so I sound like an ass saying this. I'm just sick of the back pain I've had since 12 weeks, constant peeing, heartburn, etc. I am huge and look like shit. End rant.

I'm right there with you. 

rockstarlaw

I really don't mind being pregnant all that much, but hells bells I'm terrified of giving birth. I watched that water birth video that someone posted and everyone was gushing about and even though that third-time mom said "that was so easy!" The whole thing scared me even more. I can't even read about the process. The mere thought of hearing my own vagina tear open scares to bejesus out of me. I realize the birth is inevitable, but holy cow I am scared.

*sparky*

deidremaria said:

It makes me sad that people "hate" being pregnant.  I get that it's uncomfortable and things are happening to our bodies that wouldn't normally happen and it's weird.  But the end result is a beautiful, precious little person who we get to love.  

That's beautiful. I love my baby very much and haven't even met him yet but you can bet your sweet ass I hate pregnancy. Now that I know what's in store there is no way I'm ever getting pregnant again.

=D>

Totally and completely agree w/you.  You can love your baby and still hate being PG.

edoliesmom

Baths suck. I hate them.

thomas930

I guess that my UO would be that I actually love being pregnant. 

I don't love the discomfort or morning sickness or anything like that, but I love seeing that my body can grow a whole person and I actually feel the more beautiful when I'm pregnant than when I'm not. All my body image issues go away for the 40 weeks that I'm pregnant. I'm also a crazy person that it looking forward to labor and delivery.

I also love the newborn stage...and yes, I've experienced a high needs baby with DD so I know it can be hard. 

ETA: no worries, no judgement on anyone that hates being pregnant, people are allowed to not like something. I didn't say this to make anymore feel bad.

porterlove525

I am with all the ladies that believe pregnancy sucks. This is my 3rd pregnancy and it's worse than the other 2, but I will keep trying to get my healthy baby in the end. I hear its worth all of it and I hope that's true!

I also agree with DemoDoll on maternity pics. I think photography is such a great way to tell a story, capture moments and emotions in life. But I agree that there's a line where things can become tacky really quickly.

My UO is that I just do not understand the obsession with setting up nurseries and all that this early. Most babies don't leave their mother's side for the first month, especially if you're bfing. And considering babies are on a 2-3hr schedule of eat, sleep, diaper change and repeat, what's the rush?! I mean you have some time to wash all the clothes, plus who knows how big or small your baby will be when they are born or if they'll hate the bottles and pacifiers you bought or they hate being swaddled or the sleep sacks. I have so many friends who went bananas on their nursery and buying all this stuff for baby who never ended up using 1/2 of it and found themselves back at BRU buying everything they really needed once baby was here. I just don't get it.

sweetmelissa0707

maelic said:

sweetmelissa0707 said:

Mine is a sexy one. I apologize in advance if you feel kink shamed. I don't get the whole -DSM part of that. My opinion is that an abusive, controlling assh***, is one whether he or she is dressed in a nice suit and buying you stuff for your submission. There are plenty of women ( and men) being hit, choked and made to feel like shit about themsves every day in abusive relationships. We tell them to get out. I don't feel like a relationship of that nature involves any kind of love and I would side eye anyone who thought about starting a family with someone who gets off by having absolute control over and hitting those who they supposedly care about.

Way to not know anything about BDSM. 

My (apparently) UO: consenting adults get to do whatever they want with other consenting adults. Hooray!

Like I said at the start... I don't get it... That's my opinion. Some of the elements seem to tread a little to closely to abuse for my tastes.

WifeofaComposer

I just wanted to stop in to say that I knew exactly what "Torsdag" meant. Studying languages is my thing. 

deidremaria

WifeofaComposer said:

Studying languages is my thing. 

You're like that one friend in the clique who just knows and does the most random things.

tiffy81

Serenla said:

tiffy81 said:

 

And I agree most people probably could not support their family from working a fast food restaurant but IMO it would be a step in the right direction of getting off government assistance.

Lots of factors, like the ones you mentioned play huge roles in hopefully finding a better solution to the unemployment rate. I just think people become complacent when a check is mailed to them for doing nothing for years.

DH was unemployed for a year after being laid off and MIL was also unemployed but for a year and a half. I'm telling you DH was NOT lazy, I wouldn't let him be trust me. It can take a loooong while to find a job. He did pick up a min wage fast food job but we still ended up on state aid anyway because he didn't make enough.

But he got a job. Yes it probably sucked because it was min wage but he did what he needed to do for his family. I'm talking about people that refuse to do that. I'd shovel shit if it meant my family got to eat. I just feel like there's money (not always enough money but something) out there to be made whether it's something someone wants to do or not.

WifeofaComposer

deidremaria said:

Studying languages is my thing. 

You're like that one friend in the clique who just knows and does the most random things.

@deidremaria - LOL!! Thanks!! 

ZebNMichelle

I hate gift cards! the visa gift cards. My ex's family are so lazy! and they all got DD visa gift cards, what the hell is a 10year old going to do with over 200.00 in visa gift cars she got for her birthday and Christmas???? as we speak she is loading one on to her iPod, nothing like spending 100.00 at iTunes. ugh!

katieharpiceland

WifeofaComposer said:

I just wanted to stop in to say that I knew exactly what "Torsdag" meant. Studying languages is my thing. 

I was feeling very Danish this morning. LOL...and its easier to understand than the Icelandic word for Thursday (Fimmtudagur) :-D I seriously have no life at the moment.

Serenla

tiffy81 said:

Serenla said:

tiffy81 said:

 

And I agree most people probably could not support their family from working a fast food restaurant but IMO it would be a step in the right direction of getting off government assistance.

Lots of factors, like the ones you mentioned play huge roles in hopefully finding a better solution to the unemployment rate. I just think people become complacent when a check is mailed to them for doing nothing for years.

DH was unemployed for a year after being laid off and MIL was also unemployed but for a year and a half. I'm telling you DH was NOT lazy, I wouldn't let him be trust me. It can take a loooong while to find a job. He did pick up a min wage fast food job but we still ended up on state aid anyway because he didn't make enough.

But he got a job. Yes it probably sucked because it was min wage but he did what he needed to do for his family. I'm talking about people that refuse to do that. I'd shovel shit if it meant my family got to eat. I just feel like there's money (not always enough money but something) out there to be made whether it's something someone wants to do or not.

I suppose but in the end, no matter what, if you just take that crap job you're going to end up on aid anyway so what is the point?

deidremaria

ZebNMichelle said:

I hate gift cards! the visa gift cards. My ex's family are so lazy! and they all got DD visa gift cards, what the hell is a 10year old going to do with over 200.00 in visa gift cars she got for her birthday and Christmas???? as we speak she is loading one on to her iPod, nothing like spending 100.00 at iTunes. ugh!

WHAT! Gift cards are awesome!!! If I could get all gifts (except from my bf) in gift cards I'd be the happiest girl in the world.

fireflygirl12

I think you're kind of naïve if you think anybody can just go out and get a minimum wage job. There are a lot of people competing for those types of jobs, and it is highly unlikely that if you were in a skilled profession requiring a degree previously, that they are going to hire you at McDonalds. They know that you are just going to leave as soon as something higher paying comes along, so they would much prefer to invest time in someone who is going to stick around.

snmetz7

Serenla said:

My UO is I think Valentines day is just weird, DH and I do not celebrate it. It would mean more to me to get flowers or a present on some random day in May than to do it on a day when we are supposed to say I love you.

Well you will start getting flowers on "a random day in May" from now one since it's mother's day lol But I think that falls into the same category as Valentine's Day. Why do we only get recognition and love once a year on some arbitrary day? To make other people money.

WifeofaComposer said:

I just wanted to stop in to say that I knew exactly what "Torsdag" meant. Studying languages is my thing. 

Me TOO! I am fluent in 4 and Know parts of a lot of others. I love it. And when I saw "Torsdag" on my mobile bump I had a feeling that it was started by @katieharpiceland

No UO for me yet so far. Just a reminder to those in book club to put in your nominations today we will do the poll tomorrow.

Serenla

fireflygirl12 said:

I think you're kind of naïve if you think anybody can just go out and get a minimum wage job. There are a lot of people competing for those types of jobs, and it is highly unlikely that if you were in a skilled profession requiring a degree previously, that they are going to hire you at McDonalds. They know that you are just going to leave as soon as something higher paying comes along, so they would much prefer to invest time in someone who is going to stick around.

When I worked in FF I had managers say that they did not look at people with college educations because they knew that they would jump ship quickly. of course that was nerve wracking to me since I was in college.

lilmama412

I really don't mind being pregnant. I am one of the lucky ones who has easy pregnancies. My UO is I don't like the newborn stage. I am excited/dreading the baby's arrival. I wish we could skip to like 3 months, when they can actually start interacting. I am really scared to have a newborn and a toddler!!

Another UO I hate the name Beckett. A friend of mine just named her boy that, it sounds like a dog's name to me.

fourthnlast

DemoDoll said:

I think maternity pictures are a beautiful, memorable thing that should be done with all pregnancies. This seems to be a pretty UO on TB. Sure, the ones that involve food, belly painting, naked dads, moms wrapped in sheer fabric, are a little tacky. I just don't know anyone that regrets getting them done but I do know so many women that regret no having them done yet most boards I've been on TB almost seem to discourage them.

Sorry, don't like them, won't be doing them. I have never regretted not doing them, this time is not any different. Weekly bump shots, fun, yes...but professional maternity pictures? Never gonna happen. We get professional pictures of photos we want displayed in the house, me looking like a disgruntled beached whale is not something I want plastered on the walls.