Spoiled baby

Supergirl2013

Anyone got a spoiled baby on their hands? My LO refuses to sleep in her crib, pack and play or even the car seat. Daddy refuses to let her cry and now all she wants is to sleep on me or the bed. I'm also her human pacifier at night and god forbid I move the roof will come down!

Supergirl2013

I've tried that and when my DH is here he gets pissed at me for letting her cry. He thinks her head is going to pop and god forbid she gets hiccups he becomes an emotional wreck.

mightymousy

GWeiners said:

You should prob just let her CIO

There needs to be a font that denotes sarcasm lol 

fauxvegan

SG, that was in reference to a crazy thread from yesterday. She was kidding. Do not let your LO CIO. You're going to have to "spoil" her. There is no such thing as a spoiled baby, so you have to meet her every need for now. Even if it means her sleeping in your chest every night or letting her comfort nurse for hours or just holding her when she wants to be held. Oh, and change her diaper please.

cantsitwithus

FFS

tyedyeme12

*place popcorn eating gif here*

But for reals, CIO is not okay at this age. It's traumatizing. Babies at this age are in a stage called "trust vs mistrust". They're learning that they can count on mommy to be there. Be there for your child.

TXmamatobe

mightymousy said:

GWeiners said:

You should prob just let her CIO

There needs to be a font that denotes sarcasm lol 

The sarcasm font is a necessity. Let's invent it.

KFED103

I know this great book you can read... Oui???

KFiori1

I really don't understand why people get shocked when their baby wants to be held all the time and be close to you. Yes, it can get tiring and even frustrating at times, but seriously, they are a baby! what did you expect?

OP-hold your baby. She needs you. You simply cannot spoil a baby at this age. Enjoy the snuggles. They don't stay this little for very long.

Supergirl2013

No DH hears anything he picks her right up. Oh and if she was being sarcastic then that really went over my head with that one. Not feeding into anyone bs or immaturity.

Supergirl2013

Cashingn2 said:

Your baby isn't spoiled. She is used to being close to you. There will come a time when a little separation is a good thing, but it's a bit early right now. If she's crying, she NEEDS to be fed, changed or loved. I'm glad to hear that your H doesn't let your newborn CIO though.

She is breast fed and bottled almost every hour to 2 hrs. Greedy lol and she sleeps on me most nights. DH doesn't deal with her at night only to get a bottle.

Supergirl2013

KFiori1 said:

I really don't understand why people get shocked when their baby wants to be held all the time and be close to you. Yes, it can get tiring and even frustrating at times, but seriously, they are a baby! what did you expect?

OP-hold your baby. She needs you. You simply cannot spoil a baby at this age. Enjoy the snuggles. They don't stay this little for very long.

I went through this with my other daughter and she stood in my bed up until she was 4yrs old. I hold my LO all day and night unless daddy takes her.

KelseyKetchum

I'm sorry but I'm with supergirl on this one. I know it's what baby needs but holy guacamole let mommy pee just for a sec without holding you my love! I do usually get LO to sleep in the bassinet at night though. And what age is CIO considered appropriate? I figured around 3 months or so?

Supergirl2013

hercules03 said:

My LO can eat for three hours straight, take a thirty minute break, eat for ten more, rest for an hour, etc. there is no set time. They want to eat and suck - let them! We've been holding her all week and last night, we finally attempted it in bed - side by side nursing - she did great! In six hours, she woke up once, I put the boob in her mouth and we were both back to sleep. It was wonderful. I highly recommend bedsharing! No crying involved! If a baby cries at this age - they NEED something. Sometimes that "something" is just to be held. But they never cry just to cry. Hold that baby.

Yup that's what I do every night side to side sharing. She is using my nipple as a pacifier also for comfort, but that's the only way I can get her to fall asleep after she is burped is letting her stay on my nipple on the bed or holding her upward on my chest. Her pediatrician says it's ok if I can't get to in time and she cries for a few minutes because it clears her lungs. So far the only time she really gets upset is when she has to be changed.

grannyweatherwax

Are a lot of people just confused about what "cry it out" really means?

AFII

Just educate the woman, not make fun if her. Geez. There is so much conflicting advice given from crappy MIL, neighbors and nosey grocery store ladies. In my sleep deprived state, I've almost given in to many dumb ideas from others. Most of us are new to the game,

cboink

pirategirlpink said:

Are a lot of people just confused about what "cry it out" really means?

I was going to say the same thing. Everyone is jumping all over people for using the term CIO but once the poster explains what they are actually doing we see that they are not letting the baby CIO. Confusions reigns supermen.

KFED103

Heaven802002 said:

Are jaxx, Elisan and SG all the same person??

Ding ding ding! We need proof though....Come on @Heaven802002 get to work on that using your mad detective skillz!

Supergirl2013

Ok let's set the record straight. I was reading all the comments and CIO is ok for a few minutes and when I mean minutes I mean 2-5 min is ok not 15 min and beyond! Crying helps strengthen the babies lungs and clears it. This is my 3rd kid so I am no rookie to any of this and definitely know how to take care of a baby. My husband can't here her make a sound and he gets all nervous because this is is first baby which is understandable. My baby does not stay crying and is held all the time unless she is napping like she is now beside me.

ScarlettV

Oh my gosh, I just can't.

AFII

Heaven802002 said:

AFII said:

Just educate the woman, not make fun if her. Geez. There is so much conflicting advice given from crappy MIL, neighbors and nosey grocery store ladies. In my sleep deprived state, I've almost given in to many dumb ideas from others. Most of us are new to the game,

This is her third kid! It's my first and I know all this!

Here's a cookie.

AFII

Whether it's your first or third, doesn't mean anything apparently. Some people get it right the first time, others do it "wrong" over and over. IMO everyone needs to drop the experience, or lack thereof, clarifiers. That MIL who has given tons of advice has tons of experience too. It's just decades old. What we know to be "right" changes everyday. Just give up to date info to those who need it and state evidence or studies or whatever you have... If they don't take the advice, you tried.

Supergirl2013

Loolaide said:

Supergirl2013 said:

Ok let's set the record straight. I was reading all the comments and CIO is ok for a few minutes and when I mean minutes I mean 2-5 min is ok not 15 min and beyond! Crying helps strengthen the babies lungs and clears it. This is my 3rd kid so I am no rookie to any of this and definitely know how to take care of a baby. My husband can't here her make a sound and he gets all nervous because this is is first baby which is understandable. My baby does not stay crying and is held all the time unless she is napping like she is now beside me.

Lol no.

Apparently being a third time mom doesn't mean you know what you're doing.

I can't speak for anyone else and how they are, but when it comes to my baby I know what I'm doing.

lollipoppoop

Supergirl2013 said:

Loolaide said:

Supergirl2013 said:

Ok let's set the record straight. I was reading all the comments and CIO is ok for a few minutes and when I mean minutes I mean 2-5 min is ok not 15 min and beyond! Crying helps strengthen the babies lungs and clears it. This is my 3rd kid so I am no rookie to any of this and definitely know how to take care of a baby. My husband can't here her make a sound and he gets all nervous because this is is first baby which is understandable. My baby does not stay crying and is held all the time unless she is napping like she is now beside me.

Lol no.

Apparently being a third time mom doesn't mean you know what you're doing.

I can't speak for anyone else and how they are, but when it comes to my baby I know what I'm doing.


Well you have asked several questions on this board so one would assume you probably don't know everything

Supergirl2013

CitrusXoXo said:

Supergirl2013 said:

Loolaide said:

Supergirl2013 said:

Ok let's set the record straight. I was reading all the comments and CIO is ok for a few minutes and when I mean minutes I mean 2-5 min is ok not 15 min and beyond! Crying helps strengthen the babies lungs and clears it. This is my 3rd kid so I am no rookie to any of this and definitely know how to take care of a baby. My husband can't here her make a sound and he gets all nervous because this is is first baby which is understandable. My baby does not stay crying and is held all the time unless she is napping like she is now beside me.

Lol no.

Apparently being a third time mom doesn't mean you know what you're doing.

I can't speak for anyone else and how they are, but when it comes to my baby I know what I'm doing.

Well you have asked several questions on this board so one would assume you probably don't know everything
All I asked was if anyone else had a spoiled baby. You don't see me asking what to do with my baby.

ScarlettV

Who asks if anyone else has a spoiled newborn?

Supergirl2013

ScarlettV said:

Who asks if anyone else has a spoiled newborn?

I did. Was that your way of contributing? If so try again..

grannyweatherwax

This is really confusing with all these AEs everywhere.

Supergirl2013

gwinnygirl said:

Supergirl2013 said:

All I asked was if anyone else had a spoiled baby. You don't see me asking what to do with my baby.

Okay, well then the resounding answer should be 'no' then because you can't spoil a newborn. Hope that helps.



And you are the expert on newborns? Did you read that in a mommy and baby book or took a class on it somewhere? I can go more into detail with why I say she is spoiled but this will just take more of my time away from my LO and this and you are not worth it.

notkateanymore

OH FML...I am too tired to even read the thread...somebody PM me a synopsis. Does SG CIO and are her and Jaxx BFF?

MamaGrillo

Another 2 day, 12 pg thread in the making.... Except this one could possibly span two calendar months and years!!
***back to organizing my closet between feedings*** lol

Edit: because reading all this makes my head fuzzy.

blainethetrain

I made this for dinner tonight.

2010weddinggal

katebusse

My favorite pediatrician for my daughter gave me advice when she was born 2yrs ago. He said specifically that you can't spoil a newborn. Period.

azmama20

Yezbick9 said:

Okay, all this discussion about CIO and how awful it is leaves me feeling like something needs to be said. I agree 99.9% of the time. However, if a mom is truly overwhelmed, sometimes it's best and safest to put the baby in the crib and step away for a few minutes to regain some composure. A phone call to someone for backup should be done at this point, of course. This shouldn't be routine (I think I did it twice with my son and not once so far with Sadie), but moms need to understand their limits. PPD took me to a very dark place the last time. It's something to be aware of.

I think the overwhelmed and PPD factors in the situation make it a whole different animal. If you are feeling that way, then yes it's likely best to step away and call for backup. If it's just your kid is crying and you're sick of it of whatever, then you need to suck it up and take care of your kid. They clearly need you.

Aycul18

hckygrl909 said:

I made this for dinner tonight.

That looks amazing!

notkateanymore

Yezbick9 said:

Okay, all this discussion about CIO and how awful it is leaves me feeling like something needs to be said. I agree 99.9% of the time. However, if a mom is truly overwhelmed, sometimes it's best and safest to put the baby in the crib and step away for a few minutes to regain some composure. A phone call to someone for backup should be done at this point, of course. This shouldn't be routine (I think I did it twice with my son and not once so far with Sadie), but moms need to understand their limits. PPD took me to a very dark place the last time. It's something to be aware of.

I completely agree with this 100%...but I think we all know that this is not what our "friends" are talking about when they mention doing it. But yes, I had to close myself in the bathroom last time and cry while DD cried in her crib. 

ScarlettV

Supergirl2013 said:

ScarlettV said:

Who asks if anyone else has a spoiled newborn?

I did. Was that your way of contributing? If so try again..

Maybe you missed my point. You sound like a total fool.

azmama20

@Yezbick9 Yes I agree. If anyone is feeling this way, they need to ask for help,and support from anyone they can.

AFII

Cashingn2 said:

And unnecessary smart ass comment award goes to @AFII.

Thank you! I love prizes!

kyrsties

Both of our babies have been bed-spoiled. So, I just let DS do it just like I did with DD. I just learned to live with it, and yes, I am the human pacifier for the moment (he hates regular pacis). It will get easier though. Appreciate it now while they're your snuggle baby because before long, you will be praying for them to sit still in your lap.