35 weekers this is what you have to look forward to

slmille4

You're still here? Nope I'm just a figment of your imagination.

I bet you can't wait to meet your baby?! I'm actually more excited to not be pregnant anymore. (Yes of course I want to meet baby girl but I'm so done with this being pregnant thing)

Well you looked like you dropped you'll probably be any day now. (Followed immediately by someone telling me I haven't dropped and that I'll probably be another week or two).

Why are you still working? Because I'm not rich like you and can't afford to take time off unpaid before baby.

Sorry. I just hit the end of my rope today. I actually started crying thinking about how I was going to have to deal with this today at church and how I'll be dealing with this all week at work. I'm due next Saturday.

peanutmuse

You speak as though these things are not said to 35 weekers too..

FTR, they are.

slmille4

They probably were spoken to me as well but I may or may not snap this week.

Arrgcr

peanutmuse said:

You speak as though these things are not said to 35 weekers too..

FTR, they are.

Yes. I get a lot of 'bellying down' comments.

Also, I could go any day.

And I'm either too big. Too small. This has actually been going on earlier than that. Boo on rude nosy people.

daisy662

Same comments to me for the past several weeks. Over it.

Pinknights

People have nothing better to do. I've been getting the same comments for two weeks, about to be 37 weeks. I just want to tell someone off, but I'm just never ready at the moment.

mj0413

People are always running their mouths. It's been happening to me for ages. I'm looking forward to it ending, but I know that they'll all just find equally annoying and offensive things to say post partum.

kosbo06

mj0413 said:

People are always running their mouths.

This! I've been hearing for months now about how huge I am and that I will NEVER make it to my due date! Here I am... 3 days from my edd and he is still cooking with no signs a labor...

BABYROSEJEANS17

I just turned 36w and all I have to say is try being constantly compared (throughout your entire pregnancy) to your colleague who had their baby in September.  My pregnancy (knock on wood) has been uneventful and my comments vary between my size (I'm way smaller than her for being as far long as I am), what I eat (again, I eat really healthy and don't eat a lot of fast food), people thinking I was gaining weight due to overeating (they didn't know I was pregnant), I purposefully got pregnant at the same time, etc.  Short of telling the person to STFU, I have to grin and bear it.  People who have nothing better to say just say whatever idiotic thing comes to their head without giving any thought to the person they're saying it to.

thegosiers

My favorite is when coworkers ask in an elevator full of people "are you planning to breast feed?" Please, let's talk about my bosoms at work.

slmille4

@thegosiers. Omg I forgot about that one. It seems really weird that ppl ask that.

gina0485

People keep reminding me of how much my belly has grown. Because, you know, I don't live in my own body or anything.

tabocch

I love it when people ask me if I'm sure that I'm not having twins! I was in the store the other day and a complete stranger felt the need to approach me, ask me when my due date was and then comment about whether or not I was having twins. My co-workers have also been commenting for months now about how I'm not going to make it to 40weeks because of my size.

mrsjenni

This is baby #4 and I"m measuring 6 weeks ahead.  At this point I'm just getting the side tilt "I feel so bad for you" looks.  I even got it from my OB at my appt on Friday. Good times.

pennstated912

The cleaning lady at my work has been commenting once a week since the beginning of November that I'm "huge and must be ready to go." I reiterate each time that I'm not due til Jan 19 and her response is, "Wow, your baby must be massive!"

Another woman tried to convince me last week that sometimes a twin can hide behind another twin in utero and I won't know I'm having twins until it's Go Time. This was her nice way of saying I look huge. Thanks, total stranger.

csandroo

Some funny/cute stories in here but for the most part I don't really get people being pissed about others commenting on baby's arrival. Yes you are all allowed to be annoyed by whatever you want but it seems more weird to me if people DONT comment or ask about the pregnancy. I agree that size comments can be tasteless but I am not annoyed by general inquiries or comments on me dropping, my due date, etc.

If I have a coworker or acquaintance who I know is super into football and I'm in a scenario where I should make small talk with this person I will probably ask them about football opinions and utilize the little knowledge I have on football in the convo. So those people were speaking with obviously know our lives very heavily involve waiting for baby to come right now - why wouldn't that be what they talk to us about??

Maybe should've saved it for UO but I appreciate people asking me how I'm feeling - or asking the sex/name even if I've told them already ... It is an act of kindness to show interest and care even if they have no fuckin clue what they're talking about.

curlyfries1079

thegosiers said:

My favorite is when coworkers ask in an elevator full of people "are you planning to breast feed?" Please, let's talk about my bosoms at work.

Totally! Or people just saying how hard it will be and it just wont work so don't bother... really...

holly142

I hate the "are you sure you're not having twins" comment from people that know I am not.  That implies that I have put on more weight than I should for just 1 baby.  No, I am not having twins and actually my doctor is happy with the amount of weight I have put on! 

On Christmas, my uncle made a fat joke about me (he is also one of the people that made a twin comment in the past).  No, not what I want to hear right now. 

I don't mind everyone asking me how I am feeling.  I agree with carisue143 that it is peoples' way of showing kindness/interest in me.  Sure, I feel like a broken record player sometimes with my answers, but it is still nice of them to care.  Although, while shopping yesterday, I told my husband that I thought it would be funny to tell the next person that asked me when I am due that I am due March 3rd just to see their reaction. 

joynalanson

Since I work in reception most days I get "why won't they let you sit down?" because I would be up and down anyway, my job requires a lot of moving. Then when I do decide to get a chair, "oh they finally let you sit!" I'm the supervisor. I can go get a chair of I wanted. Sometimes it's nice to stand. I think some of the unfair treatment stories get in ppl's heads and they assume every preggo has it bad. Not the case for me. Also I'm not the fragile type, I'm impatient so I like to do for myself.

BShreeve

I've gotten all these comments and more! I'm either "huge" or "tiny" depending on who you ask. People comment how the baby continues to drop. I am also treated like I am disabled and can't do things for myself.

Looking back on it I am simply shocked by some of the things people have said to me- especially from other women, who themselves have been pregnant before.

We are almost there guys.