I'm not doing this anymore. I would rather live the rest of my life not worrying about whether or not I could have children than living my life trying to find any amount of positive possible. My husband should find someone younger and try this with them because I am too old, damaged, and broken to give him anything. This might be irrational and I might regret it later but I'm through but I'm not happy going through this process and can't seem to find happiness in it. All I see is grief, heartache, and broken dreams.
Me: 38 DX: Adenomyosis, Compounded MTHFR, PAI-1 4G variant DH: 34 MFI due to Testicular Cancer
Married March 2012 IVF w/ICSI #1 10 little polar bears FET #1 with 2 polar bears ~Nov 6, 2013 BFN FET # 2 with 2 more polar bears ~March 19, 2014 BFP!!! Beta 1= 276 Beta 2= 662 4/19/14 ~ baby A became an angel 5/02/14 ~ baby B became an angel 5/3/14 ~ D&C FET #3 with 1 male polar bear ~October 3, 2014 October 13, 2014 ~ BFN Fur Children: Memphis 3y, Dutch 3y, Marcel 2y, Meadow 1y
January 2015 Siggy Challenge TTCAL Animals Interacting with Snow
((hugs)) sorry you feel this way. This is a very hard path to follow, and it's even harder when you don't know how things will turn out. I'm wishing you peace.
I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I know its hard to find any positive in anything while going through this. And after so much heartache it's hard to even imagine happiness, real happiness filling every part of you.
I say to my DH a lot "we just have to put our heads down and plow through" or "just keep swimming, just keep swimming" Sending you big hugs and I hope you find some peace and happiness whatever your next steps are.
Me: 30 DH: 30 ~ TTC #1 Since August 2011
BFP #1 2/28/13, Ectopic, Tubal surgery 3/25
Began RE testing 8/8, Dx Unexplained,
IUI #1 11/1=BFN
Moving on to IVF
IVF #1 12/2 ER 8R 7M 4 fertilized
12/7 Transferred 2 "perfect" little blasts 12/17 BFN
New DX= DOR, I fu*kng hate IF
1/14 Hysteroscopy, new clean uterus!
IVF #2: bcp, Lupron, follistim 300, menopur 225. 2/21 8R 4M 3F. 3dt of 2 perfect embryos. 1 little penguin
3/10 BFFN
Regrouping. Seeing reproductive immunologist Dr. Kwak Kim 6/10
Kwak Kim protocol: Metformin 1000mg, vitamin D 4000iu, vitamin E 400iu, baby aspirin, Metanx, levothyroxine 75mcgs
I am so sorry, beautiful! There are days that are really hard. We all have them and we all share your pain. I tell DH that this is our "journey". This is the path that was chosen for DH and I, it may not be easy, and there will be times that it feels like the cross is too much to bear, but we can get thru it if I lean on him when the times are hard for me and vice versa.
I am not sure if you are a religious at all but I will include you in my morning prayers tomorrow. I hope you can find some peace sweetie. ((Big hugs))
Hugs to you! I've felt this way a few times throughout this process and I'm sure if you asked DH he'd say the same thing mine did "you're my girl and we're in this together, wherever it leads." It's a terrible feeling, that you're too old, that even modern medicine can't help you, that if only this and shoulda that. Take a break from IF for however long you need to-a day, a week or a month. Do something fun with DH or your best friend to take your mind off things today and try to take one day, one step at a time. It is so overwhelming to think about everything all at once. All the time, effort, energy, money. But try to focus on today, maybe tomorrow and that's it. We're all here for you and cheering you on!
All welcome Me (35), DH (32) married in May 2013 Dx PCOS 2006 DX hypothyroid 2013 11/2013-Hysteroscopy to remove mystery scar tissue 11/2013 IUI #1 using Femara and Repronex- switched to IVF for too many follies and then cancelled due to lack of growth after more than three weeks of playing with the meds 1/2/14 New doc, new office: Add Metformin 1500mg, Synthroid increased to 75mcg, bunch of OTC supplements 1/28/14 ER # 1 and 2 (yes, that's two ERs in one cycle...long story) 14R, 14M, 12F, 5 made it to blast for CCS biopsy 2/25/14 CCS results in: three healthy frosties!! 4/10/14 FET cancelled due to mucus and lining. Different med protocol for FET 1.2 5/2/14 Transfer of one CCS'd and completely hatched 6 day blast 5/11/14 BFP!!! First Beta 99 5/13/14 Second Beta 170
((hugs)) I am so sorry. I understand where you are coming from and there are times I feel the exact same way or that I just wish DH would be ok with it being us and the fur-babies.
At this point I have been asking myself am I doing this more for him than us since I'm tired of the ups and downs, dealing with all the appointments and insurance and wacky cycles, negatives every month, failed IVM, and I don't want to be a pin cushion anymore. I have given so much blood I think I could feed a vampire for a year.
I told DH, there is only so much longer I will put myself through this because of what it does emotionally and mentally to me and it's starting to take a toll on our relationship, which initially it had brought us closer, it's now making it harder.
Give yourself this time to vent, take a break if you need it and talk to each other.
will be keeping you in my prayers and I hope you find peace no matter what decision you make
Me: 34, DH: 32 TTC Since September 2012 Dx-PCOS, Anovulation, highly irregular cycles March 2013 Comid 50 mg+ TI #1: BFN April 2013 Clomid mg + TI #2: BFN IVM#1 Aug 2012: BFN 20 FEB 2014: CP IUI #1 Clomid 100mg 24 FEB 2014: BFN
so sorry you are feeling discouraged. I've had this feeling before...I am sure we all have. And the age thing always bothers me the most...thinking that if only I was younger than maybe this wouldn't be this way. But unfortunately there is nothing we can do about that. I just hope that whatever road you choose leads you to your happy future.
Me: 36, unexplained
Him: 36, slightly low count
TTC since May 2011
IUI #1 w/Clomid - 10/2012 BFN
Break for cysts
IUI #2 w/Clomid - 12/2012 BFN
Break for cysts
IUI #3 w/Clomid - 2/2013 BFN
Break for sanity and to work on health with diet, exercise, and acupuncture
Thanks ladies. IF sucks and I am in a holding pattern because of this lupron therapy for 3 months... I've only almost finished the first month I talked to DH about stopping this craziness and he doesn't want to. He says that we only have it one try. I told him that the loss I experienced after our FET feels like it took part of my soul and that if I have other losses it will just keep chipping away at my soul and that I feel like I'm going to end up like a shell of a person if we keep losing babies. I just don't feel strong enough to go through all of this loss; and my DH just doesn't get it.
Me: 38 DX: Adenomyosis, Compounded MTHFR, PAI-1 4G variant DH: 34 MFI due to Testicular Cancer
Married March 2012 IVF w/ICSI #1 10 little polar bears FET #1 with 2 polar bears ~Nov 6, 2013 BFN FET # 2 with 2 more polar bears ~March 19, 2014 BFP!!! Beta 1= 276 Beta 2= 662 4/19/14 ~ baby A became an angel 5/02/14 ~ baby B became an angel 5/3/14 ~ D&C FET #3 with 1 male polar bear ~October 3, 2014 October 13, 2014 ~ BFN Fur Children: Memphis 3y, Dutch 3y, Marcel 2y, Meadow 1y
January 2015 Siggy Challenge TTCAL Animals Interacting with Snow
I'm so sorry. I hope he can understand or learn to, it took my DH a while to really understand what it did to me and even then he admitted that he still knew that what he saw and felt was probably nothing compared to what I was going through. But at least he started to get it. I hope yours has that light bulb moment and can understand what this does to you.
Praying for strength for you during these 3 months. Only you know how much you can take and how far you can go. And you're right, each loss, each failed cycle just eats away at your soul and your hope. I am always amazed at the what the ladies here can go through, their endurance and how they keep going. I don't think I could keep going as long as some of them have.
In this holding pattern, do as much for yourself as you can and try to put TTC and the next step out of your mind and focus on you. I found these past few months while we have been in a holding pattern, waiting for our new insurance and my body just not working (like usual) that taking back my life prior to IVM and the other IF treatments and stuff really is helping.
Me: 34, DH: 32 TTC Since September 2012 Dx-PCOS, Anovulation, highly irregular cycles March 2013 Comid 50 mg+ TI #1: BFN April 2013 Clomid mg + TI #2: BFN IVM#1 Aug 2012: BFN 20 FEB 2014: CP IUI #1 Clomid 100mg 24 FEB 2014: BFN
I'm so sorry girl! It's so hard and frustrating. I too have felt like it was all my fault and that if DH was with someone else it would be so much easier. He reminds me that it's not "me" it's "us" and "we" will get through together...we always do. I hope you continue to pick up the pieces and are able to move forward. Only you know when it is time to move forward with whatever path you choose to take...Goodluck and I'm thinking about you!!
2013- 2 IVF cycles with PGD to prevent genetic disorder from being passed on. Both BFFN
I'm so sorry you feel this way love. I know our situations are not the same but I've had four losses and I've learned that I'm much stronger than I thought. Its been very difficult to keep going at times but after each loss, we found a way to keep going. I hope one day there is a baby at the end of this long road but I really dont know.
You're not alone hun and im sorry you're going through this right now. We've all been at that point. When I got my dx I sat down with DH n mentioned separating because of all the guilt I felt, even though its not in my hands or any of our hands! You're strong enough to get through this and I hope you find your strength again *hugs*
**SIGGY TICKER WARNING**
Me: 27 High FSH (POF?) DH: 33 Slightly Low Morphology / Married Aug '08TTC since 7/2009 6 rounds of clomid = no luck IVF w/ ICSI & AZH #1 - Jan/2011 = ET cancelled OHSS FET #1 & #2 - March/2011 & June/2011 = Chemical Preg. IVF w/ Half ICSI #2 New RE - May/2012 = BFN! May '12 - Sep '13 - Took A Break Dec '13 IVF w/ Half ICSI #3!!!!! Switched RE Protocol - Lupron trigger/Follistim/Ganirelix/Estrace/Vivelle/Crinone
12/27 - BFP! TWINS! EDD 9/3/14 ...Team PURPLE! 6/27/14 - Emergency C/S @ 30w2d - Baby A 2lb 14oz, Baby B 2lb 11 oz
I'm so sorry girl, I know what you mean... I can't seem to find happiness anymore either. I hope you have started to feel better, hang in there.
Me: 35 low AMH, normal FSH DH: 31 Fair DNA fragmentation test Normal SA TTC: since March 2012
09-21-13 start IVF #1 10-04-13 ER 6 eggs, 6 mature, all 6 fertilized. 3 frozen 10-08-13 fresh transfer canceled due to high progesterone waiting for FET 10-18 started BCP 10-29 baseline appt scheduled 11-20 scheduled date of FET #1 12-2 BFN
3-1-14 moving on to the next step. Switched RE. going to plan 3 IUI cycles while saving for IVF#2
April 2014- IUI#1 BFN May 2014- IUI#2 BFN June 2014 IUI#3 BFN
Taking a break for a while, focusing on our wedding.
I understand how you feel. This is SO hard and it doesn't get easier. I was a big crazy mess this last BFN and felt so helpless. But everyone I know in real life who has gone through IVF has told me to NEVER give up. Take breaks, take time to heal, take time to gear up again but don't give up.
I pray that you will find your path. For me, I have renewed strength by finding a new RE and joining a women's support group in person. You *can* do this, we are all so strong from this journey! xo
I know how you feel. Its like we are doing all of this (see my long siggy or failures) and its all for the hope that MAYBE it will work. Its physically and emotionally draining. Yes our DHs have a part in it but the main responsibility falls on us. We are the ones who are being stuck by needles and have gone through countless procedures. My DH is supportive and believes something will work one day. I am not so sure but I will keep on trying even if there is a small possibility that I will have a baby. To me I can't imagine my life without a child. I think everyone needs breaks from this. I have had 3 failed transfers within the last few months so I am officially on a break. I need a break from the crazy IF brain. You are not old at all! Take time to take care of yourself and enjoy life. I always feel bad for myself but then see all these tragedies on the news and think if IF is my thing at least thats all I have, so many people have way worse.
Hang in there.
***SIGGY WARNING***
DX: Unexplained
6 Failed IUIs (Clomid and Gonal F).
IVF #1 began August 2013- BC, 4 days of Estrace, stimmed with Gonal F and Menopur, Ganirelix, 9R 5M 5F, Medrol and Doxycycline, 5 day transfer of 2 early blastocysts- good quality, Progesterone, Estrace, and baby aspirin, BETA on 9/20 BFN, IVF #2 began September 2013, stimming with Gonal F (higher dose) and Menopur, Ganirelix, 18R 14M 9F with ICSI, 5 day transfer of 2 BBs one was starting to hatch, 2 frosties: 1 BB and 1 AC, BETA on 10/21, BFN BETA was a 5- chemical
Getting some more testing and trying to figure out what the issue is before FET in December, started acupuncture on 11/10, RLP and some other BW nothing major to report except slightly high Prolactin. Prolactin was slightly high when I started with my RE and I already had an MRI which was Neg. Endo biopsy=negative. WTF is wrong with us???
12/18/13 FET of 1 BB and 1 AC. Hoping for a miracle. Beta 12/26 Low BETA-8 2nd BETA 5- chemical
After 3 failed transfers IDK where to go from here. Still no real answers as to why this isn't working. Getting a second opinion in February and looking into immune testing.
2/14- NEW RE- Immune testing showed a partial dq alpha match with DH- On prednisone and did intralipids prior to transfer. 3/14 Lupron, gonal f, menopur, HGH. ER 15 mature all 15 fertilized! 5dt of an early blast grade 1 and an expanded blast grade 2. BETA on 4/21. 1 grade 2 embryo frozen BETA #1 59 BETA #2 148 BETA #3 283 BETA #4 2,783! US at 6w2d shows 1 bean measuring right on track! HR 121. US at 8w3d measuring on track HR 177. Released form my RE. EDD 12/28
I am so sorry. I have the same thoughts and feelings sometimes. I am so ready to move on with my life without children instead of being stuck in this purgatory of not knowing what is going to happen to me. I am just sad all the time and feel like this is just slowly sucking my joy for life out of me. DH just doesn't get it sometimes. He feels like it is going to work, like I am being too negative, like we should do whatever it takes to get a baby and me? I am just tired. I wake up in the morning exhausted from life. I dreamt last night that I was pregnant and woke up to remember that I am not. Your feelings are totally normal and if you really think that calling it quits is the right decision for you, I think all of us here understand that completely. :::huge hugs to you:::
So sorry you're feeling this way, sweets. As we know IF sucks in many many ways and you have every right to have these feelings. I hope you find some peace even for a little while. Until then feel free to vent away. We all need it sometimes. xo
@O2girl - if I gave up after ivf #1 (and I didn't even get any frosties that time around or even the next time around) I wouldn't have had my beautiful son. Trust me, it's worth the physical and emotional pain when it finally works. I switched my RE after #1 and it made all the difference. Maybe you need a second opinion? Hang in there, my friend, and go easy on yourself.
IVF #2. 7/12 - 18 days of stims, 3 mature eggs, 3 fertilized (ICSI), 3 transferred (9, 8, 7 cell) on day 3. First beta - 8/21/12 = 105, beta #2 - 8/23/12 = 268, beta #3 - 8/30/12 = 2,352. 2nd u/s - 9/4/12. Baby Boy born 5/1/2013.
IVF #3 Now (12/13). AMH is very low - 0.19. ER (12/5) 12 eggs, 10 mature, 7 fertilized using ICSI. 3 transferred (8,8,8 cell - all grade 2) on day 3. First beta - 12/21/13 = 126, beta #2 - 12/23/13 = 400, beta #3 - na (office was closed for new year's). First sonogram - TWINS aka OMG! -
Thanks ladies... I'm going to do my next FET....however, I don't have any hope that it will even work. I'm very discouraged about the whole process and while I try to be optimistic, I realize I don't even come close to being optimistic.
Me: 38 DX: Adenomyosis, Compounded MTHFR, PAI-1 4G variant DH: 34 MFI due to Testicular Cancer
Married March 2012 IVF w/ICSI #1 10 little polar bears FET #1 with 2 polar bears ~Nov 6, 2013 BFN FET # 2 with 2 more polar bears ~March 19, 2014 BFP!!! Beta 1= 276 Beta 2= 662 4/19/14 ~ baby A became an angel 5/02/14 ~ baby B became an angel 5/3/14 ~ D&C FET #3 with 1 male polar bear ~October 3, 2014 October 13, 2014 ~ BFN Fur Children: Memphis 3y, Dutch 3y, Marcel 2y, Meadow 1y
January 2015 Siggy Challenge TTCAL Animals Interacting with Snow
Hang in there girl! I know the sad and negative feelings all to well! Hoping your next cycle brings you your LO!!!!we are here to be positive for you!
TTC 2 years- Me and DH (28) with (severely) low sperm count- less than 40 total (last 2 SA showed only 5 and 6 sperm each) IVF #1: ER 1/23/13- 4 eggs retrieved,
3 eggs fertilized; ET with 1 embryo 1/28/13
2 frosties
beta #1 2/5 was 4.8- beta #2 2/7 3.5; BFN
FET #1- transferred one beautiful 4AA embie. Praying this is my take home baby. Beta 5/7/13- BFFN!!!
IVF #2: ER 7/17/13: 6R/3F- transferred 1 blast and 1 10 cell embryo 5dt. Beta hell. #1 2.5, #2 2.2- BFFFN! REALLY? IVF #3: ER 12/1 and only 2 retrieved. 1 fertilized with ICSI. Was planning on transferring one fresh and one frozen....fresh was only 14 cells at day 5...CANCELLED and devastated due to 5cm blood filled cyst in ovary and blood in uterus. IVF #4: Antagonist protocol with endometrial scratch day one of stims. ER 4/21: 6R/4M/3F- transferred 2 beautiful blasts (5dt) and one was hatching! No frosties but hoping we won't need it! Beta 5/4/14- 444(8dp5dt), Beta #2 10dp5dt 1002! THIS HAS GOT TO BE IT!!!!!!!!!! First US 5/15 we saw two of the most beautiful gestational and yolk sacs I have ever seen! ****FINALLY PREGNANT WITH DI/DI TWINS!!!!!!!
BRINLEY AND RILEY LONG. Born November 20, 2014 at 32 wks 3 days. 4lbs7oz and 4lbs5oz. 1 month NICU time for "B's" and growing and feeding. Now healthy, thriving, beautiful little girls! pg
Hang in there sweetie. You're almost halfway done the Lupron therapy! It's a wait, but hopefully it will be so worth it. We are here for you!
TTC since May 2012 Me: 32 H: 31
DX: MFI-Very Low Count, I have Hashimotos.
IVF prep September 2013 cancelled due to Ovarian Cyst IVF #1 October 2013 Antagonistic Protocol with ICSI ER 10/31/13 (18R 16M 11F- 6 blasts to freeze) ET delayed due to OHSS FET scheduled for July 8. Delayed due to a crazy high TSH (it had been under control for YEARS!) FET #1 8/5/14 sET BFN
Your frustration definitely resonates with me. This is a hard road to follow. I know that it will all be worth it at the end if and only if we get to take home that precious baby. I also think it is important to set some "end points" for this process, and by "end points" I refer to when to pull the plug. DH and I have already set ours. I know that I am not strong enough to keep on at this for an indefinite amount of cycles, as after our first MC/CP I went into a deep sadness and turned really bitter. I am slowly coming back to my old self but it hasn't been easy. Right now I am taking care of me and doing things for me and fully embracing being a DINK until we decide it is time to get into this IUI and/or IVF bandwagon again.
I hope you find some happiness and peace in these 3 months of forced rest. Perhaps you will find time to build that enclosure for the goats you have been longing for.
*Losses mentioned*
Me: 34 DH:32
TTC #1 since Dec 2011
HSG = tubes clear, bicornuate or septate ute; MRI= severe arcuate uterus no septum seen
SA #1 low count, low morph; SA#2 4% Morph, count OK SA#3 july 2014= NORMAL!!!
9/2013 IUI#1 w/Clomid 100mg = over response; cycle converted to cryoocyte IVF
IVF #1: 9/15 ER= 9 mature eggs, all eggs made it thru vitrification
10/23 ICSI 6 fertilized; 10/28 5dt of two morulas. Hold on to me babies, stick, stick, stick!!
11/6 BFP EDD 7/14/14 Beta #1= 18; 11/9 Beta #2= 44.8; 11/12 Beta #3= 7 = Early loss @4w6d. No frosties
Feb 2014 Hysterscopy = no septum seen ute all clear in the inside
Re: Done!
I say to my DH a lot "we just have to put our heads down and plow through" or "just keep swimming, just keep swimming"
Sending you big hugs and I hope you find some peace and happiness whatever your next steps are.
I am not sure if you are a religious at all but I will include you in my morning prayers tomorrow. I hope you can find some peace sweetie. ((Big hugs))
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
All welcome
Me (35), DH (32) married in May 2013
Dx PCOS 2006 DX hypothyroid 2013
11/2013-Hysteroscopy to remove mystery scar tissue
11/2013 IUI #1 using Femara and Repronex- switched to IVF for too many follies and then cancelled due to lack of growth after more than three weeks of playing with the meds
1/2/14 New doc, new office: Add Metformin 1500mg, Synthroid increased to 75mcg, bunch of OTC supplements
1/28/14 ER # 1 and 2 (yes, that's two ERs in one cycle...long story) 14R, 14M, 12F, 5 made it to blast for CCS biopsy
2/25/14 CCS results in: three healthy frosties!!
4/10/14 FET cancelled due to mucus and lining. Different med protocol for FET 1.2
5/2/14 Transfer of one CCS'd and completely hatched 6 day blast
5/11/14 BFP!!! First Beta 99 5/13/14 Second Beta 170
((hugs)) I am so sorry. I understand where you are coming from and there are times I feel the exact same way or that I just wish DH would be ok with it being us and the fur-babies.
At this point I have been asking myself am I doing this more for him than us since I'm tired of the ups and downs, dealing with all the appointments and insurance and wacky cycles, negatives every month, failed IVM, and I don't want to be a pin cushion anymore. I have given so much blood I think I could feed a vampire for a year.
I told DH, there is only so much longer I will put myself through this because of what it does emotionally and mentally to me and it's starting to take a toll on our relationship, which initially it had brought us closer, it's now making it harder.
Give yourself this time to vent, take a break if you need it and talk to each other.
will be keeping you in my prayers and I hope you find peace no matter what decision you make
Me: 34, DH: 32
TTC Since September 2012
Dx-PCOS, Anovulation, highly irregular cycles
March 2013 Comid 50 mg+ TI #1: BFN
April 2013 Clomid mg + TI #2: BFN
IVM#1 Aug 2012: BFN
20 FEB 2014: CP
IUI #1 Clomid 100mg 24 FEB 2014: BFN
IUI #2 Clomid 100mg 21 MAR 2014: BFN
IUI#3 Follistim & trigger 21 May 2014: BFN
IVF #1 Follistim & Menopur: 14R, 9M, 7F, transfered 2 day 3 8 cell embies
Beta #1: 7/30: 41 Beta #2 8/1: 96 Beta #3 8/4: 796 EDD:4/9/15
All Welcome
Retrieval 9/11/2013 - 31 eggs, 17 fertilized, 3 blasts frozen
I talked to DH about stopping this craziness and he doesn't want to. He says that we only have it one try. I told him that the loss I experienced after our FET feels like it took part of my soul and that if I have other losses it will just keep chipping away at my soul and that I feel like I'm going to end up like a shell of a person if we keep losing babies. I just don't feel strong enough to go through all of this loss; and my DH just doesn't get it.
DX: Adenomyosis, Compounded MTHFR, PAI-1 4G variant
DH: 34
MFI due to Testicular Cancer
Married March 2012
IVF w/ICSI #1
10 little polar bears
FET #1 with 2 polar bears ~Nov 6, 2013 BFN
FET # 2 with 2 more polar bears ~March 19, 2014 BFP!!!
Beta 1= 276
Beta 2= 662
4/19/14 ~ baby A became an angel
5/02/14 ~ baby B became an angel
5/3/14 ~ D&C
FET #3 with 1 male polar bear ~October 3, 2014
October 13, 2014 ~ BFN
Fur Children: Memphis 3y, Dutch 3y, Marcel 2y, Meadow 1y
January 2015 Siggy Challenge TTCAL
Animals Interacting with Snow
I'm so sorry. I hope he can understand or learn to, it took my DH a while to really understand what it did to me and even then he admitted that he still knew that what he saw and felt was probably nothing compared to what I was going through. But at least he started to get it. I hope yours has that light bulb moment and can understand what this does to you.
Praying for strength for you during these 3 months. Only you know how much you can take and how far you can go. And you're right, each loss, each failed cycle just eats away at your soul and your hope. I am always amazed at the what the ladies here can go through, their endurance and how they keep going. I don't think I could keep going as long as some of them have.
In this holding pattern, do as much for yourself as you can and try to put TTC and the next step out of your mind and focus on you. I found these past few months while we have been in a holding pattern, waiting for our new insurance and my body just not working (like usual) that taking back my life prior to IVM and the other IF treatments and stuff really is helping.
Me: 34, DH: 32
TTC Since September 2012
Dx-PCOS, Anovulation, highly irregular cycles
March 2013 Comid 50 mg+ TI #1: BFN
April 2013 Clomid mg + TI #2: BFN
IVM#1 Aug 2012: BFN
20 FEB 2014: CP
IUI #1 Clomid 100mg 24 FEB 2014: BFN
IUI #2 Clomid 100mg 21 MAR 2014: BFN
IUI#3 Follistim & trigger 21 May 2014: BFN
IVF #1 Follistim & Menopur: 14R, 9M, 7F, transfered 2 day 3 8 cell embies
Beta #1: 7/30: 41 Beta #2 8/1: 96 Beta #3 8/4: 796 EDD:4/9/15
All Welcome
BFP #1: 1/4/13, EDD 9/8/13, Missed M/C confirmed 2/8/13, Misoprostol
2013: Three CPs w/ EDDs: EDD 2/10/14, EDD 3/24/14, EDD 6/24/14
IVF/ICSI #1 (Antagonist) - Jan 2014- 19R, 14M, 11F, 3 penguins (6BB, 4BB, 6BC) PGD tested- All Normal!
IVF/ICSI #2 (Antagonist) - Feb 2014 - 23R, 11M, 10F, 1 penguin (3BB) - Another Normal!
FET #1 - March 26, BFN
FET #2- Beta #1 (9dp5dt) -332, Beta #2 (11dp5dt) -1027, EDD 1/30/2015, Missed M/C, D&C 6/19/14
IVF/ICSI #3 (Lupron Down Reg) - Oct 2014 - 38R, 28M, 27F, 20 frozen on day 5, 16 normal penguins!!
FET#3 - February 1, 2015, Prep begins 1/13
All Welcome!
6 rounds of clomid = no luck
IVF w/ ICSI & AZH #1 - Jan/2011 = ET cancelled OHSS
FET #1 & #2 - March/2011 & June/2011 = Chemical Preg.
IVF w/ Half ICSI #2 New RE - May/2012 = BFN!
May '12 - Sep '13 - Took A Break
Dec '13 IVF w/ Half ICSI #3!!!!! Switched RE
Protocol - Lupron trigger/Follistim/Ganirelix/Estrace/Vivelle/Crinone
6/27/14 - Emergency C/S @ 30w2d - Baby A 2lb 14oz, Baby B 2lb 11 oz
DH: 31 Fair DNA fragmentation test Normal SA
TTC: since March 2012
09-21-13 start IVF #1
10-04-13 ER 6 eggs, 6 mature, all 6 fertilized. 3 frozen
10-08-13 fresh transfer canceled due to high progesterone
waiting for FET
10-18 started BCP
10-29 baseline appt scheduled
11-20 scheduled date of FET #1
12-2 BFN
3-1-14 moving on to the next step. Switched RE. going to plan 3 IUI cycles while saving for IVF#2
April 2014- IUI#1 BFN
May 2014- IUI#2 BFN
June 2014 IUI#3 BFN
Taking a break for a while, focusing on our wedding.
Sept 24th missed period! Surprise natural BFP
10-15-14 first ultrasound
06-05-15 EDD
DX: Unexplained
BETA #1 59 BETA #2 148 BETA #3 283 BETA #4 2,783! US at 6w2d shows 1 bean measuring right on track! HR 121. US at 8w3d measuring on track HR 177. Released form my RE. EDD 12/28
DX: Adenomyosis, Compounded MTHFR, PAI-1 4G variant
DH: 34
MFI due to Testicular Cancer
Married March 2012
IVF w/ICSI #1
10 little polar bears
FET #1 with 2 polar bears ~Nov 6, 2013 BFN
FET # 2 with 2 more polar bears ~March 19, 2014 BFP!!!
Beta 1= 276
Beta 2= 662
4/19/14 ~ baby A became an angel
5/02/14 ~ baby B became an angel
5/3/14 ~ D&C
FET #3 with 1 male polar bear ~October 3, 2014
October 13, 2014 ~ BFN
Fur Children: Memphis 3y, Dutch 3y, Marcel 2y, Meadow 1y
January 2015 Siggy Challenge TTCAL
Animals Interacting with Snow
IVF #1: ER 1/23/13- 4 eggs retrieved, 3 eggs fertilized; ET with 1 embryo 1/28/13 2 frosties beta #1 2/5 was 4.8- beta #2 2/7 3.5; BFN
FET #1- transferred one beautiful 4AA embie. Praying this is my take home baby. Beta 5/7/13- BFFN!!!
IVF #2: ER 7/17/13: 6R/3F- transferred 1 blast and 1 10 cell embryo 5dt. Beta hell. #1 2.5, #2 2.2- BFFFN! REALLY?
IVF #3: ER 12/1 and only 2 retrieved. 1 fertilized with ICSI. Was planning on transferring one fresh and one frozen....fresh was only 14 cells at day 5...CANCELLED and devastated due to 5cm blood filled cyst in ovary and blood in uterus.
IVF #4: Antagonist protocol with endometrial scratch day one of stims. ER 4/21: 6R/4M/3F- transferred 2 beautiful blasts (5dt) and one was hatching! No frosties but hoping we won't need it! Beta 5/4/14- 444(8dp5dt), Beta #2 10dp5dt 1002! THIS HAS GOT TO BE IT!!!!!!!!!! First US 5/15 we saw two of the most beautiful gestational and yolk sacs I have ever seen!
****FINALLY PREGNANT WITH DI/DI TWINS!!!!!!!
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Me: 32 H: 31
IVF #1 October 2013 Antagonistic Protocol with ICSI ER 10/31/13 (18R 16M 11F- 6 blasts to freeze)
ET delayed due to OHSS
FET scheduled for July 8. Delayed due to a crazy high TSH (it had been under control for YEARS!)
FET #1 8/5/14 sET BFN