Hi Girls! I haven't posted in a while but I need some non biased advice and know you are the best at that! I will try to make this as short as possible!
I do not have any immediate family members (parents are passed) and so I recently moved across the US to be with my aunt and her 3 children who all have children my DD's age. It has been GREAT! I haven't had family in forever and we have been welcomed with open arms!
The problem is, my cousin's son (my DD is 3, he is 4) keeps doing weird things with my daughter. I caught him at McD's under the slide having her lay down on her stomach and looking down her pants in the back. The same day I caught him doing the same thing in her playhouse. When his mom came to get him, I met her outside to TALK and she blew it off like no big deal. She and her husband have made jokes about it ever since. I didn't let him come over to play after that and vice versa. Then on Halloween we were all at my other cousins and I went upstairs where ALL the children were playing and she and him were in the bathroom and her boots, tights and panties were off! She can't do it by herself but he swore up and down she did it by herself to his mom. I finally told my husband what was going on (he had been stressed out with work so I didn't want to worry him). He was LIVID! Since then, we have kept her away from him but the family got together on Christmas Eve and Christmas. We never let her out of our sight but on Christmas Day, my husband noticed him trying to take her into his room constantly and followed them one time to see what he was up to and he asked her to get under the covers with him. DH grabbed her and told me "We are going!". I moved across the US to be with this family and my husband says that is it, she cannot be in the same house with him for years. I agree, but how do I tell my family? How do I tell my aunt and cousin that I think their son/grandson is inappropriate without them hating me? My daughter comes FIRST and that is why I know I need to keep her away from him JUST IN CASE. My cousin told me he is just "curious" and he has done the same thing with his other cousin from another family (she is older and I think taught him this, but my friends with sons say it is NOT normal. And I'm sorry, but I don't want him being "curious" with my daughter! He has a little sister and I am due for another girl in 2 months. We have a planned ski trip next month and we are going to have to cancel which they will want to know why- we will be giving up $750. I cried all day bc I can't imagine not seeing my aunt (shes like my mom and watches him five days a week so I will never see her without him) but I Just cant risk it going further. ANY advice would be great, just please don't slam me for not doing something sooner. I already feel awful. TIA.