FFFC

tinyhumantoe

thechimichanga said:

I only liked pinot noir and am now favoring cabernets.

i love all alcohol tonight.

i just had some whiskey...and i dont even like whiskey.

You just inspired me to start drinking.

tinyhumantoe

Im pissed at my husband. After having my nieces dumped on me for an insane day, I spent 3 hours packing up all of the shit from my parents' house, cleaning the kitchen, and getting smeared with shit by my terror of a child... All to get in the car and be home by dinner.

I called DH when we were finally in the car... Oh, he was going to his parents to indoor golf with a bunch of friends. He's not coming home tonight. He doesn't think it's weird that he never mentioned it. The only thing he had to say was..."what did you learn today?" He let me babble on and eventually got to his point. "Did you learn you can't handle more than one kid?" Grrrrrrrr. Ima keel him.

He texted me later to say sorry. Just kidding!! His text said "you need to stop and get milk".

Beer beer beer

mrsbhk22

We spent more money on our 8 (!!!!!!) parental types then we did our kids. Ridiculous.

kdsmith43

mrsbhk22 said:

When I mailed our cards at the post office, they failed to mention that they charge extra postage for square shaped cards (even though it was smaller than a regular card). Most went thorough ok. I had 3 returned "postage due". Some were delivered with a postage due envelope.

That's right folks, some people had to PAY 20 cents to receive my Christmas card. Ugh!

Um, this happened with our wedding invitations. Yep.

1fish2fish

mrsbhk22 said:

When I mailed our cards at the post office, they failed to mention that they charge extra postage for square shaped cards (even though it was smaller than a regular card). Most went thorough ok. I had 3 returned "postage due". Some were delivered with a postage due envelope. That's right folks, some people had to PAY 20 cents to receive my Christmas card. Ugh!

This happened to me too!!!

BPer

tinyhumantoe said:

Im pissed at my husband. After having my nieces dumped on me for an insane day, I spent 3 hours packing up all of the shit from my parents' house, cleaning the kitchen, and getting smeared with shit by my terror of a child... All to get in the car and be home by dinner. I called DH when we were finally in the car... Oh, he was going to his parents to indoor golf with a bunch of friends. He's not coming home tonight. He doesn't think it's weird that he never mentioned it. The only thing he had to say was..."what did you learn today?" He let me babble on and eventually got to his point. "Did you learn you can't handle more than one kid?" Grrrrrrrr. Ima keel him. He texted me later to say sorry. Just kidding!! His text said "you need to stop and get milk". Beer beer beer

@tinyhumantoe Me thinks you need to have a come to Jesus meeting with YH. It sounds like he's being a total dbag.

BPer

BPer said:

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tinyhumantoe said:

Im pissed at my husband. After having my nieces dumped on me for an insane day, I spent 3 hours packing up all of the shit from my parents' house, cleaning the kitchen, and getting smeared with shit by my terror of a child... All to get in the car and be home by dinner. I called DH when we were finally in the car... Oh, he was going to his parents to indoor golf with a bunch of friends. He's not coming home tonight. He doesn't think it's weird that he never mentioned it. The only thing he had to say was..."what did you learn today?" He let me babble on and eventually got to his point. "Did you learn you can't handle more than one kid?" Grrrrrrrr. Ima keel him. He texted me later to say sorry. Just kidding!! His text said "you need to stop and get milk". Beer beer beer

@tinyhumantoe Me thinks you need to have a come to Jesus meeting with YH. It sounds like he's being a total dbag.

And also, big hugs. MH has his moments, too.

BPer

BPer said:

My mom did all of our laundry while watching Hannah today, I regret not telling her I was KU sooner. I could have been relaxing for weeks!

How'd you tell them? Did I miss it? We're they thrilled? Your ILs? Details!

I took the pic in my siggy, photoshopped the blackboard so that you could actually read it, and had it made into a Christmas card that they opened with their gifts Xmas morning! My ILs had a hunch, mostly because I hadn't been drunk and obnoxious lately.

MeatballEsq

Ffsc: not directed at @bper because a lot of people have made similar comments to other people when they complain about their DH, but I guess I think ladies should be able to complain about their husbands on here without other people calling him a douchebag. To me, it just makes people less apt to come here and vent because then they feel like they're being judged or they have to defend the same person they were just venting about.

I think saying something like "that's shitty" or "he deserves a good throat punch" is different though too.

tinyhumantoe

MeatballEsq said:

Ffsc: not directed at @bper because a lot of people have made similar comments to other people when they complain about their DH, but I guess I think ladies should be able to complain about their husbands on here without other people calling him a douchebag. To me, it just makes people less apt to come here and vent because then they feel like they're being judged or they have to defend the same person they were just venting about.

I think saying something like "that's shitty" or "he deserves a good throat punch" is different though too.

Good 1!

It honestly didn't bother me at all, zip zilch. But I did almost reply with a defense or explanation because I thought doh, I'm not being fair to DH :-p

Don't get me wrong... he is being a total butt nugget, but of the two of us.... I'm the bigger turd in the toilet 99.9% of the time.

I felt like me portraying him as a jerk is unfair because I'm pretty sure I only vent on here and never praise. I'm sure everyone also thinks he is a dirty nose picker. I mean, the guy doesn't fart around me and is a true gentleman. It was pretty shitty that I said he is constantly picking his nose a couple weeks ago. In my eyes, it felt like all the time.... but it was truthfully because of dry winter air, and I always caught him when he thought he was alone - so he was still being respectful, if that makes sense.

BPer

tinyhumantoe said:

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Ffsc: not directed at @bper because a lot of people have made similar comments to other people when they complain about their DH, but I guess I think ladies should be able to complain about their husbands on here without other people calling him a douchebag. To me, it just makes people less apt to come here and vent because then they feel like they're being judged or they have to defend the same person they were just venting about. I think saying something like "that's shitty" or "he deserves a good throat punch" is different though too.

Good 1! It honestly didn't bother me at all, zip zilch. But I did almost reply with a defense or explanation because I thought doh, I'm not being fair to DH :-p Don't get me wrong... he is being a total butt nugget, but of the two of us.... I'm the bigger turd in the toilet 99.9% of the time. I felt like me portraying him as a jerk is unfair because I'm pretty sure I only vent on here and never praise. I'm sure everyone also thinks he is a dirty nose picker. I mean, the guy doesn't fart around me and is a true gentleman. It was pretty shitty that I said he is constantly picking his nose a couple weeks ago. In my eyes, it felt like all the time.... but it was truthfully because of dry winter air, and I always caught him when he thought he was alone - so he was still being respectful, if that makes sense.

Oh no, I didn't mean to be offensive! You just seem a bit down lately, and it doesn't seem like he's helping matters. I'm sorry!

BPer

Ffsc: not directed at @bper because a lot of people have made similar comments to other people when they complain about their DH, but I guess I think ladies should be able to complain about their husbands on here without other people calling him a douchebag. To me, it just makes people less apt to come here and vent because then they feel like they're being judged or they have to defend the same person they were just venting about. I think saying something like "that's shitty" or "he deserves a good throat punch" is different though too.

"He deserves a throat punch" was my first reaction. But we had a TOS warning on July 14 the other day, prompted by a throat punching discussion. Not that anyone would flag me, but you know.

Hyaline

BPer said:

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Ffsc: not directed at @bper because a lot of people have made similar comments to other people when they complain about their DH, but I guess I think ladies should be able to complain about their husbands on here without other people calling him a douchebag. To me, it just makes people less apt to come here and vent because then they feel like they're being judged or they have to defend the same person they were just venting about. I think saying something like "that's shitty" or "he deserves a good throat punch" is different though too.

"He deserves a throat punch" was my first reaction. But we had a TOS warning on July 14 the other day, prompted by a throat punching discussion. Not that anyone would flag me, but you know.

This may be getting nitpicky, too, but I read "Oh, that was a dbaggy thing to do" or "He's acting like a dbag" as different from "he IS a dbag."  The first two aren't making a judgment on the person, just commenting on how the situation is coming across.

That said, if you vent about someone doing something douchey, I think you should be prepared to hear "Wow, he's kinda being a turdburglar."  (On the same token, you should be prepared to hear "You're overreacting and kinda being a twatwaffle.")

tinyhumantoe

@bper no no no! :-p not offensive at all! You know I don't get offended, especially when you're supporting me :-p I'm sorry I made it sound that way, because I definitely did.

I think what I was trying to say (but didn't) was that *I* feel bad/unfair/guilty when I bitch about my DH because I never balance it.... I really only talk about him when I'm bitching.

I think I used to feel open about my bitching, but now it's more guilt-ridden now because (1) a lot of y'all can see him on IG, which somehow makes it worse that you're putting a face with my venting, (2) I consider you all as friends more than rando internet strangers...so it's not an anon vent session like it used to be, and (3) I am having trouble telling if I am a tsunami of negativity or if I have valid grievances.... If they are valid, they are frequent enough to make me a bitter butthole. If they aren't, God help us all - I am slipping into the black hole of Debbie downerism and need to crawl back out.

MeatballEsq

Hyaline said:

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BPer said:

Ffsc: not directed at @bper because a lot of people have made similar comments to other people when they complain about their DH, but I guess I think ladies should be able to complain about their husbands on here without other people calling him a douchebag. To me, it just makes people less apt to come here and vent because then they feel like they're being judged or they have to defend the same person they were just venting about. I think saying something like "that's shitty" or "he deserves a good throat punch" is different though too.

"He deserves a throat punch" was my first reaction. But we had a TOS warning on July 14 the other day, prompted by a throat punching discussion. Not that anyone would flag me, but you know.

This may be getting nitpicky, too, but I read "Oh, that was a dbaggy thing to do" or "He's acting like a dbag" as different from "he IS a dbag."  The first two aren't making a judgment on the person, just commenting on how the situation is coming across.

That said, if you vent about someone doing something douchey, I think you should be prepared to hear "Wow, he's kinda being a turdburglar."  (On the same token, you should be prepared to hear "You're overreacting and kinda being a twatwaffle.")

No I think that's a valid difference. It was what I was trying to get at in my first post. I think once you move to judging the person and not that act, most women on here that initially vented will feel the need to then defend him.

Eastie156

cheeseandrice said:

I'm jealous of you preglies.  And kind of bitter about not being able to TTC yet.

(I'm still totally happy and excited for everyone, just to clarify! I just wish I could be there too.)

So, so late on the FFFC, but I hear this. I'm jealous and want to start, but it's the logistics of it...