why wait 3months to ttc

heatherfaith

I have my follow up appt tomorrow from my d&c.  I really want to start trying asap..I'm terrified they will say to wait 3 months to try.  It felt like a decade waiting the 2 weeks for this appt.  What reason do they have to say wait 3 months?

farmerswife06

My Doc said we werent going to wait. That he wanted to work with the hormones I still have in my body... What ever that means? I dont quite know how I will feel when I'm starting shots again. But I think I'm ok with it. I mean I wanna get this show back on the road. Even though I'm still hurting so bad for the baby I lost. I think somedays I'm great and I'm ready to start again. And then other days I feel like I'm not mourning the loss of my little one long enough.

heathersf11

My doctor told me to wait three months. Before she told us to wait, she wanted to know how long it had taken us to conceive. It wasn't very many cycles. She wanted my body to have enough time to have at least one normal period. I don't know the rationale beyond that. I am anxious to get started again too, but also want to listen to my doctor. You should do whatever your doctor tells you to do. If you've been having a difficult time getting pregnant they may tell you to start right away. 

Jessy336

Mine told me to wait 2 periods to try. Her rationale was to help build up the uterine lining. She said it would give my body time to recooperate after my d&c.

squeakyfrog15

Three months sounds like a breeze, I was given 5...but probably because I had two miscarriages in 4 months? Anyway sorry for your loss! You will find you may need all three months to grieve! I know it's been almost 4 since mine and I still have spurts of grieving! Good luck to you!

Blackvelvet

This time they ask me to wait until I stopped bleeding.  Last time I was to wait for first period.

redheadscu1

My NP said 2-3 cycles when we first found out and then "a couple" cycles at my follow up appointment. So, I think we're waiting 2 cycles. She said the chances are better if you wait a few cycles, but not to freak out if you do get pg right away, and to keep taking prenatal vitamins. Honestly, I think a lot of medical proffessionals have differing opinions on it. I've heard other people be told to go ahead and try again right away, because you're more fertile the first few months after MC (maybe something to do with all the hormones?)

stefani103

I think some might depend on why you mc. My doctors have said anywhere from 1-2 periods (I've mc-ed at 12wks, 8wks, 5wks).

That said, I know someone that mc and was pregnant immediately after. 

Discuss with your doctor why they think you should wait. It's hard, but I did it because I didn't want my eagerness to put a new pregnancy at risk.

this+gamer+chick

My doctor told me 3 normal cycles to build up the uterine lining. As hard as it will be to wait, I'm going to do it because I want to give my next pregnancy the best possible chance.

kikimeemee

Just saw my doctor last week.  She said new studies show there's no need to wait the 3 cycles, which may be exciting news for some.  But of course I fully respect those that do wait several months.

Mejin215

I had my d&c last Monday and my appt is next Monday so 2 weeks after the d&c. I agree with you saying it seems like forever waiting for this appt even though I still have some spotting. I am anxious to find out how long we should wait bc like you I hope it's not 3 months. 3 years ago I had a d&c and had to wait 3 months and then it took us another 3 months to get pregnant. I have a new dr so I'm not sure what he will recommend.

Allyson25

My doctor also told me to wait 2-3 cycles to build up the uterine lining. After reading some of the comments, it seems that most people who are told to wait are the ones that had a D&C, which I did not, so now I am annoyed that maybe I do not have to wait? Like farmerswife06 said, I just want to get the show back on the road again! I am tired of dwelling on the fact that I am not pregnant anymore. This sucks.

HokieLaw

After my first loss (no D&C), I was told we could start trying again immediately.

After this latest one I did have a D&C and my OB recommended, but said it's not required, at least 2 cycles before trying again to build a new lining on the uterus.  I have a follow up next Monday to discuss it more.  

Squiddly

I was told to wait until after one normal cycle. I really didn't think it was necessary, and she only said it after I asked if we could try again right away (she said "you can wait until after one normal cycle"), but I worried that if I had another m/c that I would always wonder if it was because I didn't wait the month. So we waited.

PinkRoses

I just saw my doctor for my 2 week followup for my d&c today. He said I could start right away - that there was no scientific reason to wait. I specifically asked him about rebuilding the uterine lining, since that is a reason I've seen cited quite often on these boards.

He said that the wait was mainly for emotional reasons - that it would just be too difficult to go through two losses back to back like that if something did end up going wrong. He said that people do get pregnant immediately after a miscarriage - that he has delivered many such babies.

But that statistically the chances of a miscarriage are the same as they always are. He told me that as long as I understand that just because I've miscarried once doesn't increase or decrease my odds of miscarriage going forward, then I can go ahead as soon as I feel ready.

Personally I may wait at least one cycle just because his opinion seems to be in the minority from what I've read on the boards. And god forbid if something did go wrong again, I would always blame myself and wonder if it was because I didn't wait.

Just thought I'd share what he told me, since it is a little different and could be taken into consideration if one so desired.

this+gamer+chick

@PinkRoses it seems different doctors have different opinions. My doctor tends to generally err on the side of caution - she told me running was too high impact during my pregnancy and to avoid it, and advised against lunch meats. She ordered genetic tests after mc#1 even though she originally said she wasn't going to unless it happened twice. She told me the 3 cycles thing to allow the uterus to go back to normal and form a good quality placenta next time (in case the placenta was the problem). Waiting so long will be difficult, but I just want to do everything I can to give my next pregnancy the best chance. I'm sure there is nothing you or I could have done to prevent our mc's. But I am also in the worry/guilt category, especially since I got pg right after stopping the pill after my doc had told me to wait 3 weeks. I didn't expect to get pg so soon...

PinkRoses

I know how you feel. I am CONSTANTLY in the worry/guilt category. But that's my personality and I do that with everything. So something as monumentally important as this - I go into overdrive.

If waiting helps to form a good placenta then I'm all for it!

JessicaG220

@PinkRoses: My doctor said the exact same thing. He suggested waiting 2 cycles for psychological reasons and that the uterine lining doesn't thicken more and more every month. It builds up during your cycle and then if a pregnancy doesn't occur, your period begins and the lining is thin again. Unless you have a medical condition that thins your lining, waiting won't thicken it. I agree with those who have said waiting will ease your mind. I am currently in my first cycle after my mc and we are debating whether to wait.

PinkRoses

@Jessica220 - thanks for posting this. It is reassuring to know that my doctor isn't totally in left field. It's hard to trust someone when what they're telling you is so different from everything else that you're hearing, you know? And I'm in a place right now where I need to be able to trust completely. I think we all are. Thank you again.

And I will try my best to wait.

tumbleweed123

PinkRoses said:

 If waiting helps to form a good placenta then I'm all for it!

I love this sentence!!!!    

Sweetiepops

I asked my OB about this today actually- she said you will get a different answer depending on which doctor you ask, as there is no real science behind it. She had recommended to me that I wait until my first AF post m/c, but she said other doctors will recommend 2 or 3 cycles. Hope that helps.

saramihailovich

My doctor also told me to wait 3 cycles, but she said if I get pregnant before that, it's not a big deal. She said they recommend 3 cycles to give you the best possible chance for a good pregnancy next time.