One angry Stepmom:-(

redcloverbaby

I have a beautiful stepdaughter whom I have raised for most of her life. I am know as mommy and I love her with all my heart.

Her biological carrier (and this is being generous) has pushed my buttons good tonight.

We keep her half of the week but because the other "mom" had her last Christmas we get her this one.

She told my husband when she picked her up (a day late) that should would bring her back tonight. Now she is saying it will be ten tomorrow before we get her.
When my husband offered to come pick her up...this worthless nothing proceeds to say she isn't with her. She refuses to tell my husband where she is...stating when she gets her back she'll bring her by.

We aren't upset that our daughter will be late tomorrow....we're upset because our daughter isn't with her family on Christmas eve! Our four year old little girl is with gods know who when she could and SHOULD be with family.

If she were with her grandmother then we would have been told. The fact that the bitch isn't telling us means she with a friend somewhere.

Its so frustrating....and all we can do is wait until she shows up.

Aaaarrrrggggg! Ok. Phewwww....rant over.

JNerd

I agree about some type of custody violation - not only has she over kept you SD, but she is refusing to disclose the whereabouts and is not with her? Not cool.

redcloverbaby

It was a verbal agreement with my husband...and even if we call the police they will just tell us to file with the court.

I dont know if we have a legal right to know baby's whereabouts when she is with the other "mom". But we will be checking on that monday. If we do...she will never pull this again. Its so frustrating. We will be going to court as soon as we have the money for a lawyer. She is really bad into drugs(but we can't prove it) and we know if we got a drug test she would be history.

We just want our little girl safe and happy.

redcloverbaby

Thanks ladies. We have reported her once....but we live in a high drug county and unless its meth. ..they dont seem to care.

I know that after the first of the year we are going to hit her hard.

Tired of my little girl living like that.

rmjones15

You should definitely get a parenting plan in writing. You can usually do that through mediation and have a judge sign it. That way when this happens, you can call the cops and show them the parenting plan and they will be able to enforce it.

dragonfly711

Oh man. Yeah you have to have it through the courts I believe that you alternate holidays. That stinks. Wow how can she do that to you and to that little girl.

I am so sorry.

LEO2010

So terrible so sorry you have to go through this. I hope she comes back home promptly and safely! I'm sure she will be very happy to be back with her real parents.

Mrs_D_in_KY

Definitely get a parenting plan with specific times and holidays in the agreement. DH's brothers is divorced and his ex wife had to have the kids to him by 7 pm last night. She's not a drug head, but he feels better having everything in a court ordered document.

Definitely check into that when you all have the money. And drug test the mother, you don't want those type of people around your SD. Even if it is her "mother."

flerlgirl

That sucks I'm sorry.

mrsgyaray

We have a similar situation with my dh's ex. In our state though it's really hard to get anyone involved. I'm so sorry you're going through that. Being a SM is a hard job.

redcloverbaby

Just an update. We got her back about nine thirty this morning. We've already decided to take her hide to court so my husband didnt even say anything.

We had a good Christmas morning.

Thank you ladies for your understanding.

MaidMarion25

Did you find out where she was and if she was in a safe place with family? I'm glad you guys had a good Xmas morning though.

megzep

I'm so sorry you went through this. With my son, a stipulation is that DS has to be in the presence of his father when visiting. Even if he has to run to the store, DS has to go with him. Over the years, I've become more relaxed about it but it's great to know the Clause is there. Hope everything worked out ok.

redcloverbaby

We slowly worked it out that she was more than likely with a friend of her mom's. She said she was at "Uncle Paul's house". Hes just a friend and my husband doesn't even know if he has a family or not. It bothers us that our daughter was with a family friend....who may or may not have a female in the home.

Its just to many "ifs".

And she was lethargic all day. Unable to process thoughts or conversation easily. Like someone who is doped up.

This is so worrisome. It kills us that we have to be even a little patient to talk with our lawyer.

But she's safe with us now.

Cherylwang

I would skip the next meeting with her "mom" until you get it figured out. That's sad. Sucks you have to deal with that.

Abenedict2011

Definately get a written agreement in order. It makes life easier, but still no guarantee that the other mom will follow it. I feel ur frustration as I have 2 step kiddos with 2 different moms, and we just won us today off step dye after a year long court battle. My best advice when these things happens is to vent and then try to let it go bc it will literally make u mitzvah and you don't need that now that you are pregnant with your LO. Best wishes.