Emotions after Miscarriage

ImaniO

I had a miscarriage in August and just found out today that we are expecting again. I only knew I was pregnant the first time for about a week before I started bleeding. When it became very heavy, that's when I realized what was happening. I stayed in the tub while my H heated pots of hot water from the kitchen. Faster than waiting for the water heater to fill up again. I did a ton of research while still in the tub on the iPad so I could understand what was happening and what to do. and of course what not to do. But after it all, I didn't really feel any bad feelings toward it. I mean, it hurt physically. I didn't really feel attached to the baby. I didn't hear a heartbeat or see a sonogram. Just 4 pregnancy tests confirming my hunch. And then it was gone. I don't feel like I actually grieved. Did I just get over it that fast? Is that healthy?

Poisonives

First of all, im still sorry for your loss. Everyone has different feelings or experiences in regards to miscarriages or losing a baby. And I respect whatever one feels. This is why the forum is made I guess so we all have an outlet.

KMW08

I'm not really sure what you're looking for here. Only you can decide what's right for you.

Everybody here is fresh from a loss, so your post is not appropriate here.

Since you're pregnant again your posts are more appropriate on pregnant after a loss / 1st tri / birth month board.

KMW08

ImaniO said:

I had a miscarriage in August and just found out today that we are expecting again.
I only knew I was pregnant the first time for about a week before I started bleeding. When it became very heavy, that's when I realized what was happening. I stayed in the tub while my H heated pots of hot water from the kitchen. Faster than waiting for the water heater to fill up again. I did a ton of research while still in the tub on the iPad so I could understand what was happening and what to do. and of course what not to do.

But after it all, I didn't really feel any bad feelings toward it. I mean, it hurt physically. I didn't really feel attached to the baby. I didn't hear a heartbeat or see a sonogram. Just 4 pregnancy tests confirming my hunch. And then it was gone.

I don't feel like I actually grieved. Did I just get over it that fast? Is that healthy?

Just quoting in case of a delete.

KingLED

KMW08 said:

Since you're pregnant again your posts are more appropriate on pregnant after a loss / 1st tri / birth month board.

this.