Baby's ears pierced :(

Alexisgamez105

So dh and I left my two week old baby with his mom for no more then an hour we come back to find out she pierced our baby's ears how would you ladies handle this I cried so much I was so pissed she never once asked dh and I if and when we planned to do so

Alexisgamez105

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Soozerella said:

Holy shit I would be LIVID. I wouldn't let that person watch my kid. Ugh a home piercing. Are you going to take them out? There is no way that was sanitary.

I'm going to take them out but it still doesn't change anything OMg I'm so devastated

Ansleyturner

Oh, we woulda fought. No lie.
Seriously though, completely unacceptable.

Ansleyturner

I'm sitting here fuming for you.
What makes someone seriously think they have the right to do that to someone else's child?!

Alexisgamez105

Ansleyturner said:

I'm sitting here fuming for you.
What makes someone seriously think they have the right to do that to someone else's child?!

I know she seems to think that just because the is raising her two other grand children that she can do whatever she wants with MY daughter and she is so wrong I'm just trying to compose myself before I approach her!

ktox61

Well, I would start out with a throat punch... Seriously, I would beat some serious ass. Just saying.

northport6

I'm SO sorry! This is so crazy!

mh89

I would have lost it. She did it herself? To a fucking newborn? Wow. I'd never let her watch my kid again.

Alexisgamez105

Cashingn2 said:

Alexisgamez105 said:

Ansleyturner said:

I'm sitting here fuming for you.
What makes someone seriously think they have the right to do that to someone else's child?!

I know she seems to think that just because the is raising her two other grand children that she can do whatever she wants with MY daughter and she is so wrong I'm just trying to compose myself before I approach her!

Don't compose yourself, it's easier to get out of legal trouble if you react in the heat of the moment.

So true

grannyweatherwax

The way I would handle it would end up with me in jail. I cannot even process this. What would make someone think that is ok? I'd take the baby to the pedi to check for infection first of all. Then I would give mil the ass reaming of her lifetime. I would also not let her near my kid unsupervised ever again. And also, I'd maybe call the cops on her. There has to be some sort of law about this.

Seriously. What did your DH say? Please tell me he isn't trying to defend her.

Alexisgamez105

Dh did tell her she was wrong for doing so she just put her head down and looked upset as she should feel

jaykay627

@alexisgamez105 Did she really do it herself at home?! Does she have something wrong with her brain?

MrsC731

My jaw dropped reading this and my stomach is in knots for you. I can't believe she did that. I would scream, grab my baby and leave, then never speak to her again.
Did you know how crazy she is before this? I mean this kind of crazy doesn't come out of nowhere. You left her alone with your child?

grannyweatherwax

I hope he told her she was wrong in a very serious manner. Is she normally a rational thinking person? I just can't imagine why she would think this is ok. Have you & DH talked about what will happen going forward? Like, he's not just going to pretend like it didn't happen right?

macadamia03

Wow there would have been no way that I wouldn't have started yelling immediately!! Did you say anything when you saw it? You said you were waiting to compose yourself. There's no way I would have been able to bite my tongue this is insane! I would have started with who in the hell do you think you are and it would have ended with me in handcuffs. You need to set this lady straight!!!

Gapeach83

Holy shit that's beyond messed up. She would never ever be alone with my LO ever. Who in there right mind thinks this would be okay. I hope you and your H gave her a piece of your mind.

grannyweatherwax

Cashingn2 said:

Something has to be wrong with her mentally. Your H and her reaction both make me think of scolding a puppy.

This is what I was thinking. Then I wondered why she would be babysitting at all. I really hope she doesn't babysit anymore.

northport6

I hate to fearmonger in this situation but if she did it herself, you should probably play it safe and consult a pedi about a tetanus shot.

Alexisgamez105

She is never in her life to watch my daughter

CandiP523

If my mom had done this, I would have needed bail money!

Alexisgamez105

I most defiantly I'm cash

FutureMrsCaesar

Yeah that's a sign of a serious underlying issue, if you ask me.   I mean who can even stomach sticking a needle through a newborns ears?  The thought of anything hurting my baby makes me sick and it better be 100% absolutely necessary.  The fact that she had it done without consulting you is bad enough, let alone doing it herself!?  ::shudder::  

Whatever you do or don't say to her, I would not leave your daughter with her unsupervised ever again.  Like ever, ever.

KFED103

Alexisgamez105 said:

She is never in her life to watch my daughter

I hope you and your DH are on the same page about this. In your description of what he said to his mom it doesn't sound like he was as unglued as he should be. Maybe he was it just didn't sound like it.

And please call your doctor ASAP

northport6

Again, I'm so sorry. My heart truly hurts for you to have to deal with this.

tattooedtragedy

I can't even...

I would not have been able to control myself if this were me and my MIL. I hope your DO was not calm and composed when he talked to her and I hope that your LO doesn't have any infection troubles.

cboink

Like PPs have said this is crazy. I would have hurt her. I told my SO about this and he said he would have lost his shit on his mother she had done something like this. I hope you are okay emotionally because I would be a mess. Hugs.

fauxvegan

Wtf??! Yes, do not let her watch your baby ever again. Like othes have said I would have been beyond pissed! I know your H told her something, but you should probably yell at her yourself. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I'm upset myself for you now.

KateVA

Just.can't.comprehend. I would be hysterical in every sense of the word

fauxvegan

Soozerella said:

I'm guessing MIL is Hispanic and just assumed you wanted it done because of the whole cultural thing.

Either that or I'm super racist.

Not that it justifies her actions, but I just doubt she's mentally ill.

Sooz, I'm Hispanic and I definitely don't take that as a racist comment. In fact, I was wondering the same thing. My mom is super upset because DH and I refuse to pierce our daughter's ears.

jy725

OMG! I don't have any advice but I would be so mad I don't think I could trust her with LO.

lilypienmessimy

Holy crap. That's insane. I have no words except that I'm sorry and I really hope there's no infection. Go to the doctor asap.

lp0

riv06marce said:

Soozerella said:

I'm guessing MIL is Hispanic and just assumed you wanted it done because of the whole cultural thing.

Either that or I'm super racist.

Not that it justifies her actions, but I just doubt she's mentally ill.

Sooz, I'm Hispanic and I definitely don't take that as a racist comment. In fact, I was wondering the same thing. My mom is super upset because DH and I refuse to pierce our daughter's ears.

I don't think youre being racist. We're Italian and it's very common in our culture as well.

But this woman grossly overstepped her boundaries. I would have gone crazy and she would never see my child again. Omg I can't even imagine how my DH would react.

OP I agree with Cash. Fuck trying to be calm! She needs to feel the wrath to understand the severity of the situation.

jenohouston

This is insane. This person would not be watching my child again, ever.

peitri

WTAF?! I'm in absolute shock that any family member would do this to someone else's child.

lollipoppoop

Wow I agree I would never ever let her watch the baby again and would hold a grudge until the day I died

Danicali

OMG. First I thought she took her to someone to get it done, which would have pissed me off if she didn't ask. Finding out she did it herself is unbelievable. MIL of the year award coming right up. I would be so angry....

notkateanymore

I'm just not sure how I would react outside of killing her.

cammyisagirlsname

Wow. Just wow.

swirl25

LP0198 said:

riv06marce said:

Soozerella said:

I'm guessing MIL is Hispanic and just assumed you wanted it done because of the whole cultural thing.

Either that or I'm super racist.

Not that it justifies her actions, but I just doubt she's mentally ill.

Sooz, I'm Hispanic and I definitely don't take that as a racist comment. In fact, I was wondering the same thing. My mom is super upset because DH and I refuse to pierce our daughter's ears.

I don't think youre being racist. We're Italian and it's very common in our culture as well.

But this woman grossly overstepped her boundaries. I would have gone crazy and she would never see my child again. Omg I can't even imagine how my DH would react.

OP I agree with Cash. Fuck trying to be calm! She needs to feel the wrath to understand the severity of the situation.

100% all of this. I'm West Indian and it's very common in my culture as well, but it's unfathomable to me that your MIL would think it was acceptable to do that without your consent. Mine (mom OR MIL) would be banned from ever being in the same room alone with my LO if she ever pulled a stunt like that.