We were at the birthday party of a friend on Saturday. We brought Lily's wheelchair since that is her primary mode of mobility. Several things happened that I wasn't sure how to respond to, and I'm hoping someone might be able to give me some suggestions on how to respond in the future.
1). BFF's DS's were utterly fascinated by Lily's wheelchair. DS #1, who is 2.5, kept messing with all the moving parts and tried to push Lily around. Then, DS #2, who just turned 1, started exploring the chair as well. These children are like nephews to me, and they didn't seem to be bothering Lily, so at the time I didn't think much of it. But, now that I'm home, I'm thinking maybe I should have said something to them, because I don't want them thinking a wheelchair is a toy. Or, that it is appropriate to go up and start pushing people who are in wheelchairs. And, I know there is a certain etiquette when interacting with adults in wheelchairs (I.e. don't lean on their wheelchair, don't push them without them asking, etc.). But, I also don't want my friends sons to be afraid of wheelchairs either. I did end up telling DS #1 that he could not sit in the chair. That it was a special chair, just for Lily. But, that's it. Any suggestions?
2). As you could expect, my BFF's family and in-laws were at the party. Well, on more than one occasion someone said "Looks like your going to have to leave the wheelchair," or made a 'joke' about how it was the best present there. Now, maybe I'm just sensitive, but this really irked me. At first, I responded jokingly and said something like, "Well, for the low, low price of $6,000, you can have one too.". Some took the hint, but others didn't. What is the best way to respond to this?
P.s. I might DD this later, as my friend is also a member of the bump.